Let's discuss
:nogrammynoneck:
A long term serious mess?
Probably not
Yup. It'll be us against the world
Define "out"
time 4 some mess :ohwow:
Nope.
I like to be out at places/travel/etc and we're not about to act like just "Bros".
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:03:02 PM
Define "out"
Basically, his family (mother, father, siblings) know he's gay
Well...I am
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on October 20, 2015, 07:04:35 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:03:02 PM
Define "out"
Basically, his family (mother, father, siblings) know he's gay
wait... this is different than what's in the title.
I don't date families
I'm sure my sister knows tho from Her slick ass remarks. Damn bitch
I have dated a guy who wasn't out and it was never an issue.
You don't have to shout to the rooftops but you can't be a paranoid mess either.
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on October 20, 2015, 07:04:35 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:03:02 PM
Define "out"
Basically, his family (mother, father, siblings) know he's gay
Well, I guess we could date according to what his relationship with his fam is like.
I don't take guys home to meet my family because they're kinda stupid so...that's not really a deal breaker for me .
But if we're talking about some paranoid hyper masculine queen who wants to tell people I'm his cousin...no thanks
i use to woulda saids no
def' tougher wen u dnt ask these quesions at firs & u fall for them onl' to find out noone but u knows tha real them
my man dnt talk to his fam' an'way so i guess its ok
It's a really touchy subject.
I have a few gay Middle Eastern friends, and one of them just got married about 2 weeks ago. His family are all in Saudi Arabia, and of course they don't know he's gay or else all hell would break loose.
But as his partner it has to feel kinda strange that no one important in his life knows about you at all. Understandably so, but still.
On the other hand I really felt for my Arabic friend. To have such a special day and none of your family is there had to be tough, especially when his husband (who is White) got to dance with his mom and celebrate with all of his family.
It really got me thinking about this.
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:07:13 PM
but you can't be a paranoid mess either.
I just dont see how a guy cant be out and be in a relationship with another guy and not be paranoid... Is it that he doesnt care if people put two and two together?
Quote from: Baphomet. on October 20, 2015, 07:11:20 PM
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:07:13 PM
but you can't be a paranoid mess either.
I just dont see how a guy cant be out and be in a relationship with another guy and not be paranoid... Is it that he doesnt care if people put two and two together?
That's how my ex was. He didn't see the point of announcing he was gay but he really didn't care if he was seen w/ me or engaged in PDA.
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:13:45 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on October 20, 2015, 07:11:20 PM
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:07:13 PM
but you can't be a paranoid mess either.
I just dont see how a guy cant be out and be in a relationship with another guy and not be paranoid... Is it that he doesnt care if people put two and two together?
That's how my ex was. He didn't see the point of announcing he was gay but he really didn't care if he was seen w/ me or engaged in PDA.
See, I could deal with this tbh. Thats how I was with my first BF.
You see us kissing.. What the fuck you think is going on.
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on October 20, 2015, 07:11:07 PM
It's a really touchy subject.
I have a few gay Middle Eastern friends, and one of them just got married about 2 weeks ago. His family are all in Saudi Arabia, and of course they don't know he's gay or else all hell would break loose.
But as his partner it has to feel kinda strange that no one important in his life knows about you at all. Understandably so, but still.
On the other hand I really felt for my Arabic friend. To have such a special day and none of your family is there had to be tough, especially when his husband (who is White) got to dance with his mom and celebrate with all of his family.
It really got me thinking about this.
Now this is a mess. Ain't no way I'm about to marry someone when they're family isn't aware of my existence. :uhh:
I've done it and it wasn't the best experience. But I wrote some great songs due to the situation so I guess it was good for my creative juices lol
what in the k michelle fuck
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Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:05:56 PM
I don't date families
Basically lol I'm not out to my family or have any plans 2 be so it's kinda ideal. No pressure.
no cause it took me a while to come out .. i dont mind a guy who is OUT to most ppl but not family cause thats a different issue.. i am not one of those gays that MAKES you meet your fami
i did have a bf who broke up with me cause he couldnt meet my fam for the holidays.. he cried and cried cause all his friends go to go to their BFS house but he couldnt come eat thanksgiving dinner with my family... i tried to tell him that even if they KNEW that we STILL wouldnt be welcomed .. sighh
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:18:26 PM
what in the k michelle fuck
I use my talent to cope with my heartbreak. Is that wrong? :uhh:
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:23:46 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:18:26 PM
what in the k michelle fuck
I use my talent to cope with my heartbreak. Is that wrong? :uhh:
whats wrong is you thinking that was shade. :uhh: damn bitch
Yeah, I ain't his family lolz
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:03:02 PM
Define "out"
ssssssss
(http://i.imgur.com/yP9yPGk.gif)
"out" is when you ask your Aunt Geraldine to bring you a sweet potato pie for Thanksgiving and she says "bake it yourself phagawwwwwt!" And hangs up
(http://i.imgur.com/yP9yPGk.gif)
If I hadn't came out when I was 16 I probably wouldn't come out now.
Kinda redundant these days.
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:24:46 PM
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:23:46 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:18:26 PM
what in the k michelle fuck
I use my talent to cope with my heartbreak. Is that wrong? :uhh:
whats wrong is you thinking that was shade. :uhh: damn bitch
What is wrong is you cursing at me. I asked a question cause you never know what's shade or what isn't around here
Quote from: Bentley! on October 20, 2015, 07:28:49 PM
"out" is when you ask your Aunt Geraldine to bring you a sweet potato pie for Thanksgiving and she says "bake it yourself phagawwwwwt!" And hangs up
(http://i.imgur.com/yP9yPGk.gif)
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Quote from: Bentley! on October 20, 2015, 07:28:49 PM
"out" is when you ask your Aunt Geraldine to bring you a sweet potato pie for Thanksgiving and she says "bake it yourself phagawwwwwt!" And hangs up
(http://i.imgur.com/yP9yPGk.gif)
:plzstop:
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:09:56 PM
But if we're talking about some paranoid hyper masculine queen who wants to tell people I'm his cousin...no thanks
sssss
What if he stops you outside of the movies and tells you to "butch" it up for his friends, and to leave an empty seat between you and him
(http://i.imgur.com/yP9yPGk.gif)
ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Absolutely. he can come out when he's ready
Im not gonna hide my love for someone forever, though.
Sounds ideal to me :cheerup:
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:09:56 PM
But if we're talking about some paranoid hyper masculine queen who wants to tell people I'm his cousin...no thanks
!!!
there's a difference
Sneaking around can be fun though. Hiding in public, living on the edge. Then going home and fucking like dogs. Like a permanent adrenaline rush.
:flamebroiled:
:heyddy: waits
Quote from: Drais. on October 20, 2015, 07:41:31 PM
Sneaking around can be fun though. Hiding in public, living on the edge. Then going home and fucking like dogs. Like a permanent adrenaline rush.
:flamebroiled:
wow yea
lets try it
:ohwow:
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
:takeallofme:
Quote from: Bentley! on October 20, 2015, 07:37:35 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:09:56 PM
But if we're talking about some paranoid hyper masculine queen who wants to tell people I'm his cousin...no thanks
sssss
What if he stops you outside of the movies and tells you to "butch" it up for his friends, and to leave an empty seat between you and him
(http://i.imgur.com/yP9yPGk.gif)
That's the kind of shit I WON'T do
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:45:11 PM
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
nigger i'll be meeting ur family when im damn good and readys
:nowgorl:
Quote from: RIG on October 20, 2015, 07:48:39 PM
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:45:11 PM
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
nigger i'll be meeting ur family when im damn good and readys
:nowgorl:
j
They don't even know who my friends are
They damn sure don't know who I'm in love with
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:45:11 PM
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
i see this if tha guys fam'ly rlly dnt seem welcomin'
my bf would hafta meet my several younger siblings tho
since im involve in they lives
which is fines
my dad is craz' so nobod' can meet him
but yea for tha mos part
fam'ly like aunts n uncles n shit..nah
fck them lols
sure. I date him not his siblings or parents
I totally understand and respect that you have to come out at your own time. I would never try to force anyone to do that, but if we are going to seriously be together at some point the people close to you need to know about me.
I'm not gonna be tucked away like something you're ashamed of. If you're going to functions of close family & friends I want to be part of that too.
And don't even get me started on your DL ass lying telling me that you're going to your sister's birthday party; only to be laid up with some other fag and using that shit as a convenient excuse because you know I won't question your family commitments.
No fuckin ma'am
This guy used to prepare stories with me on how we met. At work, 3pm, twas a sunny day.. nnnn It was kinda fun tho.
:omgwatshappening: this is turning into cheater mess
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:31:14 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:24:46 PM
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:23:46 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:18:26 PM
what in the k michelle fuck
I use my talent to cope with my heartbreak. Is that wrong? :uhh:
whats wrong is you thinking that was shade. :uhh: damn bitch
What is wrong is you cursing at me. I asked a question cause you never know what's shade or what isn't around here
:hmph:
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:49:21 PM
Quote from: RIG on October 20, 2015, 07:48:39 PM
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:45:11 PM
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
nigger i'll be meeting ur family when im damn good and readys
:nowgorl:
j
They don't even know who my friends are
They damn sure don't know who I'm in love with
Am at your auntie's house right now.
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on October 20, 2015, 07:54:37 PM
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:49:21 PM
Quote from: RIG on October 20, 2015, 07:48:39 PM
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:45:11 PM
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
nigger i'll be meeting ur family when im damn good and readys
:nowgorl:
j
They don't even know who my friends are
They damn sure don't know who I'm in love with
Am at your auntie's house right now.
they're all dead hun
I don't have much family
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 07:09:56 PM
But if we're talking about some paranoid hyper masculine queen who wants to tell people I'm his cousin...no thanks
Just as long as he isn't paranoid. And I don't have to hide in the closet (literally) when his folks or friends visit him.
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:53:55 PM
:omgwatshappening: this is turning into cheater mess
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It's just that with some guys I feel like if you're not even keeping it 100 with your family, at some point I'm gonna wonder if you're hiding shit from me too.
Not saying that about all guys, but definitely some. They get used to lying and hiding. So it just carries over into the relationship.
"Oh, brunch with mom! Hehe!"Meanwhile his ass is laid up with Michael across town.
mays makes a good pnt
cnt keeps it real wit tha folk who raised u how u gon keep it real wit my fruity ass
may fffffv
what kind of tyler perry sub plot
Quote from: ANIMMAI on October 20, 2015, 08:03:27 PM
may fffffv
what kind of tyler perry sub plot
vvvvvcccccccc
!!!
I don't cheat but a lot of people don't know I'm a fag too
I'm sure there are guys out there like he described though
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:54:01 PM
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:31:14 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:24:46 PM
Quote from: SCOTTland on October 20, 2015, 07:23:46 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on October 20, 2015, 07:18:26 PM
what in the k michelle fuck
I use my talent to cope with my heartbreak. Is that wrong? :uhh:
whats wrong is you thinking that was shade. :uhh: damn bitch
What is wrong is you cursing at me. I asked a question cause you never know what's shade or what isn't around here
:hmph:
:sup:
Quote from: SUPREME on October 20, 2015, 07:45:11 PM
I just don't care for family in general
I'll meet yours but I'll probably always be slightly standoffish because I'm not very social
And you're not meeting mine. I'm not that guy.
Has nothing to do with being out though.
!!! basically how i feel now .. the only family i need is YOU :howfestive: