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[RatherBe]

Okay so I have shared my story of my relationship on here and I wanted to start this thread for those who have, boyfriends, girlfriends, baes, situationships... etc.

I was thinking to add questions here that me or Matt have... or it just might be a discussion topic.

Id like perspectives from EVERYONE... married, engaged, polyamorous, dont believe in love, in relationships, heart broken... whatever..

Just wanted to bring some new energy on the board so PLEASE participate. I think it could be fun and insightful.


First question.

In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?

this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

[RatherBe]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I get that. and id mostly agree, but do you think that not having sex until after would strengthen your bond?? the only part I dont agree with is saying its "crucial" to move forward. I know personally, im more spontaneous, comfortable and entertaining with sex when I feel secure... im sure if it felt like a tryout, it would be a different story for me.

[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

I mean, what if you unwrap a micro penis after all this waiting and saving mess?

[RatherBe]

I mean, what if you unwrap a micro penis after all this waiting and saving mess?

well see, I think that it shouldn't really be a surprise. we can have conversations about sex and the things theyd enjoy. So I  mean the same way id expect a guy to disclose that they're dick is really big, is it too much to expect that from a guy with a micropenis? I mean.... it aint like its gonna grow by the time we hop in the sack, so shit.. be honest I guess  lol 2 things would happen. 1. they are okay with it and willing to work through it 2. they aren't and they dissolve the relationship. you've saved time. idk im just playing devils advocate...

[GLOCK]

First question.

In dating, would you need to have sex to know if youre able to be in a relationship with an individual or do you believe that sex is something that should be saved until after you two(or three etc.) are exclusive?

this is a safe space guys.. come on in and take a seat

It honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually

I've learned that sex is giving too much power in a relationship..
it is 100% important but it is something that can be built upon verses a connection.. I feel that that is very natural .. something that sorta just happens .. and u can't really work on that.. it either is or it isn't

[GLOCK]

I mean, what if you unwrap a micro penis after all this waiting and saving mess?

well see, I think that it shouldn't really be a surprise. we can have conversations about sex and the things theyd enjoy. So I  mean the same way id expect a guy to disclose that they're dick is really big, is it too much to expect that from a guy with a micropenis? I mean.... it aint like its gonna grow by the time we hop in the sack, so shit.. be honest I guess  lol 2 things would happen. 1. they are okay with it and willing to work through it 2. they aren't and they dissolve the relationship. you've saved time. idk im just playing devils advocate...

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Yeah I think the girls should definitely MESS a bit before committing LMFAO

a lil dis and dat ain't never hurt nobody tbh

It's like trying on a shoe, taking it home and trying it on a bit more in a large mirror mess LMFAO..

U don't go outside tho unless u really know u want .. it

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I get that. and id mostly agree, but do you think that not having sex until after would strengthen your bond?? the only part I dont agree with is saying its "crucial" to move forward. I know personally, im more spontaneous, comfortable and entertaining with sex when I feel secure... im sure if it felt like a tryout, it would be a different story for me.

after sex the dynamics will shift either for better or for worse
if after you find there are some incompatibilities you can work on them as you progress but you would know that you want to work on them with that person

if you decide to wait it sets a more platonic love tone  at the begining and if you guys are sexually incompatible then you will give a lets just be friends tea after

if you get married or commited before you will just feel like something is missing and try to fill that empty space with something else in the relationship

No !  sex will strengthen the bond if its real lol
if it doesnt you have a good friend

[GLOCK]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

[GLOCK]

Also Baph has sex with everyone before he gets into a relationship with them 

a hoe owt.. 

[GLOCK]

Anyone that he chills with actually 

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

It honestly depends
I did feel that way until I've encountered someone that made me feel differently
Just being around them and sharing each other's time.. talking and just understanding each other.. the vibe felt strong enough that it didn't matter whether or not the sex was good .. and that it was worth committing to and then figuring each other out sexually

Aw that's beautiful.
I reckon it didn't work out in the end though?

[GLOCK]

Yes you need to have sex to know if you want a long term commitment with someone
sex is not only a physical act but a shared energy knowing how that energy flows is crucial to moving forward

I have a friend that's been in a relationship with someone for over a year and they still haven't had full on intercourse

Now for the life of me.. I don't understand 
But yeah I definitely think once ur in a relationship it is unhealthy to not be having sex

But I don't think it's necessarily a must before commitment


Sex makes shit complicated.. especially if u don't have a end goal in mind

LOL well I have been in a 4 year long distance relationship and its just as real as anything but
for the most part we would just be close friends without being intimate
extended time without it changes the dynamic to more platonic as i mentioned
so its possible but it will shift the dynamics

the sex will?

Ur in a relationship outside of ur marriage?

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

Would've been an amazing thread, but I ain't scrolling past lews insane mind boggling bs in here