I feel so bad. But should I?

Started by Herb., July 24, 2015, 09:39:31 PM

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Herb.

OK so there's this new person at my job, a young lady who just moved here from Georgia. She's 24 and has no family in the state. Yesterday, she told me that she was waiting on funds from her aunt and that she was trying to figure out what she'd be doing for the night, and asked if she could come back with me for an hour or two until she gets the word from her aunt.

I'm fiercely protective and private when it comes to where I stay and who I invite to come in, so instead I booked her a hotel room to stay in for the night so she didn't have to worry about everything and had more than enough time to relax and sort things out. 

I checked in on her today at work and she said everything was fine. She told me that things were good and everything was in place. I was glad to hear that. And just glad I could help in general.

But now she's texting me saying she's pretty much still in a bind with her aunt, waiting for stuff to come through, etc. At this point, I'm ignoring the texts and calls as well. It seems like she doesn't have her ducks in a row. And on top of that, it bothers me that she said she was expecting money last night, but it never came.

So your temporary "hour visit" at my place could've possibly turned into an all nighter? I'm glad she doesn't know where I rest my head. And happy I trusted my gut instincts. It seems like she's bitten off more than she can chew.

It's bothering me that she may be stranded.  :'( But another part of me is saying that I did what I could, but I cannot continue bailing her out. It's becoming a pattern now, and frankly I feel the need to nip it in the bud immediately so she knows.

SUPREME

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Helping her the first time was the mistake.

Don't move if you ain't prepared.

Treasure


Dee

You aren't wrong at all.

This flop maniac gorl JUST met you and she's like: woo! Invite me to tha crib! Perched for a few mins! :cheerup:

Buy The Stars✨

that was really nice of you.  I would say continue to help until you no longer can.  think about if it was you and what would you want someone to do if you needed help.  There could be a lot she hasnt told you on why she is in the position she is in now.  That is how i always try to think of things.  "what if it were me?"

iman

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You did the right thing by ignoring and not showing her your place. You were nice enough to get her a hotel room. It sounds to me like she has used the "1 hour" excuse in the past and squatted at other people's places. That's tacky. Just ignore her and keep it short and sweet when you see her at work. No need to get wrapped into another person's issues. I bet that whole aunt story was fake.

Fine Dining

You could've done more for her, you know.

She's only 24 yrs old, of course she's gonna be a bit rusty moving to a whole new place.
IMO, you're an asshole.

Dee

July 24, 2015, 09:48:14 PM #7 Last Edit: July 24, 2015, 09:48:33 PM by D.E.E
She clearly didn't have her shit in place before she decided to move

:letsmessfag:

????

bOY... the real question is ... did u FUCK ?


iman


Herb.

July 24, 2015, 09:50:35 PM #11 Last Edit: July 24, 2015, 09:51:14 PM by Herb.
:stressed:

I recently did a personality test and it said that it's actually a weakness of mine to make other people's problems my own. If I see someone in trouble and there's something I can do to help, I just automatically swoop in. I'm glad I read that because it came back to me once I helped her the first time. Like, "you're doing it again...this is not your problem" :dead:

I don't see anything wrong with helping people at all. But I don't like feeling like I've been lied to. And can't believe there are people out there who take advantage of kindness, cuz there aren't many genuinely kind people left in the world to be quite fucking honest. Regardless of how blessed they are themselves.

But like lil sis said, I need to keep it short and sweet with her at work. If she even shows up Monday. :dead: She just needs to truck it back to Georgia.

iman

Quote from: Nicholas_Styles on July 24, 2015, 09:46:12 PM
that was really nice of you.  I would say continue to help until you no longer can.  think about if it was you and what would you want someone to do if you needed help.  There could be a lot she hasnt told you on why she is in the position she is in now.  That is how i always try to think of things.  "what if it were me?"

I disagree. If we looked at everything that way then a lot of us would be dealing with so much issues ;ff :uhh: No ma'am. Afro was nice enough to get sis a hotel room for the night cause the average person would've just ignored her completely.

She should go to a homeless shelter. There are actually a lot of shelters for women in need, there are churches that usually let homeless people eat and sleep for free.


FRANCE

Wow, wonder what will happen when u see her at work on Monday. Let us know how that pans out.

But you did enough. Nice enough to put her up in a hotel. She did say a couple hrs and u gave her that and more by booking that hotel. If she comes up with more shit when u see her on Monday, ask her for the aunt's number to speak to her and see how she reacts.