How did you grow up.. Poor, middle class, wealthy or rich? And did it affect

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Quote from: ralfael on July 01, 2016, 06:03:57 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on July 01, 2016, 05:51:41 PM
I grew up in a pretty rough neighborhood in the Bronx (thanks to gentrification, it's damn near the suburbs now). Both of my parents are immigrants who came to the states looking for a better opportunity. I saw my mother work a part-time job, earn a college degree and raise a family, so that definitely fuels me to push myself as far as I can. Growing up I saw money/wealth as the end goal, we're all pretty much programmed to believe that the "american dream" is to end up rich and/or working a "good job" in corporate america (which is what I'm doing now :bvy: ).

I'm still trying to figure out what exactly I want for a career or what my ultimate goal is and it's frustrating.

If you need any advice, suggestions, let me know.

And being "rich" is not the end goal, by the way.

Yeah, I realized that a while ago. Growing up in the crevices of the hood gives you a different perspective on wealth and personal success.

I had to unlearn a lot of the things I was taught about what equates to happiness and not measuring my goals alongside someone else's.

Rxxf

Quote from: ANIMMAI on July 01, 2016, 06:07:26 PM
Quote from: ralfael on July 01, 2016, 06:03:57 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on July 01, 2016, 05:51:41 PM
I grew up in a pretty rough neighborhood in the Bronx (thanks to gentrification, it's damn near the suburbs now). Both of my parents are immigrants who came to the states looking for a better opportunity. I saw my mother work a part-time job, earn a college degree and raise a family, so that definitely fuels me to push myself as far as I can. Growing up I saw money/wealth as the end goal, we're all pretty much programmed to believe that the "american dream" is to end up rich and/or working a "good job" in corporate america (which is what I'm doing now :bvy: ).

I'm still trying to figure out what exactly I want for a career or what my ultimate goal is and it's frustrating.

If you need any advice, suggestions, let me know.

And being "rich" is not the end goal, by the way.

Yeah, I realized that a while ago. Growing up in the crevices of the hood gives you a different perspective on wealth and personal success.

I had to unlearn a lot of the things I was taught about what equates to happiness and not measuring my goals alongside someone else's.

There you go.
BRANDY


RAY7

Quote from: Zinc on July 01, 2016, 05:47:08 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 01, 2016, 05:40:02 PM
Quote from: Zinc on July 01, 2016, 05:38:00 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 01, 2016, 05:26:54 PM
Quote from: Zinc on July 01, 2016, 04:40:18 PM
Did any of y'all participate in Upward Bound program or have that program in y'all state ??

What is that? First time ever hearing of it.

A program that was designed for high school students in the 9th grade.

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Upward Bound provides fundamental support to participants in their preparation for college entrance. The program provides opportunities for participants to succeed in their precollege performance and ultimately in their higher education pursuits. Upward Bound serves: high school students from low-income families; and high school students from families in which neither parent holds a bachelor's degree. The goal of Upward Bound is to increase the rate at which participants complete secondary education and enroll in and graduate from institutions of postsecondary education.

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Upward Bound is a nationwide, federally funded educational program, authorized by the Higher Education Act of 1965, for high school students. The Upward Bound Program at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County was initiated in 1989. The Program?s design promotes the development and enhancement of students? basic skills, academic and cultural enrichment, and the motivation necessary to matriculate at and graduate from college. To insure students? complete development, participation in  program activities is mandatory.

Upward Bound serves students who have demonstrated academic potential and who meet the income and first generation to obtain a four year college degree criteria established by the U.S. Department of Education. The Program provides students and their parents with an opportunity to invest in students? futures and thus realize their potential and goals.

This is the gist of it. In the summer you lived on campus of the university you were assigned to for like 8 weeks but I believe you could go home in the weekends. Great experience. Freedom from parents. Woo!

Omg not living on campus during high school. This sounds like a slay. We did have a program at high school that let us take general college courses in advance but it wasn't no mess like this. 

:gorlonfire:

Yeah it was a slay unfortunately my dumbass didn't participate and was too lazy to attend the meetings every Saturday which was require to live on campus during the summer so I missed out. My friend told me about her experience about how they took trips, got gift cards to retails stores like Old Navy, etc, living on campus. Ugh I missed out big time. And it was all 9th graders from different schools if you met the requirements tho.
I knew a few ppl who did upward bound
I dont remember why I didnt do it but I heard great things

Rxxf

My ongoing goal... as I don't believe of any "end" type of a goal, more-so "one-stepping-stone-to-another"... is maintaining/growing my financial income and working less hours to do so. I'll have the opportunity to do that maybe in the next 5 years. Also, am I making an impact? And am I being impacted by others? And what am I doing with that to help shape myself and those around me for the better.

But the biggest ongoing goal is my continued PEACE and CONTENTment, and solidification of my spiritual connection.
Without that, obstacles-setbacks and all of life's crazy can really throw you off.

BRANDY



GRAND

Quote from: ralfael on July 01, 2016, 06:14:27 PM
Also, am I making an impact? And am I being impacted by others? And what am I doing with that to help shape myself and those around me for the better.


I used to not care about that, until the past year or so

:dead:

Now I want to see everyone around me succeed, because I know it can be done. Plus it's a nice feeling knowing you helped develop someone.

Rxxf

Quote from: GRAND on July 01, 2016, 06:16:18 PM
Quote from: ralfael on July 01, 2016, 06:14:27 PM
Also, am I making an impact? And am I being impacted by others? And what am I doing with that to help shape myself and those around me for the better.


I used to not care about that, until the past year or so

:dead:

Now I want to see everyone around me succeed, because I know it can be done. Plus it's a nice feeling knowing you helped develop someone.

And even when you help someone, they're helping you.
It does feel good to see GOOD-hearted people with positive intentions succeed.
BRANDY

Lazarus

Quote from: Yar backwards on July 01, 2016, 06:11:57 PM
Quote from: Zinc on July 01, 2016, 05:47:08 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 01, 2016, 05:40:02 PM
Quote from: Zinc on July 01, 2016, 05:38:00 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 01, 2016, 05:26:54 PM
Quote from: Zinc on July 01, 2016, 04:40:18 PM
Did any of y'all participate in Upward Bound program or have that program in y'all state ??

What is that? First time ever hearing of it.

A program that was designed for high school students in the 9th grade.

Quote
Upward Bound provides fundamental support to participants in their preparation for college entrance. The program provides opportunities for participants to succeed in their precollege performance and ultimately in their higher education pursuits. Upward Bound serves: high school students from low-income families; and high school students from families in which neither parent holds a bachelor's degree. The goal of Upward Bound is to increase the rate at which participants complete secondary education and enroll in and graduate from institutions of postsecondary education.

Quote
Upward Bound is a nationwide, federally funded educational program, authorized by the Higher Education Act of 1965, for high school students. The Upward Bound Program at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County was initiated in 1989. The Program?s design promotes the development and enhancement of students? basic skills, academic and cultural enrichment, and the motivation necessary to matriculate at and graduate from college. To insure students? complete development, participation in  program activities is mandatory.

Upward Bound serves students who have demonstrated academic potential and who meet the income and first generation to obtain a four year college degree criteria established by the U.S. Department of Education. The Program provides students and their parents with an opportunity to invest in students? futures and thus realize their potential and goals.

This is the gist of it. In the summer you lived on campus of the university you were assigned to for like 8 weeks but I believe you could go home in the weekends. Great experience. Freedom from parents. Woo!

Omg not living on campus during high school. This sounds like a slay. We did have a program at high school that let us take general college courses in advance but it wasn't no mess like this. 

:gorlonfire:

Yeah it was a slay unfortunately my dumbass didn't participate and was too lazy to attend the meetings every Saturday which was require to live on campus during the summer so I missed out. My friend told me about her experience about how they took trips, got gift cards to retails stores like Old Navy, etc, living on campus. Ugh I missed out big time. And it was all 9th graders from different schools if you met the requirements tho.
I knew a few ppl who did upward bound
I dont remember why I didnt do it but I heard great things

Damn Ray we missed out.

GLOCK

Quote from: ANIMMAI on July 01, 2016, 05:51:41 PM
I grew up in a pretty rough neighborhood in the Bronx (thanks to gentrification, it's damn near the suburbs now). Both of my parents are immigrants who came to the states looking for a better opportunity. I saw my mother work a part-time job, earn a college degree and raise a family, so that definitely fuels me to push myself as far as I can. Growing up I saw money/wealth as the end goal, we're all pretty much programmed to believe that the "american dream" is to end up rich and/or working a "good job" in corporate america (which is what I'm doing now :bvy: ).

I'm still trying to figure out what exactly I want for a career or what my ultimate goal is and it's frustrating.
:'( :'( :'(

KING BENTLEY.

Quote from: Glock on July 01, 2016, 03:03:31 PM
I grew up in the projects and in the hood
Often times homeless ..
But my mother worked very hard to get us from one side of town to another
I appreciate everything I've worked hard for because I remember not having food.. Not knowing where id sleep and things..
And I respect my mother for showing us the meaning of climbing from the bottom up..
That's why I was so determined to graduate college.. It was for her ...
And anyone that dates me hears my story and is so shocked .. I guess because of the way i carry myself and shit..
It just helped me appreciate ppl as well..
:'( :'(

H.#.G.*.Z

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Quote from: hewritez on July 01, 2016, 03:51:53 PM
Wealth is a double-edged sword. One of my closest friends tried to kill herself by overdosing on meds.

I remember visiting her in the hospital and her mom was in complete denial. In fact she left for a couple hours to go "shopping".

She was taking pictures of us in the room because she thought we looked "cute"  :uhh:

Her father completely dismissed any ideas of mental illness or depression and simply said she "should have taken her CPA exam. If she had a good job she wouldn't feel this way."

Her sisters, jealous because she lived in the high-rise condo her parents bought, said, "why would she try to kill herself when she lives in such a nice building?"

I was appalled. I had never seen a family so out-of-touch with reality.
wow. this is why I never understood why people think everyone with that kind of money is so happy and thrilled to be alive lol this world is fucked up either way

Even with someone obviously sheltered from reality like your friend is, it doesn't mean they won't eventually experience what real love and support should feel and look like, being around friends like you who likely have supportive friends and family.

Once they experience that, it's pretty hard to be happy going home to a place of NO love and cold hearts like what you described. I really can't imagine

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