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Title: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:41:39 PM
I once read the reason why it's so hard for gay men to sustain gay relationships is because they never had the privilege of learning how to date living in so much regression while most straight kids are free to experience dating openly so by the time they reach adulthood they have loads of experience, but most gay males only knows how to fuck, for lack of a better word, because they didn't get to date openly like most straight kids do during their adolescence.  What do you guys think?
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Admin on October 21, 2015, 01:42:52 PM
Is the gif in your sig from Planet Terror? Looks familiar
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: LOONA. on October 21, 2015, 01:44:06 PM
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Has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Men in general have this problem.

Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 01:44:09 PM
Hmmm
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 01:46:53 PM
Men lust

Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: MAY on October 21, 2015, 01:50:22 PM
Men are trash, especially Hugo
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 01:50:53 PM
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on October 21, 2015, 01:50:22 PM
Men are trash, especially Hugo

n  :cheerup:
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:53:19 PM
This has nothing to do with lust, Young. This is about why gay men cannot sustain relationships period. Even a lustful straight guy can have a side piece or two and still sustain a relationship whether it's dysfunctional or not. In the gay community, most guys want to fuck you before they even establish a relationship with you. And when you say you want something more, they go cold, why is that?
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Champion on October 21, 2015, 01:54:24 PM
Men are sex freaks. Even the men who are supposedly saving their virginity for marriage or anything regarding marriage crack. Look at the Jonas brothers lmfao and Josh Duggar.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:54:46 PM
Quote from: squid on October 21, 2015, 01:42:52 PM
Is the gif in your sig from Planet Terror? Looks familiar

Yes.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 01:55:23 PM
Quote from: Young on October 21, 2015, 01:46:53 PM
Men lust

!!!

It's hard but if you really love someone you should be able to fight it
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 01:57:15 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:53:19 PM
This has nothing to do with lust, Young. This is about why gay men cannot sustain relationships period. Even a lustful straight guy can have a side piece or two and still sustain a relationship whether it's dysfunctional or not. In the gay community, most guys want to fuck you before they even establish a relationship with you. And when you say you want something more, they go cold, why is that?

Yes it does.

Women don't naturally lust the way men do.

Two men together is catastrophic .
It's really hard to sustain a relationship
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:57:33 PM
This ain't about no damn lust. You niggas don't know how to love because you never learned how!!

By your logic, Young,  I guess fags are doomed? WE might as well get our cats now.  Cuz all we fixin' to be for the rest of our lives is someone's booty call? Well, those of us who still look good well into our years.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 01:59:12 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:57:33 PM
This ain't about no damn lust. You niggas don't know how to love because you never learned how!!

:usuresis:

You sound hurt Hun. But don't speak for everyone.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: CarseyWerner on October 21, 2015, 01:59:40 PM
I think they move too fast, women are generally the brake to the man's gas pedal.  Two guys screw first, then try to get to know each other, next week they're posting pics online and calling themselves a couple, 2 weeks later they're moving in with each other only to break up in a month's time.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 01:59:57 PM
Is it just gay men?
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:00:41 PM
I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years thank u.

And the fags I see going to clubs every weekend looking for hookups and the next hottest boy toy can't hold down a stable relationship because they are so consumed with the desires of their flesh and they lust after ever cute thing they see. Sorry, not sorr' ! LMAO
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:01:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 01:59:57 PM
Is it just gay men?

It's men period.

But when u have two trying to have a relationship,it can be extremely hard and it requires sacrifice and discipline.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 02:02:27 PM
Quote from: Hugo ❤️ Miles ???? on October 21, 2015, 01:59:12 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:57:33 PM
This ain't about no damn lust. You niggas don't know how to love because you never learned how!!

:usuresis:

You sound hurt Hun. But don't speak for everyone.

I am not hurt. This isn't about me personally. This thread was created based off of conversations I've had with other gay men and listening to various podcasts and things of that nature. I will say that dating in the gay community is hard and if I was straight, I'd probably be married with children right now. I think that pretty much says it all.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 02:05:07 PM
Quote from: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:00:41 PM
I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years thank u.

And the fags I see going to clubs every weekend looking for hookups and the next hottest boy toy can't hold down a stable relationship because they are so consumed with the desires of their flesh and they lust after ever cute thing they see. Sorry, not sorr' ! LMAO


Well, you're an oddity love. You can't speak on what hasn't been your experience for quite some time. When was the last time you were out there dating? Exactly.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: CarseyWerner on October 21, 2015, 02:06:13 PM
Lust could be a factor, but that's fixable through communication. I've never met a gay couple in a long term relationship who didn't invite other people into their bedroom / had an open relationship. That's how the majority of them survive
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 02:06:16 PM
Quote from: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:01:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 01:59:57 PM
Is it just gay men?

It's men period.

But when u have two trying to have a relationship,it can be extremely hard and it requires sacrifice and discipline.

Preach Young!
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Miranda on October 21, 2015, 02:13:23 PM
I think it is because we as men can get straight to the point. If you are straight you need to reconsider if you let this puss go, you might not get another one for a while. A man will always find some dick.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:14:11 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 02:05:07 PM
Quote from: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:00:41 PM
I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years thank u.

And the fags I see going to clubs every weekend looking for hookups and the next hottest boy toy can't hold down a stable relationship because they are so consumed with the desires of their flesh and they lust after ever cute thing they see. Sorry, not sorr' ! LMAO


Well, you're an oddity love. You can't speak on what hasn't been your experience for quite some time. When was the last time you were out there dating? Exactly.

I'm sorry, did things change now all of the sudden? Did the genetic makeup of a male change over the last 7 years or something? U sound mad hunny bun.

I'm not missing out on anything . You fags wanna have a lasting relationship but then wanna club hop every weekend and post pics to get attention on insta for other trade to notice you, but then wanna act confused as to why your man is up in the wee hours of the night on Grindr. Men LUST. It's nature Hun.

A lasting relationship for two MEN is extremely tough, but it requires discipline, sacrifice and commitment. My guy and I have pretty much dropped the club scene, social media, and any other lustful setting/environment.

The key is treating it like any other working, normal relationship.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 02:15:02 PM
Quote from: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:01:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 01:59:57 PM
Is it just gay men?

It's men period.

But when u have two trying to have a relationship,it can be extremely hard and it requires sacrifice and discipline.

I agree
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: hewritez on October 21, 2015, 02:15:31 PM
Aside from the obvious: that all men are lustful.

There's also another point to consider. The average man, gay or straight, isn't as capable of maintaining steady relationships the way women do. We're distracted. We're immature. We get bored. It's not in our biological makeup. In nature, males are programmed to scatter their seed all over the place. It's usually women who hold men down and keep the relationship going, through sacrifice and patience.

Eliminate the woman and you have a big fucking mess.

That's not to say it doesn't work. It just takes more effort to make it work IMO.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 02:16:15 PM
Oh my last relationship was 7-8 yrs. We didn't invite anyone else into our bedroom. That's not a requirement for longevity.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:16:55 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 21, 2015, 02:15:31 PM
Aside from the obvious: that all men are lustful.

There's also another point to consider. The average man, gay or straight, just isn't as capable of maintaining steady relationships the way women do. We're distracted. We're immature. We get bored. It's not in our biological makeup. In nature, males are programmed to scatter their seed all over the place. It's usually women who hold men down and keep the relationship going, through sacrifice and patience.

Eliminate the woman and you have a big fucking mess.

That's not to say it doesn't work. It just takes alot more effort to make it work IMO.

!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:17:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 02:16:15 PM
Oh my last relationship was 7-8 yrs. We didn't invite anyone else into our bedroom. That's not a requirement for longevity.

Right. I saw that and was like.. :udontlookok:
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Admin on October 21, 2015, 02:19:33 PM
Quote from: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:00:41 PM
I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years thank u.
Yass! Proud of u :traciandchelle:
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: CarseyWerner on October 21, 2015, 02:19:57 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 21, 2015, 02:15:31 PM
Aside from the obvious: that all men are lustful.

There's also another point to consider. The average man, gay or straight, isn't as capable of maintaining steady relationships the way women do. We're distracted. We're immature. We get bored. It's not in our biological makeup. In nature, males are programmed to scatter their seed all over the place. It's usually women who hold men down and keep the relationship going, through sacrifice and patience.

Eliminate the woman and you have a big fucking mess.

That's not to say it doesn't work. It just takes more effort to make it work IMO.
Also you're eliminating the other incentives a lot of men stay with women: She's the mother of his children, She's a good look on his arm, His family adores her. None of those are there with a man so it's very easy to jump ship
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: pCj on October 21, 2015, 02:19:59 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 02:02:27 PM
Quote from: Hugo ❤️ Miles ???? on October 21, 2015, 01:59:12 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:57:33 PM
This ain't about no damn lust. You niggas don't know how to love because you never learned how!!

:usuresis:

You sound hurt Hun.

I am.
:cheerup:
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Gilgamesh. on October 21, 2015, 02:20:05 PM
Quote from: CarseyWerner on October 21, 2015, 01:59:40 PM
I think they move too fast, women are generally the brake to the man's gas pedal.  Two guys screw first, then try to get to know each other, next week they're posting pics online and calling themselves a couple, 2 weeks later they're moving in with each other only to break up in a month's time.


Nnnnn but!!!
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Young on October 21, 2015, 02:23:06 PM
Quote from: CarseyWerner on October 21, 2015, 02:19:57 PM
Quote from: hewritez on October 21, 2015, 02:15:31 PM
Aside from the obvious: that all men are lustful.

There's also another point to consider. The average man, gay or straight, isn't as capable of maintaining steady relationships the way women do. We're distracted. We're immature. We get bored. It's not in our biological makeup. In nature, males are programmed to scatter their seed all over the place. It's usually women who hold men down and keep the relationship going, through sacrifice and patience.

Eliminate the woman and you have a big fucking mess.

That's not to say it doesn't work. It just takes more effort to make it work IMO.
Also you're eliminating the other incentives a lot of men stay with women: She's the mother of his children, She's a good look on his arm, His family adores her. None of those are there with a man so it's very easy to jump ship

Now this is something to consider also.

It's much easier to jump ship in a gay relationship (if kids aren't involved)
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: hewritez on October 21, 2015, 02:27:49 PM
!!! @ the mother of his children part.

Women have a way of completing a man, making his life whole. They take care of him, stroke his ego, give him sex, give him children, a life, a home.

A man may cheat on his wife but he will think long and hard before leaving her, and will do anything in his power to keep her from leaving. Because when the wife leaves she takes everything with her.
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Plank on October 21, 2015, 02:32:38 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:57:33 PM
This ain't about no damn lust. You niggas don't know how to love because you never learned how!!


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Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Plank on October 21, 2015, 02:33:40 PM
ure damns craz'
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 02:36:21 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:33:40 PM
ure damns craz'

What does the tranny think?
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Plank on October 21, 2015, 02:38:47 PM
think u can come lick my coochie faggot
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 02:40:28 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:38:47 PM
think u can come lick my coochie faggot


Coochie? You fuckin wish. No matter what you do, at the end of the day you're still a MAN!
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Zankou. on October 21, 2015, 02:42:32 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 02:16:15 PM
Oh my last relationship was 7-8 yrs. We didn't invite anyone else into our bedroom. That's not a requirement for longevity.

!!!

In fact it's a recipe for disaster IMO
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Plank on October 21, 2015, 02:45:10 PM
Quote from: Hugo ❤️ Miles ???? on October 21, 2015, 02:40:28 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:38:47 PM
think u can come lick my coochie faggot


Coochie? You fuckin wish. No matter what you do, at the end of the day you're still a MAN!

sdrfghjnmtfgvbhnm


def' r'porting this shit
transphobe
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Hugo on October 21, 2015, 03:06:29 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:45:10 PM
Quote from: Hugo ❤️ Miles ???? on October 21, 2015, 02:40:28 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:38:47 PM
think u can come lick my coochie faggot


Coochie? You fuckin wish. No matter what you do, at the end of the day you're still a MAN!

sdrfghjnmtfgvbhnm


def' r'porting this shit
transphobe

Nasty thing
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: SUPREME on October 21, 2015, 04:20:55 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:38:47 PM
think u can come lick my coochie faggot
SSSSSSSSSS
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: SUPREME on October 21, 2015, 04:21:25 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:45:10 PM
Quote from: Hugo ❤️ Miles ???? on October 21, 2015, 02:40:28 PM
Quote from: Plankesha on October 21, 2015, 02:38:47 PM
think u can come lick my coochie faggot


Coochie? You fuckin wish. No matter what you do, at the end of the day you're still a MAN!

sdrfghjnmtfgvbhnm


def' r'porting this shit
transphobe
ssssssssssssssddd
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: RekeRig on October 21, 2015, 04:23:09 PM
It's even harder for some gays to be friends

SOME.  Especially if there's an attraction there. So frustrating
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: RekeRig on October 21, 2015, 04:26:24 PM
Quote from: Bulldagger on October 21, 2015, 01:53:19 PM
This has nothing to do with lust, Young. This is about why gay men cannot sustain relationships period. Even a lustful straight guy can have a side piece or two and still sustain a relationship whether it's dysfunctional or not. In the gay community, most guys want to fuck you before they even establish a relationship with you. And when you say you want something more, they go cold, why is that?
again, that's men in general :dead: you don't see women complain about this very same thing all the time?
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: RekeRig on October 21, 2015, 04:35:06 PM
Quote from: Zankou. on October 21, 2015, 02:42:32 PM
Quote from: Kurama on October 21, 2015, 02:16:15 PM
Oh my last relationship was 7-8 yrs. We didn't invite anyone else into our bedroom. That's not a requirement for longevity.

!!!

In fact it's a recipe for disaster IMO
right. Someone's gonna feel some type of way no matter what. Especially if you peep some sort of chemistry between the two  :uhh:

Then the niggas end up hitting each other up for a lil' one on one
mess I bet.  No sir
Title: Re: Why is it so hard for gay men to sustain relationships?
Post by: Barbie Dangerous on October 21, 2015, 04:43:46 PM
Quote from: Drais. on October 21, 2015, 01:44:06 PM
f

Has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Men in general have this problem.

Wow, yeah. Men are just big... whores. Yeah that's it. WHORES.
:ohwow: