Qualities someone MUST have before dating???

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Vonc2002

Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 02:03:59 PM
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Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?
it depends, sometimes yes. I have to feel like the other person is being completely transparent and open for me to completely let down my guard, otherwise im always ready to toss a bit :nowgorl:

I see. Does this go for just your significant other or anybody in general?
any and everybody. I let my grandomter have it one day, dont play with me, grandma :plzstop:

:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:

You're a hot head huh. How do you make it thru the day ?
Im honestly not as hot headed as I come off on here. I just believe that EVERYONE can be put in their place, no one is exempt imo

Define putting in your place ? And shouldn't there be a way to settle things and find a common ground with out "putting someone in their place" or even leading up to that.
It depends, too many variables. It depends on who it is, what the situation is, how strongly I feel about it, etc. Im honestly a very rational person and am open to calmly and peacefully settling things. Another factor is the way u come at me, very important if u expect me to not just hear u but LISTEN
This is my pass to say WHATEVER tf I wanna say about the mess she releases so I don't wanna hear SHIT! Baby mama is a mess of a song btw





Zankou.

Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:58:48 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 01:57:08 PM
Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:56:05 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 01:54:01 PM
Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:51:24 PM
Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?
it depends, sometimes yes. I have to feel like the other person is being completely transparent and open for me to completely let down my guard, otherwise im always ready to toss a bit :nowgorl:

I see. Does this go for just your significant other or anybody in general?
any and everybody. I let my grandomter have it one day, dont play with me, grandma :plzstop:

:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:

You're a hot head huh. How do you make it thru the day ?

yeah he is

L0NZ.

Def cant deal with a closed off person. If you cant be vulnerable then you cant be honest. And from that point youre disingenuous and disconnected.  No and no thanks. I feel like those who cant express themselves fully, for whatever reason, miss out on growing. You dont know what type of conversations, answers, epiphanies you can have with others if you could open up. It also wreaks of insecurity. That "have a wall!" "guard up!" mess is so dramatic. Grow up.


Real

Quote from: GRAND on May 24, 2016, 02:05:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

I guess with me, I have to feel like there's some practical reason for explaining. Like, if it's something that you have no way of helping to resolve.....wtf am I telling you for? You can't do anything about it.

BAPHOMET.

Quote from: GRAND on May 24, 2016, 02:03:03 PM
I sometimes wonder if I'm delusional and I'm actually an evil person

I like want so many old people (racist ones mostly) to leave this earth

Like, death is us for best.

I actually think a big chunk of people need to just drop dead.
That includes

Murderers
Most of all racist (the REALLLY racist that looks down on immigrants and the KKK-type)
and rude old people.


Vonc2002

Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:06:02 PM
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Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
oh no, I get that. Im very respectful of personal space because I need mine too. I definitely go thru my "leave me alone" phases but I will expect to be clued tf in at some point

Oh ok  :dead: although I'm not clueing in later. Once I'm over it, I ain't rehashing.
HONESTLY, i see this from u :dead:
u seem a bit selfish at times, luv u :traciandchelle:
This is my pass to say WHATEVER tf I wanna say about the mess she releases so I don't wanna hear SHIT! Baby mama is a mess of a song btw





Lazarus

Quote from: Baphomet. on May 24, 2016, 02:04:40 PM
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Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:51:24 PM
Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?

I try my hardest with my Bf.. I really... really do....... Now.
It was this one conversation when we were just getting to know each other and a topic came up and welll.... LMAO.

I couldn't hold back. I kinda laid into his scalp.

What were y'all discussing that made you BLOW UP?

Surely you two could've resolved y'all issue in a calming and rationale matter.

I honestly rather not go into full detail. Not trying to delve too much.
But he was caught off guard at how defensive I got. I dunno why I did at the time. But I apologized afterwards........ The next day.

Ok I can respect that. I'm glad you apologized but the next time you feel like a situation is about to occur just simply walking away, take a walk and clear your head and remember it's never that deep.

Vonc2002

Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:08:48 PM
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Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

I guess with me, I have to feel like there's some practical reason for explaining. Like, if it's something that you have no way of helping to resolve.....wtf am I telling you for? You can't do anything about it.
:dead: :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead:
smh
This is my pass to say WHATEVER tf I wanna say about the mess she releases so I don't wanna hear SHIT! Baby mama is a mess of a song btw





BAPHOMET.

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Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?

I try my hardest with my Bf.. I really... really do....... Now.
It was this one conversation when we were just getting to know each other and a topic came up and welll.... LMAO.

I couldn't hold back. I kinda laid into his scalp.

What were y'all discussing that made you BLOW UP?

Surely you two could've resolved y'all issue in a calming and rationale matter.

I honestly rather not go into full detail. Not trying to delve too much.

l;l;l

no comment. plz stop rolling.




FINE.

Down to earth
Affectionate (u have to lowkey be obsessed with me) :ohwow:
Good sense of humor (I like to be silly but not overly. Know when to take me serious)
Please be a movie and music lover
Handsome of course
Spontaneous
Low key

BAPHOMET.

Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 02:09:22 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on May 24, 2016, 02:04:40 PM
Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 02:01:24 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on May 24, 2016, 01:58:47 PM
Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:51:24 PM
Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?

I try my hardest with my Bf.. I really... really do....... Now.
It was this one conversation when we were just getting to know each other and a topic came up and welll.... LMAO.

I couldn't hold back. I kinda laid into his scalp.

What were y'all discussing that made you BLOW UP?

Surely you two could've resolved y'all issue in a calming and rationale matter.

I honestly rather not go into full detail. Not trying to delve too much.
But he was caught off guard at how defensive I got. I dunno why I did at the time. But I apologized afterwards........ The next day.

Ok I can respect that. I'm glad you apologized but the next time you feel like a situation is about to occur just simply walking away, take a walk and clear your head and remember it's never that deep.

so true  :stressed:



Lazarus

Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:06:41 PM
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Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:58:48 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 01:57:08 PM
Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:56:05 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 01:54:01 PM
Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:51:24 PM
Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?
it depends, sometimes yes. I have to feel like the other person is being completely transparent and open for me to completely let down my guard, otherwise im always ready to toss a bit :nowgorl:

I see. Does this go for just your significant other or anybody in general?
any and everybody. I let my grandomter have it one day, dont play with me, grandma :plzstop:

:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:

You're a hot head huh. How do you make it thru the day ?
Im honestly not as hot headed as I come off on here. I just believe that EVERYONE can be put in their place, no one is exempt imo

Define putting in your place ? And shouldn't there be a way to settle things and find a common ground with out "putting someone in their place" or even leading up to that.
It depends, too many variables. It depends on who it is, what the situation is, how strongly I feel about it, etc. Im honestly a very rational person and am open to calmly and peacefully settling things. Another factor is the way u come at me, very important if u expect me to not just hear u but LISTEN

Very true. The way you come at a person can set the tone of how the conversation will go. Sounds like to me it's either Vonc's way or no way with you. Do you have a hard time opening up to others ?

L0NZ.

Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:08:48 PM
Quote from: GRAND on May 24, 2016, 02:05:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

I guess with me, I have to feel like there's some practical reason for explaining. Like, if it's something that you have no way of helping to resolve.....wtf am I telling you for? You can't do anything about it.

Because its not about helping you resolve the actual, practical issue. Its about comforting you and offering moral support. But youre (generally speaking) so uptight, not vulnerable and emotionless that you cant appreciate or savor the feeling of someone trying to love on your feelings. But a wall of bricks to you too


Real

Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:08:58 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:06:02 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:04:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
oh no, I get that. Im very respectful of personal space because I need mine too. I definitely go thru my "leave me alone" phases but I will expect to be clued tf in at some point

Oh ok  :dead: although I'm not clueing in later. Once I'm over it, I ain't rehashing.
HONESTLY, i see this from u :dead:
u seem a bit selfish at times, luv u :traciandchelle:

:dead: :dead: it's like the complete opposite of selfish to me. It don't need to be both of our problem. No need in worrying you over something you can't help with

I just :melmel: