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Title: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: b7 on June 20, 2019, 10:21:10 AM
This is more in depth than a buzzfeed type of mess. pretty interesting, i had to read each option carefully

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/5cf7fbe81eba640014ba8148


Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: b7 on June 20, 2019, 10:22:59 AM
I got:
MODERN MONOGAMOUS -

Quote"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on June 20, 2019, 10:24:56 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 20, 2019, 10:22:59 AM
I got:
MODERN MONOGAMOUS -

Quote"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!

I love this. This is where im at.


Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: b7 on June 20, 2019, 10:29:14 AM
Quote from: Faux Darius. on June 20, 2019, 10:24:56 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 20, 2019, 10:22:59 AM
I got:
MODERN MONOGAMOUS -

Quote"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!

I love this. This is where im at.
!!!!  Babe.


I have no problem committing, but the whole "let's fight for this" mess ain't happening to an extent. If you fuck me over or remain stagnant, i have no problem dipping
n
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on June 20, 2019, 10:36:36 AM
Question 10 is kinda hard... sdxxx
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: b7 on June 20, 2019, 10:42:20 AM
Quote from: Trey on June 20, 2019, 10:36:36 AM
Question 10 is kinda hard... sdxxx
sdddd i think I'm a healthy combination of the first two, but mostly secure.

(https://i.postimg.cc/3JDkV7s6/094196-A1-78-EA-4-AAF-AF57-D435342835-A9.jpg)

(https://i.postimg.cc/hGKhXmXW/37-FB25-D3-D7-A9-4020-8-D91-C3-B9-A03-EB748.jpg)
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: CHOKE on June 20, 2019, 10:43:06 AM
Not taking a quiz

My ideal mess is an open one

where if we mess we don't hide it or lie about it

It would transcend sex we would be like brothers, friends or cousins we would be that close and in sync
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: b7 on June 20, 2019, 10:44:02 AM
Quote from: The Mad Choke on June 20, 2019, 10:43:06 AM
Not taking a quiz

My ideal mess is an open one

where if we mess we don't hide it or lie about it

It would transcend sex we would be like brothers, friends or cousins we would be that close and in sync
nnnnn that option was there

Only 10 questions too
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Stunna Gor’ on June 20, 2019, 10:45:03 AM
I got Modern Monogamist. Pretty accurate. Lol



"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time." 
-Esther PerelYou are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!Modern monogamy is the most popular form of coupling and one that is depicted most often in media. BUT, don't fall into the trap of taking this for granted by assuming everyone has the same relationship structure goals as you. It is still extremely essential to emphasize not just how important fidelity is to you, but also to explain why it is uniquely necessary for you to love and feel loved.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kurama on June 20, 2019, 11:07:16 AM
Modern Monog'
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: African Queen on June 20, 2019, 11:50:23 AM
Serial non-committed dating

You love the idea of what a committed relationship can provide: friendship, comfort, shared history, shared beds, frequent communication and some level of partnership. BUT, you're not quite ready (or entirely in to) the accountability, exclusivity and pressure that a formal commitment comes with.

Unlike someone who is into casual dating - you do want your partner's to rely on you and vice versa to some extent, but not in the full way that you perceive a formal relationship would. You're not actively searching for new partners, but you enjoy the idea that you can engage at will without having to consult with anyone else.

In short you're looking for a medium-level of commitment without a high-level of accountability with a preference for mid-term partners. For you to exist in your sweet spot, managing expectations is going to be essential. And not just in the beginning of the connection when you say "I'm not looking for anything too serious right now," but all the way through. You're giving people the relationship experience without wanting the title, which is awesome because you do prioritize your relationships in many meaningful ways, but not necessarily in the traditional ways. This can be confusing for some so be open to having the relationship status chat frequently.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kalifornia. on June 20, 2019, 11:58:53 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 20, 2019, 10:22:59 AM
I got:
MODERN MONOGAMOUS -

Quote"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!

I got this one too
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kaeli. on June 20, 2019, 12:36:39 PM
Serial Non committed dating

QuoteYou love the idea of what a committed relationship can provide: friendship, comfort, shared history, shared beds, frequent communication and some level of partnership. BUT, you're not quite ready (or entirely in to) the accountability, exclusivity and pressure that a formal commitment comes with.

Unlike someone who is into casual dating - you do want your partner's to rely on you and vice versa to some extent, but not in the full way that you perceive a formal relationship would. You're not actively searching for new partners, but you enjoy the idea that you can engage at will without having to consult with anyone else.

In short you're looking for a medium-level of commitment without a high-level of accountability with a preference for mid-term partners. For you to exist in your sweet spot, managing expectations is going to be essential. And not just in the beginning of the connection when you say "I'm not looking for anything too serious right now," but all the way through. You're giving people the relationship experience without wanting the title, which is awesome because you do prioritize your relationships in many meaningful ways, but not necessarily in the traditional ways. This can be confusing for some so be open to having the relationship status chat frequently.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 12:56:43 PM
Quote from: The View on June 20, 2019, 11:50:23 AM
Serial non-committed dating

You love the idea of what a committed relationship can provide: friendship, comfort, shared history, shared beds, frequent communication and some level of partnership. BUT, you're not quite ready (or entirely in to) the accountability, exclusivity and pressure that a formal commitment comes with.

Unlike someone who is into casual dating - you do want your partner's to rely on you and vice versa to some extent, but not in the full way that you perceive a formal relationship would. You're not actively searching for new partners, but you enjoy the idea that you can engage at will without having to consult with anyone else.

In short you're looking for a medium-level of commitment without a high-level of accountability with a preference for mid-term partners. For you to exist in your sweet spot, managing expectations is going to be essential. And not just in the beginning of the connection when you say "I'm not looking for anything too serious right now," but all the way through. You're giving people the relationship experience without wanting the title, which is awesome because you do prioritize your relationships in many meaningful ways, but not necessarily in the traditional ways. This can be confusing for some so be open to having the relationship status chat frequently.

This is what I got

On some of the questions I didn't agree with any of the answers though so I ended up just choosing whatever was closest to how I personally felt. That probably affected my results.

I'm not actively searching for a relationship, but if I meet someone and the connection is there I'm not afraid to commit. Right now I'm just focusing on becoming the best version of myself possible. If someone comes along that's fine...and if they don't, that's fine too.     

Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 01:06:27 PM
I agree more with the modern monogamous mess.

I don't even like to date 


:udontlookok:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: 🦚 on June 20, 2019, 01:25:02 PM
Modern monogamous

"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!

Modern monogamy is the most popular form of coupling and one that is depicted most often in media. BUT, don't fall into the trap of taking this for granted by assuming everyone has the same relationship structure goals as you. It is still extremely essential to emphasize not just how important fidelity is to you, but also to explain why it is uniquely necessary for you to love and feel loved.

Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kalifornia. on June 20, 2019, 01:26:25 PM
Quote from: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 01:06:27 PM
I agree more with the modern monogamous mess.

I don't even like to date 


:udontlookok:

You can't sit with us babe. Now go enjoy your open thotty mess.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kaeli. on June 20, 2019, 01:27:30 PM
Quote from: Kalifornia on June 20, 2019, 01:26:25 PM
Quote from: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 01:06:27 PM
I agree more with the modern monogamous mess.

I don't even like to date 


:udontlookok:

You can't sit with us babe. Now go enjoy your open thotty mess.
excuse me? :holdupguys:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 01:28:34 PM
Quote from: Kalifornia on June 20, 2019, 01:26:25 PM
Quote from: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 01:06:27 PM
I agree more with the modern monogamous mess.

I don't even like to date 


:udontlookok:

You can't sit with us babe. Now go enjoy your open thotty mess.

You're a certified WHORE hun.     
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on June 20, 2019, 01:48:22 PM
Quote from: Bronx NY Gangsta B on June 20, 2019, 01:25:02 PM
Modern monogamous

"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!

Modern monogamy is the most popular form of coupling and one that is depicted most often in media. BUT, don't fall into the trap of taking this for granted by assuming everyone has the same relationship structure goals as you. It is still extremely essential to emphasize not just how important fidelity is to you, but also to explain why it is uniquely necessary for you to love and feel loved.

:sistas:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kalifornia. on June 20, 2019, 01:53:07 PM
Damns. Drais & Kae are sluts, huh?

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Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Blamblam on June 20, 2019, 02:03:51 PM
I got modern monogamist.It felt like this quiz is very pro-poly and the answers were framed in a way to make it seem like you either want to see your partner free and happy with other people or you're a jealous degenerate. :shannonsmissing:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on June 20, 2019, 02:08:19 PM
Quote from: Blamblam on June 20, 2019, 02:03:51 PM
I got modern monogamist.It felt like this quiz is very pro-poly and the answers were framed in a way to make it seem like you either want to see your partner free and happy with other people or you're a jealous degenerate. :shannonsmissing:
fdfdfdfdfddf

:holdupguys: I get what you're saying
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: BAPHOMET. on June 20, 2019, 02:13:31 PM
I like soooo many different types of guys/personalities I just dont think its fair to myself to try to STICK with one person if im gravitating to something else.  
But I can definitely be faithful no doubt and im extremely honest.  I dont, however, like to discard people because thats not fair to myself or them. ONLY if they arent a trash person. 
Definitely would still keep in contact and be good friends. 
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Freemala Harris on June 20, 2019, 02:16:54 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on June 20, 2019, 10:22:59 AM
I got:
MODERN MONOGAMOUS -

Quote"Monogamy used to be one person for life; today it is one person at a time."
-Esther Perel

You are a modern monogamist aka a serial monogamist. For you, when it comes to structuring your relationships, it's not out with the old and in with the new; your values are a combination of traditional and modern concepts of coupling. This means that while you believe in exclusivity and unwavering faithfulness, you also believe in letting go of what/ who is holding you back, even if that means divorce. People live longer, women are equal economic contributors and people's values are shifting. Thus, the world is outgrowing a one-size-fits-all concept of love, and 'til death do us part' may not fit ALL of your goals/ needs. You reserve the right to opt out if necessary, but as long as you choose to be in - you're all in!

Ditto
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 02:19:03 PM
Quote from: Blamblam on June 20, 2019, 02:03:51 PM
I got modern monogamist.It felt like this quiz is very pro-poly and the answers were framed in a way to make it seem like you either want to see your partner free and happy with other people or you're a jealous degenerate. :shannonsmissing:

Alot of the answer choices were ridiculous     
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kurama on June 20, 2019, 03:09:52 PM
You a slut babe, end of. 
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 04:15:15 PM
Speaking of SLUT

Quote from: Kurama on June 19, 2019, 09:57:05 PM
My ex boyfriend and his new guy want me to JOIN them.... I think im interested.

:unbothered:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kurama on June 20, 2019, 04:28:05 PM
Gggh

:unsure:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: I. Hate. Monica. on June 20, 2019, 04:43:54 PM
Quote from: Kaeli. on June 20, 2019, 12:36:39 PM
Serial Non committed dating

QuoteYou love the idea of what a committed relationship can provide: friendship, comfort, shared history, shared beds, frequent communication and some level of partnership. BUT, you're not quite ready (or entirely in to) the accountability, exclusivity and pressure that a formal commitment comes with.

Unlike someone who is into casual dating - you do want your partner's to rely on you and vice versa to some extent, but not in the full way that you perceive a formal relationship would. You're not actively searching for new partners, but you enjoy the idea that you can engage at will without having to consult with anyone else.

In short you're looking for a medium-level of commitment without a high-level of accountability with a preference for mid-term partners. For you to exist in your sweet spot, managing expectations is going to be essential. And not just in the beginning of the connection when you say "I'm not looking for anything too serious right now," but all the way through. You're giving people the relationship experience without wanting the title, which is awesome because you do prioritize your relationships in many meaningful ways, but not necessarily in the traditional ways. This can be confusing for some so be open to having the relationship status chat frequently.

this paragraph that basically boils down to you being a ho :kii:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: L0NZ. on June 20, 2019, 05:41:13 PM
MonogomISH

For all intents and purposes, you are monogamous. Your partner is the only one you want to have a physical or sexual relationship with... BUT, that doesn't mean they are the only one you want to play with at a safe distance.Unlike traditional monogamy, you acknowledge that your partner may have eyes for others (because you for damn sure do) so you are comfortable loosening the boundaries a bit: strip clubs, flirting, porn and possibly a bit of seduction via social media are OK. But intently engaging with others beyond a lil harmless fun, is not! As a monogamish person, this is a line you know how to tread carefully and expertly.Monogamish relationships can take the monotony out of monogamy in a way that preserves the sanctity, the safety, and the comfort of the primary relationship while acknowledging each other's desires for novelty.Monogamish also means dancing on the line of fidelity. This isn't a bad thing (afterall dancing is fun) but, it does mean you have to be VERY clear with your partner about where the boundaries are and you must be comfortable talking about it more than once. You also have to commit yourself to complete disclosure to your partner as you examine new feelings and experiences in your old dynamic.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kalifornia. on June 20, 2019, 05:49:54 PM
Quote from: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 04:15:15 PM
Speaking of SLUT

Quote from: Kurama on June 19, 2019, 09:57:05 PM
My ex boyfriend and his new guy want me to JOIN them.... I think im interested.

:unbothered:

:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: African Queen on June 20, 2019, 06:04:23 PM
Quote from: LOONA. on June 20, 2019, 12:56:43 PM
Quote from: The View on June 20, 2019, 11:50:23 AM
Serial non-committed dating

You love the idea of what a committed relationship can provide: friendship, comfort, shared history, shared beds, frequent communication and some level of partnership. BUT, you're not quite ready (or entirely in to) the accountability, exclusivity and pressure that a formal commitment comes with.

Unlike someone who is into casual dating - you do want your partner's to rely on you and vice versa to some extent, but not in the full way that you perceive a formal relationship would. You're not actively searching for new partners, but you enjoy the idea that you can engage at will without having to consult with anyone else.

In short you're looking for a medium-level of commitment without a high-level of accountability with a preference for mid-term partners. For you to exist in your sweet spot, managing expectations is going to be essential. And not just in the beginning of the connection when you say "I'm not looking for anything too serious right now," but all the way through. You're giving people the relationship experience without wanting the title, which is awesome because you do prioritize your relationships in many meaningful ways, but not necessarily in the traditional ways. This can be confusing for some so be open to having the relationship status chat frequently.

This is what I got

On some of the questions I didn't agree with any of the answers though so I ended up just choosing whatever was closest to how I personally felt. That probably affected my results.

I'm not actively searching for a relationship, but if I meet someone and the connection is there I'm not afraid to commit. Right now I'm just focusing on becoming the best version of myself possible. If someone comes along that's fine...and if they don't, that's fine too.     


I'm basically a ho.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Kurama on June 20, 2019, 06:09:00 PM
So is Drain apparently 
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: African Queen on June 20, 2019, 06:23:22 PM
Quote from: Kurama on June 20, 2019, 06:09:00 PM
So is Drain apparently

I own my mess. :ohwow:
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 20, 2019, 06:25:44 PM
Monogamy is a myth
And a limiting and fear based belief structure
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: L0NZ. on June 20, 2019, 06:34:30 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on June 20, 2019, 06:25:44 PM
Monogamy is a myth
And a limiting and fear based belief structure

Which when followed by 2 faithful people makes it reality.
Title: Re: What’s your current ideal relationship structure?
Post by: Lane Bryant Jumpsuit on June 20, 2019, 10:03:59 PM
Quote from: L0NZ. on June 20, 2019, 06:34:30 PM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on June 20, 2019, 06:25:44 PM
Monogamy is a myth
And a limiting and fear based belief structure

Which when followed by 2 faithful people makes it reality.

In that case its not monogamy
Monogamy is a choice created out of conscious decisions
Being faithful to someone is just that being faithful to someone
The need for monogamy in its definition isnt needed in that sense