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Title: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 08:08:10 PM
When is it time to call it quits?

:stressed:   
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: yummy on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM
Depends...I can forgive a mistake if I see it was a genuine mistake and the friend is working on not letting it happen again.

One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: death on March 05, 2016, 08:14:21 PM
i wanna kill him for u hon
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 08:18:33 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM


One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.

That's basically what it is.   
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: yummy on March 05, 2016, 08:19:20 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:18:33 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM


One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.

That's basically what it is.   

hmm...what happened?

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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Hatsumomo on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them . You need to immediately distance yourself from narcissistic toxic people who drain the life out of you . Your happiness is at stake . Fuck that forgiving shit . You come first .
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 08:22:59 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:19:20 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:18:33 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM


One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.

That's basically what it is.   

hmm...what happened?

(http://abload.de/img/kenya8w9sk3.gif)

Had to beat this boy down, for the second time.   

(http://abload.de/img/kenya8w9sk3.gif)
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: yummy on March 05, 2016, 08:25:43 PM
fddfcffffffffffffffff

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vvvvv

was this over a man?

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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: downtownbrown on March 05, 2016, 08:30:27 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM
Depends...I can forgive a mistake if I see it was a genuine mistake and the friend is working on not letting it happen again.

One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.

FUCKING PREACH!!!!!!!

ESPECIALLY true with romantic relationships! As SOON as you notice that shit, RUN!
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: yummy on March 05, 2016, 08:32:29 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

how long have you known this friend?

he needs to get a damn clue and move on. the drama isn't going to conjure any romantic feelings, it's only gonna result in him losing a friend.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: BigDawg on March 05, 2016, 08:33:43 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:
Cut him loose. Your friend should respect your wishes. If he was a real friend he would be happy for you, with whomever you choose to decide to spend your time with.  He sounds kind of co-dependent.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: BAPHOMET. on March 05, 2016, 08:34:37 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

If Pons doesn't go get some helps

:everythingok:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 08:35:47 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:32:29 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

how long have you known this friend?

he needs to get a damn clue and move on. the drama isn't going to conjure any romantic feelings, it's only gonna result in him losing a friend.

Almost 2 years

And I kinda told him right off the bat I'm not dating or fucking anybody but he still doesn't get it. I'm not the type who just removes people from my life, especially if we've gone through some mess together. IDK I just don't understand why he can't find someone else. He's constantly being approached by others so I wanna know what's so special about my quiet and boring ass.

I CANNOT keep dealing with this toxic mess.


:uhh:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: downtownbrown on March 05, 2016, 10:01:02 PM
Sounds like you guys may have fucked once or twice...or, at the very least, messed a bit...

If not, he's just crazy then sis. :dead:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 10:26:59 PM
fffff

We did mess a BIT but never had full out sex.

:supluv:

But.....he's still cray cray  :dead:   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 10:29:56 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

Just curious but how often do you keep "friends" around who like you?
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Zankou. on March 05, 2016, 10:31:08 PM
Bre wtf
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: martian on March 05, 2016, 10:32:29 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 10:26:59 PM
fffff

We did mess a BIT but 

:letsmessfag:





let him go, beloved.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: yummy on March 05, 2016, 10:33:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 10:29:56 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

Just curious but how often do you keep "friends" around who like you?

:omgwatshappening:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: DrewBabyLove on March 05, 2016, 10:43:46 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:08:10 PM
When is it time to call it quits?

:stressed:   


The first moment it turns toxic or abusive  :ohwow:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: DrewBabyLove on March 05, 2016, 10:44:27 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:18:33 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM


One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.

That's basically what it is.   

That's a sign of someone not really caring!
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 10:46:52 PM
Quote from: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 10:29:56 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

Just curious but how often do you keep "friends" around who like you?

Curiosity killed the cat

And all the time   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Herb. on March 05, 2016, 10:50:54 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 10:26:59 PM
fffff

We did mess a BIT but never had full out sex.

:supluv:

But.....he's still cray cray  :dead:   

n

true trailer trash :mmyucudnvr:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: downtownbrown on March 05, 2016, 11:06:36 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 10:26:59 PM
fffff

We did mess a BIT but never had full out sex.

:supluv:

But.....he's still cray cray  :dead:   


Gorl........  :dead:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 11:17:07 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 10:46:52 PM
Quote from: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 10:29:56 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

Just curious but how often do you keep "friends" around who like you?

Curiosity killed the cat

And all the time   


d

are you threatening me?   :ATLcameo:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Herb. on March 05, 2016, 11:20:44 PM
hopefully :ohwow:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 11:34:14 PM
We messed before his love confession though so I refuse to take the blame.

:hmph:   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 05, 2016, 11:34:47 PM
And yes I am

  :nogrammynoneck: 

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: charlie. on March 05, 2016, 11:56:15 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:


SO you beat him up cuz he has a crush on you?  :omgwatshappening:


:mmyulost: :mmyulost: :mmyulost:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: L0NZ. on March 05, 2016, 11:57:42 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

The only thing toxic is the jealousy he has because he's probably in love with you. It will only get worse because you will always be you and he will always be him, with feelings for you. He can't decide to put them away one day.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: charlie. on March 05, 2016, 11:58:24 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 10:26:59 PM
fffff

We did mess a BIT but never had full out sex.

:supluv:

But.....he's still cray cray  :dead:   



dsssss

u must have gave him sum' to remember huh
:justabit:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 06, 2016, 12:00:10 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 05, 2016, 11:57:42 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

The only thing toxic is the jealousy he has because he's probably in love with you. It will only get worse because you will always be you and he will always be him, with feelings for you. He can't decide to put them away one day.

The thing is though he told me recently he wasn't in love with me anymore and the feelings aren't as strong as they were in the past.

I just don't know what to DO.   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: DraeDrizzl3 on March 06, 2016, 12:00:32 AM
n

Slut
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 12:07:39 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:00:10 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 05, 2016, 11:57:42 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

The only thing toxic is the jealousy he has because he's probably in love with you. It will only get worse because you will always be you and he will always be him, with feelings for you. He can't decide to put them away one day.

The thing is though he told me recently he wasn't in love with me anymore and the feelings aren't as strong as they were in the past.



And he spazzed because? Wake up bby.

He only said that to make you feel like there wasn't any pressure, which would possibly make you exit at a faster pace.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 06, 2016, 12:12:31 AM
So I just end the friendship?

Le sigh   



:uhm:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Herb. on March 06, 2016, 12:13:29 AM
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 12:16:07 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:12:31 AM
So I just end the friendship?

Le sigh   



:uhm:

I mean how close are ya'll? If you're talking every day and ki'ing over Starbucks and nordstrom bags then stop that shit. Just distance yourself. You don't have to terminate the friendship completely but let it fizzle to where its comfortable for you. Hopefully during the process he'll actually, genuinely lose feelings for you.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: GLOCK on March 06, 2016, 12:16:22 AM
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: downtownbrown on March 06, 2016, 12:19:14 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 12:16:07 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:12:31 AM
So I just end the friendship?

Le sigh   



:uhm:

I mean how close are ya'll? If you're talking every day and ki'ing over Starbucks and nordstrom bags then stop that shit.

ssssssssss
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 06, 2016, 12:33:08 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 12:16:07 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:12:31 AM
So I just end the friendship?

Le sigh   



:uhm:

I mean how close are ya'll? If you're talking every day and ki'ing over Starbucks and nordstrom bags then stop that shit. Just distance yourself. You don't have to terminate the friendship completely but let it fizzle to where its comfortable for you. Hopefully during the process he'll actually, genuinely lose feelings for you.

We're pretty close. I guess I need to distance myself from him for awhile....again. Smh   
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: death on March 06, 2016, 12:34:27 AM
Quote from: Herbie on March 06, 2016, 12:13:29 AM
n
hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhf
i will fck u up faggot
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: Herb. on March 06, 2016, 12:35:01 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:08:10 PM
When is it time to call it quits?

:stressed:   

it'll be clear when it's time to punch.

u know the feelings and situation way better than the bsource gorls will.
go on ur intuition hun. if u even have to ask then its probably time to pack your jansport, wigger.

friendship isn't something u should be worried about. it's one of those things that should actually make life easier and more enjoyable.

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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: death on March 06, 2016, 12:36:03 AM
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: death on March 06, 2016, 12:37:47 AM
still wann' come down thea & rough tha faggot up for messin wit ya tho bruv

ugh
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 06, 2016, 02:02:12 AM
I guess I have my answer then.

:stressed:   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: SUPREME on March 06, 2016, 04:07:42 AM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 10:33:45 PM
Quote from: Kurama on March 05, 2016, 10:29:56 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

Just curious but how often do you keep "friends" around who like you?

:omgwatshappening:
LLKKKOKOKOOKO
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: SUPREME on March 06, 2016, 04:14:45 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:00:10 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 05, 2016, 11:57:42 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

The only thing toxic is the jealousy he has because he's probably in love with you. It will only get worse because you will always be you and he will always be him, with feelings for you. He can't decide to put them away one day.

The thing is though he told me recently he wasn't in love with me anymore and the feelings aren't as strong as they were in the past.

   

you guys hangout still.

hes lying
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: SUPREME on March 06, 2016, 04:16:08 AM
Quote from: Blues trans clue on March 06, 2016, 12:37:47 AM
still wann' come down thea & rough tha faggot up for messin wit ya tho bruv

ugh
#protectivebroproblems (http://api.ning.com/files/p8dNfbTfHuDwxgycNrcQMT4tVLcVyrSsi5pnNl1FIkfHYr7PgVkiUCuLPpGbu*4x3-fS89yeN5nsYB6CVtpi6s9xKfJR7*ml/persons0030_medium.png)
mmmmmmmmmmm
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: throwintheTAL on March 06, 2016, 04:35:54 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 11:34:14 PM
We messed before his love confession though so I refuse to take the blame.

:hmph:   

what type of mess occurred  :ohwow:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 06, 2016, 04:36:54 AM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:13:31 PM
Depends...I can forgive a mistake if I see it was a genuine mistake and the friend is working on not letting it happen again.

One thing I can't stand is a stubborn ass person who won't admit when their wrong and won't bother to change. Major sign of immaturity.
pretty damn much
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 06, 2016, 06:01:11 AM
Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa.

!!!!!!!!

   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on March 06, 2016, 10:30:25 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:
s

i love WHACKING a phagg back to reality

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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on March 06, 2016, 10:31:48 AM
Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
!!!!

I've always felt that quote was too simple. I'm sure she meant much more context to it.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 10:37:47 AM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on March 06, 2016, 10:31:48 AM
Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
!!!!

I've always felt that quote was too simple. I'm sure she meant much more context to it.

Right. Its not always them showing you something negative that you should believe. If they can show you they are remorseful, believe them the same. If they can show you they are trustworthy, believe them.
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on March 06, 2016, 10:40:29 AM
Quote from: Blues trans clue on March 06, 2016, 12:37:47 AM
still wann' come down thea & rough tha faggot up for messin wit ya tho bruv

ugh
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sssssss

but WAIT girls... we're letting my fav sis Drai' off the hook too easy

Drai'... something you said
but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship.

do you even remotely have feelings for this boy and like having him around?

cause that might be whats tearing him apart, cause sis if yawl are right for each other he might be gone by the time you get ready to be in a relationship
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: KING BENTLEY. on March 06, 2016, 10:42:34 AM
cause I've kinda been where he is before

where I've become friends with someone that I had a connection with, but they claimed they weren't ready

but calling me and texting me all the time like a relationship

then when I moved on, they wanted to meet up and give a "oh am ready to be in a relationship, was just so scared before" speech
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: LOONA. on March 07, 2016, 03:16:57 AM
I told I liked him as a friend and that's kinda it.

:mmyucudnvr:   

Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 07, 2016, 03:57:35 AM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on March 05, 2016, 08:32:29 PM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:29:59 PM
vvcccxxxxxxxxxx

Not necessarily over a man but he was the cause of it.

My friend has feelings for me but I haven't returned them because I've specifically stated I don't want to be in a relationship. A male friend and I literally hung out for a few hours and he went ballistic on me when he found out. I can't keep tolerating this nonsense.   


:omgwatshappening:

how long have you known this friend?

he needs to get a damn clue and move on. the drama isn't going to conjure any romantic feelings, it's only gonna result in him losing a friend.
!!!!

Love me!!! Look at me!!! 

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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: throwintheTAL on March 07, 2016, 04:00:10 AM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on March 06, 2016, 10:42:34 AM
cause I've kinda been where he is before

where I've become friends with someone that I had a connection with, but they claimed they weren't ready
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 07, 2016, 04:03:31 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 12:16:07 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 06, 2016, 12:12:31 AM
So I just end the friendship?

Le sigh   



:uhm:

I mean how close are ya'll? If you're talking every day and ki'ing over Starbucks and nordstrom bags then stop that shit. Just distance yourself. You don't have to terminate the friendship completely but let it fizzle to where its comfortable for you. Hopefully during the process he'll actually, genuinely lose feelings for you.
!!!

:loose2when:

Yes, lonz
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: BAPHOMET. on March 07, 2016, 04:06:49 AM
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Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 07, 2016, 04:07:26 AM
Quote from: Herbie on March 06, 2016, 12:35:01 AM
Quote from: Drais. on March 05, 2016, 08:08:10 PM
When is it time to call it quits?

:stressed:   

it'll be clear when it's time to punch.

u know the feelings and situation way better than the bsource gorls will.
go on ur intuition hun. if u even have to ask then its probably time to pack your jansport, wigger.

friendship isn't something u should be worried about. it's one of those things that should actually make life easier and more enjoyable.

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biiiiiiiiitch

:loose2when:
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 07, 2016, 04:13:04 AM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on March 06, 2016, 10:31:48 AM
Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
!!!!

I've always felt that quote was too simple. I'm sure she meant much more context to it.
right

:plzstop:

Love her though
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 07, 2016, 04:14:04 AM
Quote from: L0NZ. on March 06, 2016, 10:37:47 AM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on March 06, 2016, 10:31:48 AM
Quote from: RIG on March 06, 2016, 04:43:29 AM
Quote from: Ntwadumela on March 05, 2016, 08:21:14 PM
Maya Angelou once said that when a person shows you who they truly are , believe them .
that sounds pretty, but discernment is the key to me. sometimes people simply fuck up depending on the mental space they are in at that time, or their surroundings/toxic environment ...  whatever, it can be anything

of course it all depends on the situation, but at this point in my life, if im choosing to call you a FRIEND, you better believe its not just because we have shit in common or some other basic BS. It's likely because we have a real connection and i saw something in you & vice versa. So ...  i may give you the benefit of the doubt unless a clear pattern is forming.
!!!!

I've always felt that quote was too simple. I'm sure she meant much more context to it.

Right. Its not always them showing you something negative that you should believe. If they can show you they are remorseful, believe them the same. If they can show you they are trustworthy, believe them.
ack!!

I miss you
Title: Re: Toxic & abusive friendships
Post by: RekeRig on March 07, 2016, 04:14:54 AM
Quote from: BENTLEY! on March 06, 2016, 10:42:34 AM
cause I've kinda been where he is before

where I've become friends with someone that I had a connection with, but they claimed they weren't ready

but calling me and texting me all the time like a relationship

then when I moved on, they wanted to meet up and give a "oh am ready to be in a relationship, was just so scared before" speech
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