Okay so I have shared my story of my relationship on here and I wanted to start this thread for those who have, boyfriends, girlfriends, baes, situationships... etc.
I was thinking to add questions here that me or Matt have... or it just might be a discussion topic.
Id like perspectives from EVERYONE... married, engaged, polyamorous, dont believe in love, in relationships, heart broken... whatever..
Just wanted to bring some new energy on the board so PLEASE participate. I think it could be fun and insightful. :)
First question.
In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?
this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat
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Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I get that. and id mostly agree, but do you think that not having sex until after would strengthen your bond?? the only part I dont agree with is saying its "crucial" to move forward. I know personally, im more spontaneous, comfortable and entertaining with sex when I feel secure... im sure if it felt like a tryout, it would be a different story for me.
I mean, what if you unwrap a micro penis after all this waiting and saving mess?
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 02:48:14 AM
I mean, what if you unwrap a micro penis after all this waiting and saving mess?
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well see, I think that it shouldn't really be a surprise. we can have conversations about sex and the things theyd enjoy. So I mean the same way id expect a guy to disclose that they're dick is really big, is it too much to expect that from a guy with a micropenis? I mean.... it aint like its gonna grow by the time we hop in the sack, so shit.. be honest I guess :plzstop: lol 2 things would happen. 1. they are okay with it and willing to work through it 2. they aren't and they dissolve the relationship. you've saved time. idk im just playing devils advocate...
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 02:21:04 AM
First question.
In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?
this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat
(https://media.giphy.com/media/fXsqxl5oVVK6EaBc94/giphy.gif)
It honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually
I've learned that sex is giving too much power in a relationship..
it is 100% important but it is something that can be built upon verses a connection.. I feel that that is very natural .. something that sorta just happens .. and u can't really work on that.. it either is or it isn't
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 03:03:15 AM
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 02:48:14 AM
I mean, what if you unwrap a micro penis after all this waiting and saving mess?
(https://media1.tenor.com/images/23a904ae0e12fc10a699c65e646b47f8/tenor.gif?itemid=15734284)
well see, I think that it shouldn't really be a surprise. we can have conversations about sex and the things theyd enjoy. So I mean the same way id expect a guy to disclose that they're dick is really big, is it too much to expect that from a guy with a micropenis? I mean.... it aint like its gonna grow by the time we hop in the sack, so shit.. be honest I guess :plzstop: lol 2 things would happen. 1. they are okay with it and willing to work through it 2. they aren't and they dissolve the relationship. you've saved time. idk im just playing devils advocate...
nxjxjxj
Yeah I think the girls should definitely MESS a bit before committing LMFAO
a lil dis and dat ain't never hurt nobody tbh :justabit:
It's like trying on a shoe, taking it home and trying it on a bit more in a large mirror mess LMFAO..
U don't go outside tho unless u really know u want .. it
:ohwow:
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 02:41:16 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I get that. and id mostly agree, but do you think that not having sex until after would strengthen your bond?? the only part I dont agree with is saying its "crucial" to move forward. I know personally, im more spontaneous, comfortable and entertaining with sex when I feel secure... im sure if it felt like a tryout, it would be a different story for me.
after sex the dynamics will shift either for better or for worse
if after you find there are some incompatibilities you can work on them as you progress but you would know that you want to work on them with that person
if you decide to wait it sets a more platonic love tone at the begining and if you guys are sexually incompatible then you will give a lets just be friends tea after
if you get married or commited before you will just feel like something is missing and try to fill that empty space with something else in the relationship
No ! sex will strengthen the bond if its real lol
if it doesnt you have a good friend
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
Also Baph has sex with everyone before he gets into a relationship with them
a hoe owt..
Anyone that he chills with actually
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:17:50 AMIt honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually
Aw that's beautiful.
I reckon it didn't work out in the end though?
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 03:27:06 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:17:50 AMIt honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually
Aw that's beautiful.
I reckon it didn't work out in the end though?
oh the end hasn't happened.. I was just saying even before having the conversation I feel the connection is strong enough to wait until we decide to or not to commit.
It's so much bigger than sex.. having energies that truly intertwine
It becomes spiritual. I wouldn't never want sex to interrupt that without us saying "boom we doing this 100% all in".
Quote from: 🐇 on April 20, 2020, 03:32:00 AM
Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here
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you can leave dyke
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:33:09 AM
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 03:27:06 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:17:50 AMIt honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually
Aw that's beautiful.
I reckon it didn't work out in the end though?
oh the end hasn't happened.. I was just saying even before having the conversation I feel the connection is strong enough to wait until we decide to or not to commit.
It's so much bigger than sex.. having energies that truly intertwine
It becomes spiritual. I wouldn't never want sex to interrupt that without us saying "boom we doing this 100% all in".
Ack :oof:
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
Quote from: 🐇 on April 20, 2020, 03:32:00 AM
Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here
ffff I'm hearing him out a bit
Lew thinks differently than a lot of us but when it comes to love and some mess.. it's a bit more fathomable
dddddd
He's just sharing his truth in here
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:35:57 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
lol It is not open lol :kii: :kii: :kii:
But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system
its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them
the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:38:14 AM
Quote from: 🐇 on April 20, 2020, 03:32:00 AM
Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here
ffff I'm hearing him out a bit
Lew thinks differently than a lot of us but when it comes to love and some mess.. it's a bit more fathomable
dddddd
He's just sharing his truth in here
good luck with that
I got some paracetamol for you after
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:38:14 AM
Quote from: 🐇 on April 20, 2020, 03:32:00 AM
Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here
ffff I'm hearing him out a bit
Lew thinks differently than a lot of us but when it comes to love and some mess.. it's a bit more fathomable
dddddd
He's just sharing his truth in here
thanks glock
Ive definetly learned alot in this department :kii:
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:41:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:35:57 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
lol It is not open lol :kii: :kii: :kii:
But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system
its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them
the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer
but bby how is it not when ur carrying on still with a 4 year relationship mess that was started before ur marriage? :unsure:
Well considering that u agree with Mon, how is ur situation any different when it's literally that?
Even though it's not physical .. you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally invested in this other guy..
it's an open marriage bby
And that's ok :unsure:
Cuz u have someone that loves u through it
How would u feel if ur hubby stepped owt a bit tho?
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:42:36 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:38:14 AM
Quote from: 🐇 on April 20, 2020, 03:32:00 AM
Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here
ffff I'm hearing him out a bit
Lew thinks differently than a lot of us but when it comes to love and some mess.. it's a bit more fathomable
dddddd
He's just sharing his truth in here
thanks glock
Ive definetly learned alot in this department :kii:
dddd I can tell
You seem genuinely happy
Still a mess but happy and evolved a tad :unsure:
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:49:28 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:41:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:35:57 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
lol It is not open lol :kii: :kii: :kii:
But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system
its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them
the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer
but bby how is it not when ur carrying on still with a 4 year relationship mess that was started before ur marriage? :unsure:
Well considering that u agree with Mon, how is ur situation any different when it's literally that?
Even though it's not physical .. you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally invested in this other guy..
it's an open marriage bby
And that's ok :unsure:
Cuz u have someone that loves u through it
How would u feel if ur hubby stepped owt a bit tho?
well yes my connection is everything but the physical connection
and i cant turn that off because I love someone else and i shouldnt have to lol
it would be weird to tell him oop gotta drop u now :kii:
my husband betta not step oWT nuthib unless we both agree on the mess and the person
(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/410659588.jpg)
ion play that sneaky shit
but yes technically it would be open but not really i see it as alike a baby mma situation lol
if it wasnt open id be having an emotional affair i guess
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:54:59 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:49:28 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:41:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:35:57 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
lol It is not open lol :kii: :kii: :kii:
But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system
its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them
the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer
but bby how is it not when ur carrying on still with a 4 year relationship mess that was started before ur marriage? :unsure:
Well considering that u agree with Mon, how is ur situation any different when it's literally that?
Even though it's not physical .. you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally invested in this other guy..
it's an open marriage bby
And that's ok :unsure:
Cuz u have someone that loves u through it
How would u feel if ur hubby stepped owt a bit tho?
well yes my connection is everything but the physical connection
and i cant turn that off because I love someone else and i shouldnt have to lol
it would be weird to tell him oop gotta drop u now :kii:
my husband betta not step oWT nuthib unless we both agree on the mess and the person
(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/410659588.jpg)
ion play that sneaky shit
but yes technically it would be open but not really i see it as alike a baby mma situation lol
if it wasnt open id be having an emotional affair i guess
lew this isn't fair :plzstop:
U get to continue this relationship with this other nigga and expect ur husband to allow u both to mess with someone if he decides he wants to step owt
What if the other party didn't want u luv?
:unsure:
Jdjsjdj
This is kinda ghetto :plzstop:
Like what
How dare u carry owt this one sided mess
Ur being greedy
Sex is just sex. Im not saying be a hoe, but I don't get the saving myself for marriage / the Right one mess.
It's 2020.
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:59:13 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:54:59 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:49:28 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:41:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:35:57 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
lol It is not open lol :kii: :kii: :kii:
But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system
its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them
the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer
but bby how is it not when ur carrying on still with a 4 year relationship mess that was started before ur marriage? :unsure:
Well considering that u agree with Mon, how is ur situation any different when it's literally that?
Even though it's not physical .. you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally invested in this other guy..
it's an open marriage bby
And that's ok :unsure:
Cuz u have someone that loves u through it
How would u feel if ur hubby stepped owt a bit tho?
well yes my connection is everything but the physical connection
and i cant turn that off because I love someone else and i shouldnt have to lol
it would be weird to tell him oop gotta drop u now :kii:
my husband betta not step oWT nuthib unless we both agree on the mess and the person
(http://pic100.picturetrail.com/VOL1164/13386359/23854331/410659588.jpg)
ion play that sneaky shit
but yes technically it would be open but not really i see it as alike a baby mma situation lol
if it wasnt open id be having an emotional affair i guess
lew this isn't fair :plzstop:
U get to continue this relationship with this other nigga and expect ur husband to allow u both to mess with someone if he decides he wants to step owt
What if the other party didn't want u luv?
:unsure:
Jdjsjdj
This is kinda ghetto :plzstop:
Like what
How dare u carry owt this one sided mess
Ur being greedy
well lol
the other party doesnt have to be involved with me
but they must know about me and meet me
My husband has this russian girl thats always slobbering after his dick
i told her we need to get her some dick so she can stop fantasising bout my husband
but they are friends
hes been with women before so i get suspicious but
he doesnt want ha like that
:shook:
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:03:40 AM
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
:guys: mutiple.
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
(https://media.tenor.com/images/4ced9bb95ad618aa61f19a12fbbaab48/tenor.gif)
Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 04:38:16 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
(https://media.tenor.com/images/4ced9bb95ad618aa61f19a12fbbaab48/tenor.gif)
Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this
how the person is just a friend that im close with lol :wub:
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 04:56:54 AM
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 04:38:16 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
(https://media.tenor.com/images/4ced9bb95ad618aa61f19a12fbbaab48/tenor.gif)
Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this
how the person is just a friend that im close with lol :wub:
if matt ever thought about-... Chile. there would be blood on the dance floor. and we aint even married yet.
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 05:10:33 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 04:56:54 AM
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 04:38:16 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:33:03 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:29:10 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 03:26:28 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:23:24 AM
Quote from: Lew Scherzinger Norwood on April 20, 2020, 02:23:07 AM
Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand :unsure:
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment
:unsure:
Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
(https://media.tenor.com/images/4ced9bb95ad618aa61f19a12fbbaab48/tenor.gif)
Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this
how the person is just a friend that im close with lol :wub:
if matt ever thought about-... Chile. there would be blood on the dance floor. and we aint even married yet.
letoya luckets back to life vidya explored this topic lol
she was like homegirl was just a lil too comfortbale lmao
but thats just insecurity talking tbh
Quote from: heir. on April 20, 2020, 05:23:06 AM
if you wanna fuck, you wanna fuck imo
both are adults and this isn't disneyland
plenty of solid relationships began with fuckin on the first night. protect urself and do what u want
Young: You rang ? :young:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ImynIRpbQLE
Oooh this is a GREAT thread idea
Although, during this quarantine mess, i ain't got no sex and relationship mess to share right now
:melmel:
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:17:50 AM
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 02:21:04 AM
First question.
In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?
this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat
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It honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually
I've learned that sex is giving too much power in a relationship..
it is 100% important but it is something that can be built upon verses a connection.. I feel that that is very natural .. something that sorta just happens .. and u can't really work on that.. it either is or it isn't
!!! I know how to kinda weed out niggas that just wanna fuck and niggas I know I'm compatible with and wanna get to know If I have chemistry with someone and there's a connection...I tend to wait before we dive into sex. Mainly because I can see potential and want us to get to know each other more. 9/10 if the chemistry is there I feel like the sex is most likely gonna be good when we do get there. Throwing sex into the mix early on can sometimes complicate things.
Sex is a very crucial part of a relationship. And exploring that part early gives you an idea of how the relationship would go...
Sex on the first night baby and then go from there.
I've only been in relationships with guys where the sex has been amazing. And amazingly they were the kindest, sweetest and sexiest guys I dealt with.
Well one was a bit selfish but that was my first serious relationship so I didn't know any better.
im really only talking to 2 guys rn, I was just in a 6 month relationship tht ended in february mind u.
one of tha dude has 4 kids so im not gon talk 'bout him
tha other guy who i see like evryday is fckin fine, he aint tht tall but he fine asf
we had sex for tha firs time yesterday night nd he toe my shit up, he frm tha south but idk how comfortable he is 100% like...bein with a girl like me.
be hes sweet, hope it goes somewhere.
Sex & Love ....
I use to think those things correlated ... but ... :dead: If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick :dead:
so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.
If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.
When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.
But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.
Quote from: Bentley. THE Moderator. on April 20, 2020, 09:47:22 AM
Sex & Love ....
I use to think those things correlated ... but ... :dead: If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick :dead:
so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.
If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.
When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.
But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.
period
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 09:35:25 AM
im really only talking to 2 guys rn, I was just in a 6 month relationship tht ended in february mind u.
one of tha dude has 4 kids so im not gon talk 'bout him
tha other guy who i see like evryday is fckin fine, he aint tht tall but he fine asf
we had sex for tha firs time yesterday night nd he toe my shit up, he frm tha south but idk how comfortable he is 100% like...bein with a girl like me.
be hes sweet, hope it goes somewhere.
Does bae know u had a sex change?
Quote from: Bentley. THE Moderator. on April 20, 2020, 09:47:22 AM
Sex & Love ....
I use to think those things correlated ... but ... :dead: If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick :dead:
so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.
If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.
When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.
But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.
I love this bent! I wasn't trying to group them together btw. just wanted to put in the title the 3 major things we would be hitting in this thread. Sometimes they will correlate and sometimes they will be stand alone topics. but I love love LOVE your response.
Quote from: Hugo on April 20, 2020, 06:34:09 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 03:17:50 AM
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 02:21:04 AM
First question.
In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?
this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat
(https://media.giphy.com/media/fXsqxl5oVVK6EaBc94/giphy.gif)
It honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually
I've learned that sex is giving too much power in a relationship..
it is 100% important but it is something that can be built upon verses a connection.. I feel that that is very natural .. something that sorta just happens .. and u can't really work on that.. it either is or it isn't
!!! I know how to kinda weed out niggas that just wanna fuck and niggas I know I'm compatible with and wanna get to know If I have chemistry with someone and there's a connection...I tend to wait before we dive into sex. Mainly because I can see potential and want us to get to know each other more. 9/10 if the chemistry is there I feel like the sex is most likely gonna be good when we do get there. Throwing sex into the mix early on can sometimes complicate things.
for sure
However I do think sexuality shouldn't necessarily come with a date.. it should come with a feeling .. something protected and such but more than anything a vibe
Cuz as long as there is a vibe .. the sex can't be that bad
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 10:08:18 AM
Quote from: Bentley. THE Moderator. on April 20, 2020, 09:47:22 AM
Sex & Love ....
I use to think those things correlated ... but ... :dead: If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick :dead:
so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.
If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.
When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.
But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.
period
!!!!!
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 10:11:29 AM
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 09:35:25 AM
im really only talking to 2 guys rn, I was just in a 6 month relationship tht ended in february mind u.
one of tha dude has 4 kids so im not gon talk 'bout him
tha other guy who i see like evryday is fckin fine, he aint tht tall but he fine asf
we had sex for tha firs time yesterday night nd he toe my shit up, he frm tha south but idk how comfortable he is 100% like...bein with a girl like me.
be hes sweet, hope it goes somewhere.
Does bae know u had a sex change?
i tell evry dude within 1st day or few days of textin'/hangin' out (mostly text)
im not tryna waste no time wit drama, "u said wat?"
no sir!
iont got time for tht
most these niggas dnt gaf no way so id rather get it out tha way
i wanna husband!...want these eggs cracked...i wann' family
so it must be honest frm get go
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 01:35:39 PM
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 10:11:29 AM
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 09:35:25 AM
im really only talking to 2 guys rn, I was just in a 6 month relationship tht ended in february mind u.
one of tha dude has 4 kids so im not gon talk 'bout him
tha other guy who i see like evryday is fckin fine, he aint tht tall but he fine asf
we had sex for tha firs time yesterday night nd he toe my shit up, he frm tha south but idk how comfortable he is 100% like...bein with a girl like me.
be hes sweet, hope it goes somewhere.
Does bae know u had a sex change?
i tell evry dude within 1st day or few days of textin'/hangin' out (mostly text)
im not tryna waste no time wit drama, "u said wat?"
no sir!
iont got time for tht
most these niggas dnt gaf no way so id rather get it out tha way
i wanna husband!...want these eggs cracked...i wann' family
so it must be honest frm get go
proud of you
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 01:37:48 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:22:29 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 04:31:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:03:40 AM
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
:guys: mutiple.
im shocked king :omgwatshappening:
Why is this? :guys:
u always seem so disconnected from these topics jjjj
I know it's a message board mess so in a lot of ways it isn't real life but u always seem cold about these talks bby
Like ur too good for a lot stuff
U know ur one of my faves but :unsure:
It just never feels like ur normal like us :stressed:
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:36:45 PM
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 01:35:39 PM
Quote from: 𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉 on April 20, 2020, 10:11:29 AM
Quote from: You'nt know nann ho! on April 20, 2020, 09:35:25 AM
im really only talking to 2 guys rn, I was just in a 6 month relationship tht ended in february mind u.
one of tha dude has 4 kids so im not gon talk 'bout him
tha other guy who i see like evryday is fckin fine, he aint tht tall but he fine asf
we had sex for tha firs time yesterday night nd he toe my shit up, he frm tha south but idk how comfortable he is 100% like...bein with a girl like me.
be hes sweet, hope it goes somewhere.
Does bae know u had a sex change?
i tell evry dude within 1st day or few days of textin'/hangin' out (mostly text)
im not tryna waste no time wit drama, "u said wat?"
no sir!
iont got time for tht
most these niggas dnt gaf no way so id rather get it out tha way
i wanna husband!...want these eggs cracked...i wann' family
so it must be honest frm get go
proud of you
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Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:42:36 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 01:37:48 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:22:29 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 04:31:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:03:40 AM
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
:guys: mutiple.
im shocked king :omgwatshappening:
Why is this? :guys:
u always seem so disconnected from these topics jjjj
I know it's a message board mess so in a lot of ways it isn't real life but u always seem cold about these talks bby
Like ur too good for a lot stuff
U know ur one of my faves but :unsure:
It just never feels like ur normal like us :stressed:
Asdff. I know I can come off a lil posh n snobby... but I'm a very down to earth zørls. I can take my wavy Brazilian mess out the bun n have some fun :ohwow:
Now I don't do it often because I view relationships in a very unconventional way. There are too many things im not interested in that most of the zørls on here are looking for.
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 02:01:11 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:42:36 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 01:37:48 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:22:29 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 04:31:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:03:40 AM
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
:guys: mutiple.
im shocked king :omgwatshappening:
Why is this? :guys:
u always seem so disconnected from these topics jjjj
I know it's a message board mess so in a lot of ways it isn't real life but u always seem cold about these talks bby
Like ur too good for a lot stuff
U know ur one of my faves but :unsure:
It just never feels like ur normal like us :stressed:
Asdff. I know I can come off a lil posh n snobby... but I'm a very down to earth zørls. I can take my wavy Brazilian mess out the bun n have some fun :ohwow:
Now I don't do it often because I view relationships in a very unconventional way. There are too many things im not interested in that most of the zørls on here are looking for.
jjxjxjxjdj
:ohwow:
You know I love an upper ass bitch!
Ack-a!
How do u view them king?
:stressed:
When I look at it this way... everyone in my family is old and single and that's looking like my trajectory too. Only ONE of my multiple cousins has a wife and kid, literally everyone else just got pieces or they single af never heard of them dating or being with someone since forever. like last time my mom had a relationship was in what, 2003? I aint never seen love in my fam, just babies pop up.
Break the cycle Keef :stressed:
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Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:22:29 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 04:31:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:03:40 AM
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
:guys: mutiple.
im shocked king :omgwatshappening:
Why is this? :guys:
u always seem so disconnected from these topics jjjj
I know it's a message board mess so in a lot of ways it isn't real life but u always seem cold about these talks bby
Like ur too good for a lot stuff
U know ur one of my faves but :unsure:
It just never feels like ur normal like us :stressed:
Asdff. I know I can come off a lil posh n snobby... but I'm a very down to earth zørls. I can take my wavy Brazilian mess out the bun n have some fun :ohwow:
Now I don't do it often because I view relationships in a very unconventional way. There are too many things im not interested in that most of the zørls on here are looking for.
jjxjxjxjdj
:ohwow:
You know I love an upper ass bitch!
Ack-a!
How do u view them king?
I don't believe in the whole getting married, living together, joint acc mess. IDC how much he has or doesn't have ..keep your mess over there.
I'm also not someone who feels the need to spend every fucking second with the guy I'm dating. Most of my friends get in amess and all of a sudden they lose their individuality :uhh: In a none rona world I travel a lot for work...if that's something you can't handle :cheerup:
I'm also not going through phones, messages, stalking... you just make yourself look silly. One of my friends once caught a nigga I was dating texting someone he knew. The whole ordeal with the confrontation was so embarrassing...never again. I'm not here to boost anyone's self esteem.
And I get that most of this makes me seem a bit cold. But I'm still that one that will ride off that cliff with you if it comes to it.
There's just certain silly stuff that I am bit too seasoned for.
Meh
I feel like anybody that's ever been in a serious long term relationship knows that sex isnt always going to be a priority nor will it make a break or relationship
So basically my answer is no
It can break amess. If its really wack would you go again?
Some people are wired differently. What may have worked sexually on one partner might not work on the next. It doesnt mean that its wack or you're bad at it and if you want to be in a relationship with someone I think its important to learn their body and what turns them on.
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 02:19:39 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 02:02:55 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 02:01:11 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:42:36 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 01:37:48 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 01:22:29 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 04:31:11 AM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:03:40 AM
Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?
:guys: mutiple.
im shocked king :omgwatshappening:
Why is this? :guys:
u always seem so disconnected from these topics jjjj
I know it's a message board mess so in a lot of ways it isn't real life but u always seem cold about these talks bby
Like ur too good for a lot stuff
U know ur one of my faves but :unsure:
It just never feels like ur normal like us :stressed:
Asdff. I know I can come off a lil posh n snobby... but I'm a very down to earth zørls. I can take my wavy Brazilian mess out the bun n have some fun :ohwow:
Now I don't do it often because I view relationships in a very unconventional way. There are too many things im not interested in that most of the zørls on here are looking for.
jjxjxjxjdj
:ohwow:
You know I love an upper ass bitch!
Ack-a!
How do u view them king?
I don't believe in the whole getting married, living together, joint acc mess. IDC how much he has or doesn't have ..keep your mess over there.
I'm also not someone who feels the need to spend every fucking second with the guy I'm dating. Most of my friends get in amess and all of a sudden they lose their individuality :uhh: In a none rona world I travel a lot for work...if that's something you can't handle :cheerup:
I'm also not going through phones, messages, stalking... you just make yourself look silly. One of my friends once caught a nigga I was dating texting someone he knew. The whole ordeal with the confrontation was so embarrassing...never again. I'm not here to boost anyone's self esteem.
And I get that most of this makes me seem a bit cold. But I'm still that one that will ride off that cliff with you if it comes to it.
There's just certain silly stuff that I am bit too seasoned for.
wait cuz I kinda agree a bit actually
:unsure:
I don't really care for marriage .. though I respect it and look at it very highly ..
it's just not for me
I also can not lose my individuality
What's the point of dating someone and u guys become the same damn person
I need my air to breathe ..
I 100% get u now then king. Life will def shape ur outlook on shit and how u move with folks ..
This all makes sense
Libra self
But in my experience the sex is always good for me if theres a connection dating or casual
Quote from: AJ on April 20, 2020, 10:17:00 AM
Quote from: Bentley. THE Moderator. on April 20, 2020, 09:47:22 AM
Sex & Love ....
I use to think those things correlated ... but ... :dead: If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick :dead:
so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.
If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.
When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.
But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.
I love this bent! I wasn't trying to group them together btw. just wanted to put in the title the 3 major things we would be hitting in this thread. Sometimes they will correlate and sometimes they will be stand alone topics. but I love love LOVE your response.
Oh yea! You came up with another hit thread mess bby.
What you and Dory have are kinda unique in our community.
sssss my mess was kinda long winded, but I think I ended up with an open-ended answer 😞
Cause ... some ppl feel instant connection. I didn't have SEX per say, but me and my guy fu la la'd on the first real date date. But we had spent some weeks up all night talking. And haven't went a day without talking to that nigga since. He gets on my nerves :dead:
Dammit, where's my day wine 🍷 at
Ugh
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 02:13:49 PM
Break the cycle Keef :stressed:
I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:
- Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
- I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
- I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
- Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet :dead:
- I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
- I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
- When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
- I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.
But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. :stressed:
Don't believe in relationships and never will. A waste of time it is. My fave is very codependent and it's kinda cringe
,
Yes.
To maintain? No.
Quote from: ItsGonnaHurt dotcom on April 20, 2020, 03:02:37 PM
Don't believe in relationships and never will. A waste of time it is. My fave is very codependent and it's kinda cringe
Ciara clearly wears the pants in that relationship and its cute to me.
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 03:42:32 PM
Quote from: ItsGonnaHurt dotcom on April 20, 2020, 03:02:37 PM
Don't believe in relationships and never will. A waste of time it is. My fave is very codependent and it's kinda cringe
Ciara clearly wears the pants in that relationship and its cute to me.
she's subservient to him
Quote from: ItsGonnaHurt dotcom on April 20, 2020, 03:52:18 PM
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 03:42:32 PM
Quote from: ItsGonnaHurt dotcom on April 20, 2020, 03:02:37 PM
Don't believe in relationships and never will. A waste of time it is. My fave is very codependent and it's kinda cringe
Ciara clearly wears the pants in that relationship and its cute to me.
she's subservient to him
Nah she def in charge.
I believe one should get to truly know their potential love interest before being intimate. Build a connection. Intimacy is a very sacred yet beautiful part of life (when it's right) and it shouldn't be given to just anybody.
Girl its just sex.
Quote from: BrokenHeartsHeal on April 20, 2020, 03:00:58 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 02:13:49 PM
Break the cycle Keef :stressed:
I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:
- Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
- I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
- I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
- Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet :dead:
- I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
- I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
- When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
- I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.
But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. :stressed:
Keith this is a lot of damage..
Mostly by running to the next person and serial dating
I think this is a reflection of the work you do before u jump into mess or the healing u refuse to do on yourself
It sounds like a great guy is in there but u have to learn how to toss this baggage off one by one.. more importantly u need to do it wayyyy befor u give ur self to anyone
all of this stuff is fixable
Even down to the scent thing
If u had someone special .. u could introduce them to ur favorite fragrances ..
And it becomes magnetic
I had a similar situation happened and introduced someone to my favorite soaps and lotions and they used them because they were obsessed with how I smelled and then I became obsessed with their scent
It's important to walk in understand no one is gonna be the perfect match.. but work can be done on the right connection to make it everlasting
Even down to the sex thing.. maybe u can find someone who truly understands and grow together with it
Not all tops is looking to have anal all the time
I think a lot of that has to do with ur level of comfort.. and more than anything .. TRUST
it is soooo important when connecting with someone even if a one night stand mess
I think u should see a shrink
to talk it all through and heal keef
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:12:46 PM
I think u should see a shrink
to talk it all through and heal keef
I agree with you.
They will def give him a tool set to move forward.
My other advise is if you don't instantly vibe with who you get ask fir someone else. Its only going to be progressive if you feel that you're in a safe space
Quote from: BrokenHeartsHeal on April 20, 2020, 03:00:58 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 02:13:49 PM
Break the cycle Keef :stressed:
I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:
- Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
- I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
- I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
- Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet :dead:
- I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
- I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
- When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
- I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.
But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. :stressed:
Jesus
:omgwatshappening:
Well babes maybe you'll meet someone just like you. There's someone out there :wub:
Quote from: 💦💧💦 on April 20, 2020, 03:42:32 PM
Quote from: ItsGonnaHurt dotcom on April 20, 2020, 03:02:37 PM
Don't believe in relationships and never will. A waste of time it is. My fave is very codependent and it's kinda cringe
Ciara clearly wears the pants in that relationship and its cute to me.
xccvvc
Yeah which is a problem for most men
I guess her and Russell are a ying yang mess
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 04:08:48 PM
Quote from: BrokenHeartsHeal on April 20, 2020, 03:00:58 PM
Quote from: GLOCK on April 20, 2020, 02:13:49 PM
Break the cycle Keef :stressed:
I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:
- Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
- I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
- I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
- Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet :dead:
- I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
- I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
- When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
- I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.
But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. :stressed:
Keith this is a lot of damage..
Mostly by running to the next person and serial dating
I think this is a reflection of the work you do before u jump into mess or the healing u refuse to do on yourself
It sounds like a great guy is in there but u have to learn how to toss this baggage off one by one.. more importantly u need to do it wayyyy befor u give ur self to anyone
all of this stuff is fixable
Even down to the scent thing
If u had someone special .. u could introduce them to ur favorite fragrances ..
And it becomes magnetic
I had a similar situation happened and introduced someone to my favorite soaps and lotions and they used them because they were obsessed with how I smelled and then I became obsessed with their scent
It's important to walk in understand no one is gonna be the perfect match.. but work can be done on the right connection to make it everlasting
Even down to the sex thing.. maybe u can find someone who truly understands and grow together with it
Not all tops is looking to have anal all the time
I think a lot of that has to do with ur level of comfort.. and more than anything .. TRUST
it is soooo important when connecting with someone even if a one night stand mess
Drag me then bruv :stressed:
I dunno about that theorapy mess but thank ya'll I'm a work in progress. I say at least I'm self aware and holding off before I tap into anything else. I'm in no rush until I work on some of these buckets.
Matt here.
One of the main conversations that Aj and I have is about the quantity of sex in our relationship. I can go twice a day, whereas AJ maybe once a week. I wake up ready. it could be the middle of the day I could think about something and ill be ready. Aj sometimes wears my shirts and if I come home and see that.. IM READY.
lol We're still working on this but have made a lot of progress as it relates to finding common ground. so he'll probably still answer but here's the question... (ill make my questions blue)
How do you effectively communicate to your partner(relationship or not) that you want more OR less sex?
looking forward to hearing from you all!
Quote from: AJ on April 21, 2020, 01:04:01 PM
Matt here.
BXBXNJXJXJDJDJDJJDJKDKDKKDKKDKDKDKDKDKSODOS
Awnnn gorl...lemme let this nigga tell yall
Big trigga tre in da building, naw but to it 💯 i aint fw a 🚻 befoe so wen started havin sex n shit she was givin me tht suckatron 5000 lhh😂 but once i started 🍆😺💦💦 i been hooked, pussy betta than gas omm, fck bri so good she was straight cryin😂 punk ass but sex made me stay. Head game on a hunnet💯👅🥴
Omgg im am so embarass ghb ncff
Ima kill this boy!
Quote from: heir. on April 21, 2020, 02:48:10 PM
yo dis daquan
just need ta say i got da baddest fag in the hood wearin muh chain
wtf. lol
hngndmdf
i 'gree wit tht post sayin sex is sacred....i rlly sorta agree!
tha more im in love, tha more sensational sex is, jus a nigga tht i love touchin' me can give me chills wen im in love
Haven't had this happen yet
But, I guess I'd be like "ummmm, we need to AMP it up a bit. The hand thing isn't cutting it enough. I know your drive isn't as high as mine, but I'll make it extra special and more than enjoyable for you."
Also, maybe introducing new things is always fun and adds a KICK to the mess, so that when you go back to 'normal' sex, it feels fresh. That's how I view it anyway.
I know some people have really high and really low sex drives, but sometimes you gotta meet closer to the middle if you're in a relationship. That big C word, compromise is something I had to get used to, but not with sex because my last fag was just as horny as me. I don't think more/less sex is a huge battle though.
Quote from: AJ on April 21, 2020, 01:04:01 PM
How do you effectively communicate to your partner(relationship or not) that you want more OR less sex?
now this one is a tough one..
because I've never been in a situation where we don't have the same sex drive.
As tops tho.. we can be very selfish and not considerate of the other teams..
Like they could've ate some mess the day before.. or the day of.. and we just want some sporadic sex like straights
Hmph.
But I think u guys should come up with a communication mess..
My last relationship me and my ex reached a point where we got really busy .. and because we were working so much.. our sex sorta started being once a week..
but one might've wanted to mess while another one was sleep.. visa versa
So..
What we did was..
We created a thing where if one of us was horny.. we would wear white underwear around the crib and that way.. we just knew.. cuz other times it was organic and just happened.
But this way.. no key went unturned
It was sorta iconic
And eliminated any arguments or disappointments
Come in girls.
answer Matt's question
i tell him
i did have a situation witta dude a few months ago
we'd been talkin for like a month or so...he was vry shy nd we was barely fckin
i was stayin at his house n errthing almos evryday, it was his firs time...so i undrstood but we talked bout it.....i end up leavin him