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Title: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 05, 2018, 11:48:17 AM
My mother is so verbally abusive. Sometimes I want to hate her but then I catch myself and tell myself that she gave me birth , ect. She has four children and neither one of us get along with her.  Is there a better way of dealing with abusive parents? I see some of you post nothing but positive things about your parents but I cannot relate  :plzstop:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: LOONA. on January 05, 2018, 11:49:40 AM
Cut her the fck off     
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on January 05, 2018, 11:50:15 AM
Quote from: Andrais. on January 05, 2018, 11:49:40 AM
Cut her the fck off     
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 11:53:12 AM
People definitely posts mess about their parents here.  My parents aren't abusive but I have standards and stipulations for anyone in my life in regards to how I'm treated and what I'll allow. I don't subscribe to the whole  "it's family, so you gotta deal" thing. If you plan on being a part of my life you'll show me the respect I deserve. I don't disrespect my family or friends so I'll settle for nothing less.  U too can be booted from my life, if that's what you'd like
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 05, 2018, 11:55:26 AM
It's scary though when you hear you own parent like say certain things about you and you're like...  :omgwatshappening:

I pay her bills every month, I buy her things ect.. but she keeps coming for me..  :everythingok:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Kaeli. on January 05, 2018, 11:56:14 AM
tell her 2 stop being a bitch
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: fresh on January 05, 2018, 11:56:52 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 11:53:12 AM
People definitely posts mess about their parents here.  My parents aren't abusive but I have standards and stipulations for anyone in my life in regards to how I'm treated and what I'll allow. I don't subscribe to the whole  "it's family, so you gotta deal" thing. If you plan on being a part of my life you'll show me the respect I deserve. I don't disrespect my family or friends so I'll settle for nothing less.  U too can be booted from my life, if that's what you'd like

Facts!
:lopsided:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Eternal Bell on January 05, 2018, 11:57:55 AM
id firs let my parents kno...like HEY!
lols
u aint gonna be talkin' to me any kinda way

if they ignore me
its cut off time
i have a vry VRY short fuse for negative n combative ppl in real life
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: GRAND on January 05, 2018, 11:59:00 AM
Get rid of her

Being related doesn't mean you have to tolerate disrespect

But have you ever just told her she's...well a BITCH!
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 11:59:18 AM
Quote from: fresh on January 05, 2018, 11:56:52 AM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 11:53:12 AM
People definitely posts mess about their parents here.  My parents aren't abusive but I have standards and stipulations for anyone in my life in regards to how I'm treated and what I'll allow. I don't subscribe to the whole  "it's family, so you gotta deal" thing. If you plan on being a part of my life you'll show me the respect I deserve. I don't disrespect my family or friends so I'll settle for nothing less.  U too can be booted from my life, if that's what you'd like

Facts!
:lopsided:
You know how we be LMAO!!!!!!!
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 05, 2018, 12:00:04 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME PRIME CELESTIAL MARSHALL on January 05, 2018, 11:59:00 AM
Get rid of her

Being related doesn't mean you have to tolerate disrespect

But have you ever just told her she's...well a BITCH!

She a Jehovah's Witness baby ..she thinks she knows everything and is perfect. We have vicious arguments.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Genesis on January 05, 2018, 12:00:53 PM
If you are over 18, what are you afraid of?  :plzstop:

Parents can be wrong too. Just because they gave birth to you doesnt mean you have to give them a pass for being fucked up.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: fresh on January 05, 2018, 12:02:56 PM
Are you under age/ living at home?
If not then I don?t see why this is even a problem. As an adult, no one is gonna verbally abuse me.

If you?re not dependent on her, tell her to straighten up or show her the door.

Period.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 05, 2018, 12:03:11 PM
Quote from: Genesis on January 05, 2018, 12:00:53 PM
If you are over 18, what are you afraid of?  :plzstop:

Parents can be wrong too. Just because they gave birth to you doesnt mean you have to give them a pass for being fucked up.

!!!!!!
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 12:03:21 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 12:00:04 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME PRIME CELESTIAL MARSHALL on January 05, 2018, 11:59:00 AM
Get rid of her

Being related doesn't mean you have to tolerate disrespect

But have you ever just told her she's...well a BITCH!

She a Jehovah's Witness baby ..she thinks she knows everything and is perfect. We have vicious arguments.
Ntw' this is your fault.  U have to have a line that u don't allow people to cross.  U have to teach people how to treat u. If you're going to continue to allow the disrespect then don't whine about it.  Either deal or DONT
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 05, 2018, 12:03:45 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 12:03:21 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 12:00:04 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME PRIME CELESTIAL MARSHALL on January 05, 2018, 11:59:00 AM
Get rid of her

Being related doesn't mean you have to tolerate disrespect

But have you ever just told her she's...well a BITCH!

She a Jehovah's Witness baby ..she thinks she knows everything and is perfect. We have vicious arguments.
Ntw' this is your fault.  U have to have a line that u don't allow people to cross.  U have to teach people how to treat u. If you're going to continue to allow the disrespect then don't whine about it.  Either deal or DONT

True.....
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: LOONA. on January 05, 2018, 12:04:42 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on January 05, 2018, 11:53:12 AM
People definitely posts mess about their parents here.  My parents aren't abusive but I have standards and stipulations for anyone in my life in regards to how I'm treated and what I'll allow. I don't subscribe to the whole  "it's family, so you gotta deal" thing. If you plan on being a part of my life you'll show me the respect I deserve. I don't disrespect my family or friends so I'll settle for nothing less.  U too can be booted from my life, if that's what you'd like
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: United Nations Barbie 🇺🇳 on January 05, 2018, 12:41:55 PM
Quote from: LORD GRAND SUPREME PRIME CELESTIAL MARSHALL on January 05, 2018, 11:59:00 AM
Get rid of her


Being related doesn't mean you have to tolerate disrespect

But have you ever just told her she's...well a BITCH!
Murder?

:ohwow:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: wizzy on January 05, 2018, 01:14:59 PM
Quote from: Andrais. on January 05, 2018, 11:49:40 AM
Cut her 
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: wizzy on January 05, 2018, 01:17:07 PM
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Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: GLOCK on January 05, 2018, 02:20:10 PM
Fuck family LMFAO
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: ya rock muh world. on January 05, 2018, 02:22:39 PM
Based on some of your posts I think it's best you seek professional help.

And that's not even being funny. Doesn't mean you're crazy or anything -  just based on some of the scenarios you've have to put up with recently.  I don't think BSource is going to give you answers you need.

Love you Marq...make sure you take care of yourself. :blush: :blush:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Drogon on January 05, 2018, 03:32:11 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 12:03:11 PM
Quote from: Genesis on January 05, 2018, 12:00:53 PM
If you are over 18, what are you afraid of?  :plzstop:

Parents can be wrong too. Just because they gave birth to you doesnt mean you have to give them a pass for being fucked up.

!!!!!!

Oh nvm

U can pay mi bills abd i luh you long time
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: VirgoMind on January 05, 2018, 04:09:33 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 11:55:26 AM

I pay her bills every month, I buy her things ect.. but she keeps coming for me..  :everythingok:

Well then stop all of this and cut her off for a while. See if she changes her tune.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Eternal Bell on January 05, 2018, 04:12:34 PM
Quote from: glock on January 05, 2018, 02:20:10 PM
Fuck family LMFAO
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Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: b7 on January 05, 2018, 04:14:56 PM
Quote from: VirgoMind on January 05, 2018, 04:09:33 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 11:55:26 AM

I pay her bills every month, I buy her things ect.. but she keeps coming for me..  :everythingok:

Well then stop all of this and cut her off for a while. See if she changes her tune.
ncncncncncn ok?! That?s that

Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Palladium on January 05, 2018, 04:55:45 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 11:55:26 AM
It's scary though when you hear you own parent like say certain things about you and you're like...  :omgwatshappening:

I pay her bills every month, I buy her things ect.. but she keeps coming for me..  :everythingok:

You pay the bills of an abusive person?

Mama or not it's unacceptable.

I wou9ldnt pay shit until her attitude changed..

Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Drogon on January 05, 2018, 05:10:05 PM
Quote from: Palladium on January 05, 2018, 04:55:45 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 05, 2018, 11:55:26 AM
It's scary though when you hear you own parent like say certain things about you and you're like...  :omgwatshappening:

I pay her bills every month, I buy her things ect.. but she keeps coming for me..  :everythingok:

You pay the bills of an abusive person?

Mama or not it's unacceptable.

I wou9ldnt pay shit until her attitude changed..

Yea seems like he likes being tortured
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: United Nations Barbie 🇺🇳 on January 05, 2018, 07:54:56 PM
Wait. She?s verbally abusive AND he pays her bills?

:usureuok:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2018, 08:19:00 PM
who takes parental/family advice from a guttersnipe str8 up out the hood

(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/397880078.jpg)
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Drogon on January 05, 2018, 08:45:37 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on January 05, 2018, 08:19:00 PM
who takes parental/family advice from a guttersnipe str8 up out the hood

(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/397880078.jpg)

Who Lew???
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Rxxf on January 05, 2018, 08:49:34 PM
titles (family, friends, etc.) don't mean shit

connection and respect >
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2018, 08:49:56 PM
Quote from: FM on January 05, 2018, 08:45:37 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on January 05, 2018, 08:19:00 PM
who takes parental/family advice from a guttersnipe str8 up out the hood

(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/397880078.jpg)

Who Lew???

lmao we know who :sevynstreeter:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Drogon on January 05, 2018, 08:53:57 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on January 05, 2018, 08:49:56 PM
Quote from: FM on January 05, 2018, 08:45:37 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on January 05, 2018, 08:19:00 PM
who takes parental/family advice from a guttersnipe str8 up out the hood

(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/397880078.jpg)

Who Lew???

lmao we know who :sevynstreeter:

I'm lost

:shannonsmissing:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 05, 2018, 09:01:26 PM
Quote from: FM on January 05, 2018, 08:53:57 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on January 05, 2018, 08:49:56 PM
Quote from: FM on January 05, 2018, 08:45:37 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on January 05, 2018, 08:19:00 PM
who takes parental/family advice from a guttersnipe str8 up out the hood

(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/397880078.jpg)

Who Lew???

lmao we know who :sevynstreeter:

I'm lost

:shannonsmissing:

Dont worry bout it but yeah not good to take advice from them
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Just Dropped In To See What Condition My Condition Was In on January 05, 2018, 10:33:22 PM
Quote from: Maui on January 05, 2018, 02:22:39 PM
Based on some of your posts I think it's best you seek professional help.

And that's not even being funny. Doesn't mean you're crazy or anything -  just based on some of the scenarios you've have to put up with recently.  I don't think BSource is going to give you answers you need.

Love you Marq...make sure you take care of yourself. :blush: :blush:
stfu curly curls don't make me cut u.  :cmerefag:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: ya rock muh world. on January 05, 2018, 10:36:54 PM
Quote from: Happily Unhappy on January 05, 2018, 10:33:22 PM
Quote from: Maui on January 05, 2018, 02:22:39 PM
Based on some of your posts I think it's best you seek professional help.

And that's not even being funny. Doesn't mean you're crazy or anything -  just based on some of the scenarios you've have to put up with recently.  I don't think BSource is going to give you answers you need.

Love you Marq...make sure you take care of yourself. :blush: :blush:
stfu curly curls don't make me cut u.  :cmerefag:
ojpih8ug79yf68p5deo7i3u

the fuck i dew :guys:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Just Dropped In To See What Condition My Condition Was In on January 05, 2018, 10:47:32 PM
Quote from: Maui on January 05, 2018, 10:36:54 PM
Quote from: Happily Unhappy on January 05, 2018, 10:33:22 PM
Quote from: Maui on January 05, 2018, 02:22:39 PM
Based on some of your posts I think it's best you seek professional help.

And that's not even being funny. Doesn't mean you're crazy or anything -  just based on some of the scenarios you've have to put up with recently.  I don't think BSource is going to give you answers you need.

Love you Marq...make sure you take care of yourself. :blush: :blush:
stfu curly curls don't make me cut u.  :cmerefag:
ojpih8ug79yf68p5deo7i3u

the fuck i dew :guys:
opening ur trap that's what the fuck u did :cmerefag:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Scott. on January 06, 2018, 01:20:08 AM
My stepdad was abusive and I tried to stab him about 6 years ago. The best thing to do is kept your distance.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Drogon on January 06, 2018, 01:42:27 AM
Quote from: Scott. on January 06, 2018, 01:20:08 AM
My stepdad was abusive and I tried to stab him about 6 years ago. The best thing to do is kept your distance.

How did ur mom handle it
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Scott. on January 06, 2018, 12:35:25 PM
Quote from: FM on January 06, 2018, 01:42:27 AM
Quote from: Scott. on January 06, 2018, 01:20:08 AM
My stepdad was abusive and I tried to stab him about 6 years ago. The best thing to do is kept your distance.

How did ur mom handle it
Well she didn't know anything about it for a long time because I kept it from her. But once I told her, she lost it. They aren't together anymore and his son (my little brother) hates him.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: GMF on January 06, 2018, 01:41:31 PM
Don't pay anything for her for a month and that will teach her :kii:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Vonc2002 on January 06, 2018, 02:04:27 PM
Quote from: Scott. on January 06, 2018, 01:20:08 AM
My stepdad was abusive and I tried to stab him about 6 years ago. The best thing to do is kept your distance.
Jesus, ur ghetto :guys:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Nine on January 06, 2018, 03:03:16 PM
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Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 06, 2018, 03:29:51 PM
Quote from: Maui on January 05, 2018, 02:22:39 PM
Based on some of your posts I think it's best you seek professional help.

And that's not even being funny. Doesn't mean you're crazy or anything -  just based on some of the scenarios you've have to put up with recently.  I don't think BSource is going to give you answers you need.

Love you Marq...make sure you take care of yourself. :blush: :blush:

Thank you for your concern. A lot of times I will start topics just to get other people?s input and I may embellish here or there but I?m mainly trying to open up a dialogue about these issues.  I do pretty well in my life and who doesn?t have problems or need a psychiatrist in this crazy world? I can name a few on this board that are legit crazy and it ain?t me .

Luv you too curly curls
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on January 06, 2018, 03:31:35 PM
So are you making parts of this up? No shade but you said you embellish things.
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Hatsumomo on January 06, 2018, 03:32:32 PM
Quote from: Gilgamesh. on January 06, 2018, 03:31:35 PM
So are you making parts of this up? No shade but you said you embellish things.

Not this.... I wish
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: ya rock muh world. on January 06, 2018, 03:35:03 PM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on January 06, 2018, 03:29:51 PM
Quote from: Maui on January 05, 2018, 02:22:39 PM
Based on some of your posts I think it's best you seek professional help.

And that's not even being funny. Doesn't mean you're crazy or anything -  just based on some of the scenarios you've have to put up with recently.  I don't think BSource is going to give you answers you need.

Love you Marq...make sure you take care of yourself. :blush: :blush:

Thank you for your concern. A lot of times I will start topics just to get other people?s input and I may embellish here or there but I?m mainly trying to open up a dialogue about these issues.  I do pretty well in my life and who doesn?t have problems or need a psychiatrist in this crazy world? I can name a few on this board that are legit crazy and it ain?t me .

Luv you too curly curls
knljbu

:blush: :blush: :blush:
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on January 06, 2018, 03:37:48 PM
lol okay..

Well first of of all I'm very sorry you're experiencing this, abuse is horrible but I can only imagine how damaging it is coming from your Mother.

Since you're grown I would encourage you to talk to her about it, maybe invite a neutral family member to make sure it doesn't get heated. If you don't see any changes after that or doing that isn't possible, then you're gonna have to remove yourself from the situation. It doesn't sound like you live at home so it's not like you have to see her regularly anyway. You can continue helping her financially but just keep your distance. 
Title: Re: How to deal with abusive parents?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on January 06, 2018, 08:02:24 PM
see dis is why i keeps it WUN HUNNID