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[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

So two of my friends basically try to shame me for not catching up with them or messaging them etc.
It's like, they think I hate them, cause I didn't reply "haha" to a LATE meme.
They still do something together without me. First of all, there's a whole god damn pandemic going on. I'm not gonna meet up with you every week. Second of all, I work 5 to 6 days a week, switching shifts every week. Sometimes (actually most of the time since I'm a loner anyway) I just wanna relax and get away from people. There's not much to do anyway since everything's closed.

They were offended that I didn't celebrate my 30th birthday with them a couple weeks ago.  (I just celebrated with my parents and brother)

Am I being too harsh on them?

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

Uhh no
People that still to expect you to same social life and commitments  during the pandemic are weird to me

[klappa.]

they are out of line if they EXPECT you to meet up with them in this pandemic, period.

you could reply to the message tho lol

but as long as you're communicating your reasoning to them, they shouldn't be upset

[Quest]

Everybody should understand social distancing right now.

A kiki text won't hurt you though. Humans are social creatures. If you don't respond to people or show you have an interest in them, they'll stop trying to connect. Do you want to die alone? lol Even as an introvert we still need to put in a little effort every now and then.

[FRANCE]

Im the same way, but I try my best to contact my friends even if its once per week to say whats up. U would think that most ppl would understand there's a pandemic, but not everyone is like me and thinks the same way I do. So I gotta reach out to some degree. Communication is key - just let 'em know what's up and where ur mind is. Maybe they value ur friendship with them more than u think? Some folks are just yearning for social interaction and I get it. Just talk to them and clear the air. 

[Scott.]

I understand the meet up part cause I don't really want to go out and meet up with people. But the least you could do is send a text back. One of my friends have straight ignored my text messages and I just stop trying and now she's screaming that I'm against her when she WASN'T responding to me reaching out to HER

[ATLien]

Nothing wrong with enjoying your "me" time.

But if you haven't done so already , it's probably a good idea to just be upfront with them about ur desire to be alone most times. This way, if they take it personally it's 100% on them, you've already told them what ur deal is and why u may not show up to the bar for drinks and dancing.

Like instead of just saying "ahh I don't feel like it today maybe next time" just cut into the peach cobbler and give them the tea full force.

And maybe encourage them to do more in-home stuff ? I have the girls over here all the time for dinner and drinks lol

And they always tell me how good of a time they had . Find new ways to mess a bit

[FRANCE]

I understand the meet up part cause I don't really want to go out and meet up with people. But the least you could do is send a text back. One of my friends have straight ignored my text messages and I just stop trying and now she's screaming that I'm against her when she WASN'T responding to me reaching out to HER

Oh yeah. I totally have a couple people that I only hear from them when I msg them. I just let them be and dont connect. But the ones that do respond and do show interest, those are the real 1s. And like any relationship, friendship is work, so even when I dont want to, I gotta try to stay connected with the real 1s. This pandemic has really showed me who's rly down. I dont wanna come off being that friend who keeps to himself.

[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

Nothing wrong with enjoying your "me" time.

But if you haven't done so already , it's probably a good idea to just be upfront with them about ur desire to be alone most times. This way, if they take it personally it's 100% on them, you've already told them what ur deal is and why u may not show up to the bar for drinks and dancing.

Like instead of just saying "ahh I don't feel like it today maybe next time" just cut into the peach cobbler and give them the tea full force.

That's good advice, thx babes. I think I'm gonna do that next time I see them.

But I also feel like we're growing apart in general. We literally have nothing in common anymore. We're not 20 anymore. I just came back from living overseas for two years and things have just changed.

But I should probably tell them like you said.

[ATLien]

Nothing wrong with enjoying your "me" time.

But if you haven't done so already , it's probably a good idea to just be upfront with them about ur desire to be alone most times. This way, if they take it personally it's 100% on them, you've already told them what ur deal is and why u may not show up to the bar for drinks and dancing.

Like instead of just saying "ahh I don't feel like it today maybe next time" just cut into the peach cobbler and give them the tea full force.

That's good advice, thx babes. I think I'm gonna do that next time I see them.

But I also feel like we're growing apart in general. We literally have nothing in common anymore. We're not 20 anymore. I just came back from living overseas for two years and things have just changed.

But I should probably tell them like you said.

awww.

Yeah, plus you telling them your undiluted teA will maybe help them realize that you're not the best fit for the group anymore . Obviously no need to tell them "I've outgrown you! Lolz" flat out , but gently stating how things are changing you for personally will send a message just as clear.

Simple communication relieves and prevents so many misunderstandings and mess. You'll feel much better once you come clean with them.

Luv u booskie ❤️❤️

[Hatsumomo]

I think you did the right thing Squid. Introverts find people to be extremely draining and insufferable. We love extemely hard ..but prefer to do it at a distance. We get our energy being alone while the extroverts get energy associating with others. My best friend can't fathom the thought of being alone or without having a man around her all the time and I be looking at her like ...

[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

Nothing wrong with enjoying your "me" time.

But if you haven't done so already , it's probably a good idea to just be upfront with them about ur desire to be alone most times. This way, if they take it personally it's 100% on them, you've already told them what ur deal is and why u may not show up to the bar for drinks and dancing.

Like instead of just saying "ahh I don't feel like it today maybe next time" just cut into the peach cobbler and give them the tea full force.

That's good advice, thx babes. I think I'm gonna do that next time I see them.

But I also feel like we're growing apart in general. We literally have nothing in common anymore. We're not 20 anymore. I just came back from living overseas for two years and things have just changed.

But I should probably tell them like you said.

awww.

Yeah, plus you telling them your undiluted teA will maybe help them realize that you're not the best fit for the group anymore . Obviously no need to tell them "I've outgrown you! Lolz" flat out , but gently stating how things are changing you for personally will send a message just as clear.

Simple communication relieves and prevents so many misunderstandings and mess. You'll feel much better once you come clean with them.

Luv u booskie ❤️❤️

So true 💕
Luv you hun

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[ATLien]

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[𝖘𝖖𝖚𝖎𝖉]

We get our energy being alone while the extroverts get energy associating with others. My best friend can't fathom the thought of being alone or without having a man around her all the time and I be looking at her like ...

!!!!

And there's nothing wrong witch each side of the spectrum.

I have another friend from Australia who is extremely outgoing as well. But we have a mutual understanding of us being opposites. I honestly love that, there's no hard feelings.

[GRAND ETERNAL SUPREME]

Are they 10?