Qualities someone MUST have before dating???

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L0NZ.

Quote from: haitian creole. on May 24, 2016, 02:11:29 PM
Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:07:20 PM
Def cant deal with a closed off person. If you cant be vulnerable then you cant be honest. And from that point youre disingenuous and disconnected. 
THIS is the problem I have with the guy I mentioned earlier in here.

It's like I cannot trust him. He makes me laugh and I enjoy his company but a big part of me cannot take him seriously because I feel he's not honest with a lot of things he says.

But with me, if I feel like I've caught you in one lie, everything else you say from that point is not taken seriously.

Otherwise he's perfect, and that really fucking sucks. :stressed: No one makes me crack up like him. :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop: my stomach literally be hurting

Yea a big part of vulnerability is the courage to actually speak from your heart, even if itll make you feel well.....vulnerable dd



Real

Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:12:55 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:08:48 PM
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Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

I guess with me, I have to feel like there's some practical reason for explaining. Like, if it's something that you have no way of helping to resolve.....wtf am I telling you for? You can't do anything about it.

Because its not about helping you resolve the actual, practical issue. Its about comforting you and offering moral support. But youre (generally speaking) so uptight, not vulnerable and emotionless that you cant appreciate or savor the feeling of someone trying to love on your feelings. But a wall of bricks to you too

I get that and I do appreciate it. But tbh it doesn't really help for me personally. Unless I need some advice or an opinion....then yeah, I'm coming straight to you. You can support me by giving me that space and then doing something to take my mind OFF of whatever the issue is. That works so much better for me.

L0NZ.

Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:13:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:08:58 PM
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Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
oh no, I get that. Im very respectful of personal space because I need mine too. I definitely go thru my "leave me alone" phases but I will expect to be clued tf in at some point

Oh ok  :dead: although I'm not clueing in later. Once I'm over it, I ain't rehashing.
HONESTLY, i see this from u :dead:
u seem a bit selfish at times, luv u :traciandchelle:

:dead: :dead: it's like the complete opposite of selfish to me. It don't need to be both of our problem. No need in worrying you over something you can't help with

I just :melmel:

Um if they ASK you, you're not worrying or burdening them. Be receptive to someone being concerned about your feelings. You have them, whether you acknowledge them or not.


L0NZ.

Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:16:14 PM
Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:12:55 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:08:48 PM
Quote from: GRAND on May 24, 2016, 02:05:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

I guess with me, I have to feel like there's some practical reason for explaining. Like, if it's something that you have no way of helping to resolve.....wtf am I telling you for? You can't do anything about it.

Because its not about helping you resolve the actual, practical issue. Its about comforting you and offering moral support. But youre (generally speaking) so uptight, not vulnerable and emotionless that you cant appreciate or savor the feeling of someone trying to love on your feelings. But a wall of bricks to you too

I get that and I do appreciate it. But tbh it doesn't really help for me personally. Unless I need some advice or an opinion....then yeah, I'm coming straight to you. You can support me by giving me that space and then doing something to take my mind OFF of whatever the issue is. That works so much better for me.

ch. aint nobody sucking your dick to distract.


GRAND

Quote from: Kurama on May 24, 2016, 02:06:26 PM
Quote from: GRAND on May 24, 2016, 02:05:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

That has been an issue for my past partners. I need me time and I share with them eventually but not right off of the bat. Especially if I feel like they aren't as expressive or vulnerable as I am.
I hate when I feel like I'm the only one talking. That was a problem for me in the past

Real

Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:17:25 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:13:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:08:58 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:06:02 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:04:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
oh no, I get that. Im very respectful of personal space because I need mine too. I definitely go thru my "leave me alone" phases but I will expect to be clued tf in at some point

Oh ok  :dead: although I'm not clueing in later. Once I'm over it, I ain't rehashing.
HONESTLY, i see this from u :dead:
u seem a bit selfish at times, luv u :traciandchelle:

:dead: :dead: it's like the complete opposite of selfish to me. It don't need to be both of our problem. No need in worrying you over something you can't help with

I just :melmel:

Um if they ASK you, you're not worrying or burdening them. Be receptive to someone being concerned about your feelings. You have them, whether you acknowledge them or not.

Are we not gonna get together now :diddraispoot:

L0NZ.



Real

Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:18:31 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:16:14 PM
Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:12:55 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:08:48 PM
Quote from: GRAND on May 24, 2016, 02:05:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
YES. We don't have to talk about it then, but eventually I need to know.

Why wouldn't you want to share why you're unhappy with me? Faggot I'm the love of your life.  :hmph:

Plus it builds trust. I'd feel insulted if someone constantly rejected conversations with me.

I guess with me, I have to feel like there's some practical reason for explaining. Like, if it's something that you have no way of helping to resolve.....wtf am I telling you for? You can't do anything about it.

Because its not about helping you resolve the actual, practical issue. Its about comforting you and offering moral support. But youre (generally speaking) so uptight, not vulnerable and emotionless that you cant appreciate or savor the feeling of someone trying to love on your feelings. But a wall of bricks to you too

I get that and I do appreciate it. But tbh it doesn't really help for me personally. Unless I need some advice or an opinion....then yeah, I'm coming straight to you. You can support me by giving me that space and then doing something to take my mind OFF of whatever the issue is. That works so much better for me.

ch. aint nobody sucking your dick to distract.

:plzstop: :plzstop:

Vonc2002

Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 02:12:39 PM
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Quote from: Zinc on May 24, 2016, 01:51:24 PM
Do y'all know how to have a rationale conversation without let y'all pride or ego get in the way?
it depends, sometimes yes. I have to feel like the other person is being completely transparent and open for me to completely let down my guard, otherwise im always ready to toss a bit :nowgorl:

I see. Does this go for just your significant other or anybody in general?
any and everybody. I let my grandomter have it one day, dont play with me, grandma :plzstop:

:plzstop: :plzstop: :plzstop:

You're a hot head huh. How do you make it thru the day ?
Im honestly not as hot headed as I come off on here. I just believe that EVERYONE can be put in their place, no one is exempt imo

Define putting in your place ? And shouldn't there be a way to settle things and find a common ground with out "putting someone in their place" or even leading up to that.
It depends, too many variables. It depends on who it is, what the situation is, how strongly I feel about it, etc. Im honestly a very rational person and am open to calmly and peacefully settling things. Another factor is the way u come at me, very important if u expect me to not just hear u but LISTEN

Very true. The way you come at a person can set the tone of how the conversation will go. Sounds like to me it's either Vonc's way or no way with you. Do you have a hard time opening up to others ?
no, im an open person. Its not my way or the highway BUT if I feel like im totally right about something, its not likely i'll submit easily. I definitely have to work on that. and like i said, this is the way i am in all relationships. I have a friend I had a petty ass argument with and I felt completely and totally justified in how I felt. we didnt speak for a yr :plzstop:
and because he was the same unwilling to budge type, neither of us were willing to take down. I ultimately had to call him and was like I miss u man and this is stupid. we had a long, DUMB ass convo about it and we're better than ever. He also admitted he was wrong so that made me feel better LOLZ!
This is my pass to say WHATEVER tf I wanna say about the mess she releases so I don't wanna hear SHIT! Baby mama is a mess of a song btw





L0NZ.

Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:18:35 PM
Quote from: Aalonso on May 24, 2016, 02:17:25 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:13:36 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:08:58 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:06:02 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on May 24, 2016, 02:04:10 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on May 24, 2016, 02:02:04 PM
Vonc and Supreme

So if your boyfriend/girlfriend comes home, obviously having a bad day or whatever.....you ask what's wrong and they say they don't really wanna talk about it. They just wanna go to their bedroom and chill out for a lil bit. That would bother you?
oh no, I get that. Im very respectful of personal space because I need mine too. I definitely go thru my "leave me alone" phases but I will expect to be clued tf in at some point

Oh ok  :dead: although I'm not clueing in later. Once I'm over it, I ain't rehashing.
HONESTLY, i see this from u :dead:
u seem a bit selfish at times, luv u :traciandchelle:

:dead: :dead: it's like the complete opposite of selfish to me. It don't need to be both of our problem. No need in worrying you over something you can't help with

I just :melmel:

Um if they ASK you, you're not worrying or burdening them. Be receptive to someone being concerned about your feelings. You have them, whether you acknowledge them or not.

Are we not gonna get together now :diddraispoot:

dont have to get together when you stay together