Toxic & abusive friendships

Started by LOONA., March 05, 2016, 08:08:10 PM

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LOONA.

I guess I have my answer then.

:stressed:   


SUPREME

Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 10:33:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 10:29:56 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
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Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

Just curious but how often do you keep "friends" around who like you?

:omgwatshappening:
LLKKKOKOKOOKO

SUPREME

Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:00:10 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 05, 2016, 11:57:42 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

The only thing toxic is the jealousy he has because he's probably in love with you. It will only get worse because you will always be you and he will always be him, with feelings for you. He can't decide to put them away one day.

The thing is though he told me recently he wasn't in love with me anymore and the feelings aren't as strong as they were in the past.

   

you guys hangout still.

hes lying

SUPREME

Quote from: Blues trans clue on March 06, 2016, 12:37:47 AM
still wann' come down thea & rough tha faggot up for messin wit ya tho bruv

ugh
#protectivebroproblems
mmmmmmmmmmm

throwintheTAL

Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 11:34:14 PM
We messed before his love confession though so I refuse to take the blame.

:hmph:   

what type of mess occurred  :ohwow:

RekeRig

Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM
Depends...I can forgive a mistake if I see it was a genuine mistake and the friend is working on not letting it happen again.

One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.
pretty damn much

RekeRig

Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.

LOONA.

Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa.

!!!!!!!!

   


KING BENTLEY.

Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:
s

i love WHACKING a phagg back to reality


H.#.G.*.Z

KING BENTLEY.

Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
!!!!

I've always felt that quote was too simple. I'm sure she meant much more context to it.

H.#.G.*.Z

L0NZ.

March 06, 2016, 10:37:47 AM #55 Last Edit: March 06, 2016, 10:38:35 AM by L0NZ.
Quote from: BENTLEY! on March 06, 2016, 10:31:48 AM
Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
!!!!

I've always felt that quote was too simple. I'm sure she meant much more context to it.

Right. Its not always them showing you something negative that you should believe. If they can show you they are remorseful, believe them the same. If they can show you they are trustworthy, believe them.


KING BENTLEY.

Quote from: Blues trans clue on March 06, 2016, 12:37:47 AM
still wann' come down thea & rough tha faggot up for messin wit ya tho bruv

ugh
#protectivebroproblems
sssssss

but WAIT girls... we're letting my fav sis Drai' off the hook too easy

Drai'... something you said
but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship.

do you even remotely have feelings for this boy and like having him around?

cause that might be whats tearing him apart, cause sis if yawl are right for each other he might be gone by the time you get ready to be in a relationship

H.#.G.*.Z

KING BENTLEY.

March 06, 2016, 10:42:34 AM #57 Last Edit: March 06, 2016, 10:43:15 AM by BENTLEY!
cause I've kinda been where he is before

where I've become friends with someone that I had a connection with, but they claimed they weren't ready

but calling me and texting me all the time like a relationship

then when I moved on, they wanted to meet up and give a "oh am ready to be in a relationship, was just so scared before" speech

H.#.G.*.Z

LOONA.

I told I liked him as a friend and that's kinda it.

:mmyucudnvr:   


RekeRig

Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:32:29 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

how long have you known this friend?

he needs to get a damn clue and move on. the drama isn't going to conjure any romantic feelings, it's only gonna result in him losing a friend.
!!!!

Love me!!! Look at me!!! 

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