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[Angel In Disguise]

I welcome it from someone who loves me and cares about me. Keep me in check and I'll keep you in check too.  The problem is most people can give it out, but can't receive it without getting offended. I'm my biggest critic anyway so I'm not easily offended.

[Herb.]

I welcome it from someone who loves me and cares about me. Keep me in check and I'll keep you in check too.  The problem is most people can give it out, but can't receive it without getting offended. I'm my biggest critic anyway so I'm not easily offended.

and there u have it.

[brocka4life]

They're called parents.

[∧ ∨ ∩ ∪]

I really don't care. I'm going to do what I want regardless of opinion or feelings. Family, Friends or Strangers. Idc.

[DraeDrizzl3]

I really don't care. I'm going to do what I want regardless of opinion or feelings. Family, Friends or Strangers. Idc.

pretty fucking much.

Until, if I'm blessed with them, I have children, I honestly won't care about other's opinions. I'm the only person who pays these bills and caskets don't come as bunk beds so..

[KING BENTLEY.]

I welcome it from someone who loves me and cares about me. Keep me in check and I'll keep you in check too.  The problem is most people can give it out, but can't receive it without getting offended. I'm my biggest critic anyway so I'm not easily offended.

Well.. lemme just be helpful here lolz

Judgement should never be ok. And someone who loves you would not judge you. And even if you are very critical of yourself, it can be sometimes be a sign of low self-esteem if you allow others to judge you. There is a thing called "constructive criticism" which is VERY different from judgement.

Which is what I think you are referring to, constructive criticism, which is what someone who loves you would give, not judgement.

It can be quite easy and confusing to get the two mixed up, and stay in context, so I read what you wrote and I understand what you mean.

[Herb.]

I welcome it from someone who loves me and cares about me. Keep me in check and I'll keep you in check too.  The problem is most people can give it out, but can't receive it without getting offended. I'm my biggest critic anyway so I'm not easily offended.

It can be quite easy and confusing to get the two mixed up

Which is what I've been saying from page 1 of this thread but you didn't agree with me.

Many people confuse the two. Which makes it so subjective based on reception

[KING BENTLEY.]

I really don't care. I'm going to do what I want regardless of opinion or feelings. Family, Friends or Strangers. Idc.

pretty fucking much.

Until, if I'm blessed with them, I have children, I honestly won't care about other's opinions. I'm the only person who pays these bills and caskets don't come as bunk beds so..

ssssss

but !!!!!!

I feel sorry for ppl who judge and for ppl who allow themselves to be judged. Judgement is not a sign of love, but more a means to determine punishment.

[KING BENTLEY.]

I welcome it from someone who loves me and cares about me. Keep me in check and I'll keep you in check too.  The problem is most people can give it out, but can't receive it without getting offended. I'm my biggest critic anyway so I'm not easily offended.

It can be quite easy and confusing to get the two mixed up

Which is what I've been saying from page 1 of this thread but you didn't agree with me.

Many people confuse the two. Which makes it so subjective based on reception

But sis, that doesn't make it subjective, just because someone doesn't know the difference.

Judgement is judgement

and constructive criticism is a separate process. period.

That's why I corrected him, so he won't go around his whole life thinking he has to tolerate ppl that judge him

if that was the case gays and blacks would have no case against racial judgment because it's "subjective" and we would be deemed as being too "sensitive"

That was the point of the thread 

[FINE.]

Ur asking this as if it's something out of the norm. Ppl are judged everyday.

[Herb.]

it is subjective.

just as the words pretty and ugly both have clear definitions
but it's still all in the eyes of the beholder. one person could be foine to one person and yuck to the next.
you busted out the Oxford dictionary as if that meant something in this conversation. no shade, it's all about reception.

[KING BENTLEY.]

Ur asking this as if it's something out of the norm. Ppl are judged everyday.

ok.

but the question was ... what is your reaction to it?

[KING BENTLEY.]

It just depends... I always cherish honest and unquestionable friendships. But there's a difference between calling out things because you care and just being judged...

If someone judges you and doesnt agree with attributes that define you as an individual, then I dont see how yall can truly be friends..

THIS!!!!

[Herb.]

And like someone said, people are judged every day.
Even by people on the internet judging whether their relationship is real, or for publicity...on their decisions on who their baby's father should be.....

That's judgement in its purest form.
Speaking to your friend with a spirit of concern is much different. But may be taken as judgement if they misunderstand where you're coming from, which by the way, happens a lot.

[Angel In Disguise]

I welcome it from someone who loves me and cares about me. Keep me in check and I'll keep you in check too.  The problem is most people can give it out, but can't receive it without getting offended. I'm my biggest critic anyway so I'm not easily offended.

Well.. lemme just be helpful here lolz

Judgement should never be ok. And someone who loves you would not judge you. And even if you are very critical of yourself, it can be sometimes be a sign of low self-esteem if you allow others to judge you. There is a thing called "constructive criticism" which is VERY different from judgement.

Which is what I think you are referring to, constructive criticism, which is what someone who loves you would give, not judgement.

It can be quite easy and confusing to get the two mixed up, and stay in context, so I read what you wrote and I understand what you mean.

I thought you meant judged as in I do something wrong and they tell me I'm wrong.  I welcome that. I disagree with "all judgment is wrong." I will definitely judge a tree by its fruit. It's not my job to cut it down, though. I just know where not to eat. A judgment is a decision based on evidence.