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Girl its just sex.

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Break the cycle Keef

I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:

• Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
• I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
• I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
• Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet
• I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
• I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
• When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
• I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.

But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. 

Keith this is a lot of damage..
Mostly by running to the next person and serial dating

I think this is a reflection of the work you do before u jump into mess or the healing u refuse to do on yourself

It sounds like a great guy is in there but u have to learn how to toss this baggage off one by one.. more importantly u need to do it wayyyy befor u give ur self to anyone


all of this stuff is fixable
Even down to the scent thing
If u had someone special .. u could introduce them to ur favorite fragrances ..
And it becomes magnetic
I had a similar situation happened and introduced someone to my favorite soaps and lotions and they used them because they were obsessed with how I smelled and then I became obsessed with their scent

It's important to walk in understand no one is gonna be the perfect match.. but work can be done on the right connection to make it everlasting

Even down to the sex thing.. maybe u can find someone who truly understands and grow together with it
Not all tops is looking to have anal all the time

I think a lot of that has to do with ur level of comfort.. and more than anything .. TRUST

it is soooo important when connecting with someone even if a one night stand mess

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I think u should see a shrink 
to talk it all through and heal keef 

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I think u should see a shrink
to talk it all through and heal keef

I agree with you.

They will def give him a tool set to move forward.

My other advise is if you don't instantly vibe with who you get ask fir someone else. Its only going to be progressive if you feel that you're in a safe space

[GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME]

Break the cycle Keef

I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:

• Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
• I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
• I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
• Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet
• I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
• I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
• When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
• I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.

But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. 

Jesus



Well babes maybe you'll meet someone just like you. There's someone out there 

[GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME]

Don't believe in relationships and never will. A waste of time it is. My fave is very codependent and it's kinda cringe

Ciara clearly wears the pants in that relationship and its cute to me.

xccvvc

Yeah which is a problem for most men

I guess her and Russell are a ying yang mess

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Break the cycle Keef

I don't really see it for me at this point in my life. I have too many barriers and things to work on:

• Sex: I've settled for less too many times that I now have super high standards when it comes to appearance, but just too insecure to approach people that I feel are worth my time and my body.
• I'm very particular when it comes to sex. I genuinely don't like anal and that's a hangup for most niggas so that's not gonna cut it. I have to settle for people that are either too vanilla or into alternative things that are just too edgy for me. Never a meet me where I'm at type of mess.
• I'm still learning how to be affectionate and suck at literally all five love languages.
• Outside of being intimate during sex, I don't want to be touched and I don't like any type of odor or fragrance other than mine. I literally gag when I'm laid up with someone but bite the bullet
• I don't have time for conflict, so it's so easy for me to end off relationships if I feel like there's nothing to talk about that I feel will fix things for the long term.
• I have trust issues and I'm quick to end shit if I feel you done something that I don't like (even without proof or communication).
• When somethings wrong, communication is only key when I want it to be. And when I am in the wrong I have a problem with ownership.
• I'm extremely selfless otherwise, which isn't always good.

But I promise I am a good guy though, I'm not a bitch or anything. I'm so reserved but also goofy and have patience for days. 

Keith this is a lot of damage..
Mostly by running to the next person and serial dating

I think this is a reflection of the work you do before u jump into mess or the healing u refuse to do on yourself

It sounds like a great guy is in there but u have to learn how to toss this baggage off one by one.. more importantly u need to do it wayyyy befor u give ur self to anyone


all of this stuff is fixable
Even down to the scent thing
If u had someone special .. u could introduce them to ur favorite fragrances ..
And it becomes magnetic
I had a similar situation happened and introduced someone to my favorite soaps and lotions and they used them because they were obsessed with how I smelled and then I became obsessed with their scent

It's important to walk in understand no one is gonna be the perfect match.. but work can be done on the right connection to make it everlasting

Even down to the sex thing.. maybe u can find someone who truly understands and grow together with it
Not all tops is looking to have anal all the time

I think a lot of that has to do with ur level of comfort.. and more than anything .. TRUST

it is soooo important when connecting with someone even if a one night stand mess

Drag me then bruv



I dunno about that theorapy mess but thank ya'll I'm a work in progress. I say at least I'm self aware and holding off before I tap into anything else. I'm in no rush until I work on some of these buckets.

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Matt here.

One of the main conversations that Aj and I have is about the quantity of sex in our relationship. I can go twice a day, whereas AJ maybe once a week. I wake up ready. it could be the middle of the day I could think about something and ill be ready. Aj sometimes wears my shirts and if I come home and see that.. IM READY.

lol We're still working on this but have made a lot of progress as it relates to finding common ground. so he'll probably still answer but here's the question... (ill make my questions blue)

How do you effectively communicate to your partner(relationship or not) that you want more OR less sex?

looking forward to hearing from you all!

[GLOCK]

Matt here.

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[Edge gorl]

Awnnn  gorl...lemme let this nigga tell yall


Big trigga tre in da building, naw but to it 💯 i aint fw a 🚻 befoe so wen started havin sex n shit she was givin me tht suckatron 5000 lhh😂 but once i started 🍆😺💦💦 i been hooked, pussy betta than gas omm, fck bri so good she was straight cryin😂 punk ass but sex made me stay. Head game on a hunnet💯👅🥴

[Edge gorl]

Omgg im am so embarass ghb ncff
Ima kill this boy!

[RatherBe]

yo dis daquan

just need ta say i got da baddest fag in the hood wearin muh chain

wtf. lol

[Edge gorl]

hngndmdf

i 'gree wit tht post sayin sex is sacred....i rlly sorta agree!
tha more im in love, tha more sensational sex is, jus a nigga tht i love touchin' me can give me chills wen im in love

[GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME]

Haven't had this happen yet

But, I guess I'd be like "ummmm, we need to AMP it up a bit. The hand thing isn't cutting it enough. I know your drive isn't as high as mine, but I'll make it extra special and more than enjoyable for you."

Also, maybe introducing new things is always fun and adds a KICK to the mess, so that when you go back to 'normal' sex, it feels fresh. That's how I view it anyway.

I know some people have really high and really low sex drives, but sometimes you gotta meet closer to the middle if you're in a relationship. That big C word, compromise is something I had to get used to, but not with sex because my last fag was just as horny as me. I don't think more/less sex is a huge battle though.

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How do you effectively communicate to your partner(relationship or not) that you want more OR less sex?

now this one is a tough one..
because I've never been in a situation where we don't have the same sex drive.
As tops tho.. we can be very selfish and not considerate of the other teams..
Like they could've ate some mess the day before.. or the day of.. and we just want some sporadic sex like straights

Hmph.
But I think u guys should come up with a communication mess..

My last relationship me and my ex reached a point where we got really busy .. and because we were working so much.. our sex sorta started being once a week..
but one might've wanted to mess while another one was sleep.. visa versa

So..

What we did was..
We created a thing where if one of us was horny.. we would wear white underwear around the crib and that way.. we just knew.. cuz other times it was organic and just happened.
But this way.. no key went unturned

It was sorta iconic

And eliminated any arguments or disappointments