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[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

the sex will?

Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?

yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection


Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it

Well I can't really judge...
I have my idea of marriage and it being very sacred but if it works for u guys then that is beautiful..
you have someone that understands who u were before them and they love u through that

That's a huge level of security
You guys pretty much have an open marriage

I'm way too possessive for that bby 🥴

lol It is not open lol 
But after my awakening Ive realized its only fear that tells us a piece of paper binds you to someone
or that someone owns you or that you cant love anyone else
and the idea that if you share something with another you are cheating the you only belong to me system

its not congruent with the human experience
this is where monique was right in that having an open marriage really means the trust and honesty is there with one another to have a safe enough space to share your emotions and feelings and express them

the paradox is usually this brings a couple closer

but bby how is it not when ur carrying on still with a 4 year relationship mess that was started before ur marriage? 

Well considering that u agree with Mon, how is ur situation any different when it's literally that?
Even though it's not physical .. you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally invested in this other guy..
it's an open marriage bby
And that's ok 

Cuz u have someone that loves u through it
How would u feel if ur hubby stepped owt a bit tho?

well yes my connection is everything but the physical connection
and i cant turn that off because I love someone else and i shouldnt have to lol
it would be weird to tell him oop gotta drop u now 

my husband betta not step oWT nuthib unless we both agree on the mess and the person


ion play that sneaky shit

but yes technically it would be open but not really i see it as alike a baby mma situation lol
if it wasnt open id be having an emotional affair i guess

lew this isn't fair 

U get to continue this relationship with this other nigga and expect ur husband to allow u both to mess with someone if he decides he wants to step owt
What if the other party didn't want u luv?



Jdjsjdj
This is kinda ghetto 

Like what
How dare u carry owt this one sided mess

Ur being greedy

well  lol

the other party doesnt have to be involved with me
but they must know about me and meet me

My husband has this russian girl thats always slobbering after his dick
i told her we need to get her some dick so she can stop fantasising bout my husband
but they are friends
hes been with women before so i get suspicious but
he doesnt want ha like that

[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

 

[🦚]

Sle u ever been in a relationship bby?

mutiple.

[RatherBe]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

the sex will?

Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?

yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection


Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it

Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

the sex will?

Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?

yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection


Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it

Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this

how the person is just a friend that im close with lol 

[RatherBe]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

the sex will?

Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?

yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection


Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it

Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this

how the person is just a friend that im close with lol 

if matt ever thought about-... Chile. there would be blood on the dance floor. and we aint even married yet.

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

the sex will?

Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?

yes a close relationship without sex becomes a platonic connection


Yes and NO
When I explained the connection to my husband He accepted it and isnt insecure about it
but that maybe because He isnt physically here
but for the most part they are friends as well because me and him are so close
we say i love you s and flirt as well and hubby knows about it and is a secure King about it

Im not judging because I said this is a safe space but... this is... unconventional, ive never imagined a situation like this

how the person is just a friend that im close with lol 

if matt ever thought about-... Chile. there would be blood on the dance floor. and we aint even married yet.

letoya luckets back to life vidya explored this topic lol
she was like homegirl was just a lil too comfortbale lmao

but thats just insecurity talking tbh

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

if you wanna fuck, you wanna fuck imo

both are adults and this isn't disneyland

plenty of solid relationships began with fuckin on the first night. protect urself and do what u want

Young: You rang ?

[b7]

Oooh this is a GREAT thread idea

Although, during this quarantine mess, i ain't got no sex and relationship mess to share right now

[HUGO]

First question.

In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?

this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat

It honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually

I've learned that sex is giving too much power in a relationship..
it is 100% important but it is something that can be built upon verses a connection.. I feel that that is very natural .. something that sorta just happens .. and u can't really work on that.. it either is or it isn't

!!! I know how to kinda weed out niggas that just wanna fuck and niggas I know I'm compatible with and wanna get to know If I have chemistry with someone and there's a connection...I tend to wait before we dive into sex. Mainly because I can see potential and want  us to get to know each other more. 9/10 if the chemistry is there I feel like the sex is most likely gonna be good when we do get there. Throwing sex into the mix early on can sometimes complicate things.

[Blackpantha]

Sex is a very crucial part of a relationship. And exploring that part early gives you an idea of how the relationship would go... 

[Amazing]

Sex on the first night baby and then go from there.


I've only been in relationships with guys where the sex has been amazing. And amazingly they were the kindest, sweetest and sexiest guys I dealt with.


Well one was a bit selfish but that was my first serious relationship so I didn't know any better.

[Edge gorl]

im really only talking to 2 guys rn, I was just in a 6 month relationship tht ended in february mind u.

one of tha dude has 4 kids so im not gon talk 'bout him

tha other guy who i see like evryday is fckin fine, he aint tht tall but he fine asf
we had sex for tha firs time yesterday night nd he toe my shit up, he frm tha south but idk how comfortable he is 100% like...bein with a girl like me.
be hes sweet, hope it goes somewhere.

[Bentley. HARRIS!]

Sex & Love ....

I use to think those things correlated ... but ... If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick

so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.

If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.

When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.

But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.

[Edge gorl]

Sex & Love ....

I use to think those things correlated ... but ... If sexual intercourse is the only time or way you guys can experience a non-physical euphoric mess together .... it will burn owt quick

so yea, with that said, it's very good to wait until you at least see elements of that person that align with you organically.

If you want something real that will last. You gotta find a deeper spiritual bond with somebody outside of what their body can do for you, or what your body can do for them.

When that happens, the intercourse is really so much better.

But in the same way good sex can't predict a relationship being good or lasting, sex on the first night won't determine those things either. It all depends on a person's mindset and how mature they are.

period