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Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward
I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse
Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex
But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment

Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind
LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics
the sex will?
Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?
yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection
Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it
Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that
That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage
I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴
lol It is not open lol

But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system
its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them
the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer
but bby how is it not when ur carrying on still with a 4 year relationship mess that was started before ur marriage? 
Well considering that u agree with Mon, how is ur situation any different when it's literally that?
Even though it's not physical .. you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally invested in this other guy..
it's an open marriage bby
And that's ok 
Cuz u have someone that loves u through it
How would u feel if ur hubby stepped owt a bit tho?
well yes my connection is everything but the physical connection
and i cant turn that off because I love someone else and i shouldnt have to lol
it would be weird to tell him oop gotta drop u now

my husband betta not step oWT nuthib unless we both agree on the mess and the person

ion play that sneaky shit
but yes technically it would be open but not really i see it as alike a baby mma situation lol
if it wasnt open id be having an emotional affair i guess