Kaeli's thread -spilling on friends who try it- made me think about how certain things can be normalcy for some people and inexcusable to others.
I think about how people have their own personal contracts with certain friends or lovers. What's acceptable to me may not be acceptable to someone else.
When do you decide it's time to end a relationship with a close friend or someone you're dating?
What things are intolerable for you?
What things are you flexible around that others may not be?
If you severe ties with someone what needs to happen before you reconnect? Is that even a possibility?
:ohwow: :ohwow: :ohwow: :ohwow:
Usually when I find out my friend likes Britney I cut them the Fck off lol
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
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any Brit fan with self-respect would never try to be ur friend love
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Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
I remember you mentioning being pretty accepting of others so I was wondering if you didn't mind elaborating on your morality? I already know you don't respect people who hold negative views of whites(other races?) and act on them(im paraphrasing) but what else?
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 02:28:50 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
I remember you mentioning being pretty accepting of others so I was wondering if you didn't mind elaborating on your morality? I already know you don't respect people who hold negative views of whites(other races?) and act on them(im paraphrasing) but what else?
Im not willing to accept disrespect of any kind, towards ANYONE. I had a friend that was my VERY best friend but he wasn't progressing in life......i thought. Still pulling the same bullshit that was "cool" when we were teenagers. He was......sexually fluid, and found himself messing with some guy at one point. He and the guy had this on/off again thing. The guy actually had a girl that he started messing with during one of their "off" moments and she became pregnant. My friend (who was/is completely immature) decided he was jealous. He told me he was gonna contact the girl, let her know about their relationship, and really just try to fck up this situation. I found that to be completely disgusting and slowly started to remove myself. He couldn't understand why i felt so strongly but AH WELP! That rubbed me all the wrong way and was something that i considered a character flaw.......plus i was kinda already on the fence with ol boy, so this was the icing on the cake
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:52:46 PM
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 02:28:50 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
I remember you mentioning being pretty accepting of others so I was wondering if you didn't mind elaborating on your morality? I already know you don't respect people who hold negative views of whites(other races?) and act on them(im paraphrasing) but what else?
Im not willing to accept disrespect of any kind, towards ANYONE. I had a friend that was my VERY best friend but he wasn't progressing in life......i thought. Still pulling the same bullshit that was "cool" when we were teenagers. He was......sexually fluid, and found himself messing with some guy at one point. He and the guy had this on/off again thing. The guy actually had a girl that he started messing with during one of their "off" moments and she became pregnant. My friend (who was/is completely immature) decided he was jealous. He told me he was gonna contact the girl, let her know about their relationship, and really just try to fck up this situation. I found that to be completely disgusting and slowly started to remove myself. He couldn't understand why i felt so strongly but AH WELP! That rubbed me all the wrong way and was something that i considered a character flaw.......plus i was kinda already on the fence with ol boy, so this was the icing on the cake
That's so messed up. :ermm:
Good that you distanced yourself from this negative person
only if they don't show love anymore. If you love me, I love you back.
Quote from: شيطان on December 02, 2016, 02:56:34 PM
only if they don't show love anymore. If you love me, I love you back.
So ur love is conditional?
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:52:46 PM
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 02:28:50 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
I remember you mentioning being pretty accepting of others so I was wondering if you didn't mind elaborating on your morality? I already know you don't respect people who hold negative views of whites(other races?) and act on them(im paraphrasing) but what else?
Im not willing to accept disrespect of any kind, towards ANYONE. I had a friend that was my VERY best friend but he wasn't progressing in life......i thought. Still pulling the same bullshit that was "cool" when we were teenagers. He was......sexually fluid, and found himself messing with some guy at one point. He and the guy had this on/off again thing. The guy actually had a girl that he started messing with during one of their "off" moments and she became pregnant. My friend (who was/is completely immature) decided he was jealous. He told me he was gonna contact the girl, let her know about their relationship, and really just try to fck up this situation. I found that to be completely disgusting and slowly started to remove myself. He couldn't understand why i felt so strongly but AH WELP! That rubbed me all the wrong way and was something that i considered a character flaw.......plus i was kinda already on the fence with ol boy, so this was the icing on the cake
Oh yeah I would have severed ties as well, especially if someone you're close with isn't even receptive to changing their ways. Reminds me of a scenario with my former best friend. Eh.
Quote from: شيطان on December 02, 2016, 02:56:34 PM
only if they don't show love anymore. If you love me, I love you back.
Define love Malc?
I think you can love someone and still ex them out of your life for the better, for me at least.
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 02:59:20 PM
Quote from: شيطان on December 02, 2016, 02:56:34 PM
only if they don't show love anymore. If you love me, I love you back.
Define love Malc?
I think you can love someone and still ex them out of your life for the better, for me at least.
!!!!!!!!!
I told that friend that if he ever needed anything to hit me up. I just wanted to change our dynamic. We still converse every now and again but we're not at all the close friends we used to be.
Honestly I do not explicitly say "I want to take a time-out", I will just be flaky or not reach out. Things move more organically with me. But actually CUTTING someone, I only do it, if they show disrespect and if there is no love and appreciation for me. If they still do, even if I don't love love their presence, I won't actually cut them.
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
awwwww
Fuck u still
ssssssss
:damselindistress:
Quote from: MelMel on December 02, 2016, 03:10:47 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
awwwww
Fuck u still
s
Mel answer the damn question and drag Vonc later
:watchit:
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 03:16:37 PM
Quote from: MelMel on December 02, 2016, 03:10:47 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
awwwww
Fuck u still
s
Mel answer the damn question and drag Vonc later
:watchit:
:plzstop: :plzstop:
I have only cut off two people: my Church bottom Queen of an uncle because he's consistently rude and disrespectful and tries his whole life every time I see him, and my father for two years because he and my mom and siblings got into this huge fight and my family was almost destroyed.
I have to be fed up to the point of anger and disgust to cut you off from my life.
For me.... There's never really a "time" or peak point. I usually let things build up overtime or I just realize somebody is adding nothing of value to my life and then I'll just randomly cut the person off without exchange of words or any significant "trigger".
I can say though when I feel like I'm being used and gaining nothing from a friendship, I'm definitely ready to cut it off.
I love you fag
Quote from: MelMel on December 02, 2016, 03:29:42 PM
I love you fag
SSDDDSSSSDDDDDDSDDDD
I just read yours we are always >><<
I drag mess out to the point where I literally can't stand to be around someone before I let them go. :dead: but once I move on from a friendship, I can make up n stuff and be friendly but I have no desire to reignite the friendship.
Love you more bby!!!!!
:traciandchelle:
When you cross me it's over. Forever.
Plus I'm at the stage in my life where I refuse to argue, we can either respectfully disagree and move foreward or I can read you one got time and move forward without you.
Most of my friends I've known for over a decade. They know me through and through and I know them. And for the new friends I'm usually the turn up friend that's there for all fun purposes.
When friends get into it with each other, I pump. I want no parts of the mess. :sobusyjetsetter:
Quote from: Trey on December 02, 2016, 03:43:05 PM
Quote from: MelMel on December 02, 2016, 03:29:42 PM
I love you fag
SSDDDSSSSDDDDDDSDDDD
I just read yours we are always >><<
I drag mess out to the point where I literally can't stand to be around someone before I let them go. :dead: but once I move on from a friendship, I can make up n stuff and be friendly but I have no desire to reignite the friendship.
Love you more bby!!!!!
:traciandchelle:
wow we're kinda opposite guys :ohwow:
Quote from: Sleigh My Name on December 02, 2016, 03:49:34 PM
When you cross me it's over. Forever.
Plus I'm at the stage in my life where I refuse to argue, we can either respectfully disagree and move foreward or I can read you one got time and move forward without you.
Most of my friends I've known for over a decade. They know me through and through and I know them. And for the new friends I'm usually the turn up friend that's there for all fun purposes.
When friends get into it with each other, I pump. I want no parts of the mess. :sobusyjetsetter:
What is crossing you though?
I also mentioned relationships with lovers too yall.
What is crossing the line for you specifically?
Example: some people are okay with being cheated on, they continue to try to work it out with their partner. I have a zero tolerance pol' on physical cheating.
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 04:23:33 PM
. I have a zero tolerance pol' on physical cheating.
Same. If i tried to stay it'd just make me hostile towards every little thing they do. Thats no way to live.
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 04:21:39 PM
Quote from: Sleigh My Name on December 02, 2016, 03:49:34 PM
When you cross me it's over. Forever.
Plus I'm at the stage in my life where I refuse to argue, we can either respectfully disagree and move foreward or I can read you one got time and move forward without you.
Most of my friends I've known for over a decade. They know me through and through and I know them. And for the new friends I'm usually the turn up friend that's there for all fun purposes.
When friends get into it with each other, I pump. I want no parts of the mess. :sobusyjetsetter:
What is crossing you though?
Crossing me is any malicious intent.
Number 1 being spilling my tea. I'm very big on trust.
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 04:23:33 PM
I also mentioned relationships with lovers too yall.
What is crossing the line for you specifically?
Example: some people are okay with being cheated on, they continue to try to work it out with their partner. I have a zero tolerance pol' on physical cheating.
Crossing the line to me is lying or withholding information.
If you fucked up, let me know and let's see if there's a way to work on it.
I'm not even saying I'd be forgiving. I'm just saying I'd respect it more.
Relationship or friendship, once you put your hands on me. It's over.
If me and my siblings have never had a physical altercation, i def dont see why i would tolerate one with anyone else.
Another thing for me is once it's over and it ended on bad terms. I'm going to act like you never fucking existed. No life will be given.
Quote from: Sleigh My Name on December 02, 2016, 05:04:27 PM
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 04:23:33 PM
I also mentioned relationships with lovers too yall.
What is crossing the line for you specifically?
Example: some people are okay with being cheated on, they continue to try to work it out with their partner. I have a zero tolerance pol' on physical cheating.
Another thing for me is once it's over and it ended on bad terms. I'm going to act like you never fucking existed. No life will be given.
wow im exactly the same
My best friends and I used to scrap a bit.
I used to be okay with semi-physical disputes until I smacked my ex a lil too hard one day and he had a fit.
Now I wouldn't dream of it
:overit:
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 05:47:27 PM
My best friends and I used to scrap a bit.
I used to be okay with semi-physical disputes until I smacked my ex a lil too hard one day and he had a fit.
Now I wouldn't dream of it
:overit:
MDFNFSDNNSFDM
fag wtf?
:guys:
u dont put your hands on nobody
But yeah
I have a hard time NEVER speaking to people again
But I DON'T have a hard time dropping someone
I've pretty much spoken to every single one of my exes since we broke up :dead:
And my 'ex friends' I either friended them on social media and said 'Hello' or they just don't exist.
I can be very forgiving, so pretty much everyone I wanted DEAD at one point, I'm cordial with now or I'm full out friends with them.
To date, no one has done anything to me that is completely unforgivable. No one has tried to hurt me or steal from me or end my life.
I usually don't create relationships with people who I feel would do these things to me anyway, but you never know.
Oh but i DEFINITELY don't have an issue cutting someone clean off and never speaking again.......EVER :plzstop:
I create strong relationships with people :dead:
I pretty much see every friendship/family member in my life today as someone who will be here until I fcking DIE
and that's how I viewed every boyfriend... until they were DEAD to me.
So far I've only lost like... 3 people :melmel:
Some people just don't add value to your life and can become more of an issue trying to hold on to. Im not holding on to relationships just to be doing it. And, I don't exempt anyone from that group of people i could potentially cut off. Alot of people feel obligated to deal with family. Sorry but no, BYE!
When I get where I'd be happy if I never heard from you ever again.
I also hate feeling like I'm being used so that pisses me off. I cut someone off for that.
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 08:52:57 PM
Some people just don't add value to your life and can become more of an issue trying to hold on to. Im not holding on to relationships just to be doing it. And, I don't exempt anyone from that group of people i could potentially cut off. Alot of people feel obligated to deal with family. Sorry but no, BYE!
I don't do that, i just choose my relationships wisely?
I've NEVER had a big messy "falling out" with someone, ever. :dead:
The relationships that are over today, all ended cause they I needed to. And mostly on good terms.
Quote from: MelMel on December 02, 2016, 03:10:47 PM
Quote from: Vonc2002 on December 02, 2016, 02:20:46 PM
When you've offended me to the core. Like, not "those shoes are ugly" but something that just completely disagrees with my morality. And with that, also when someone has shown character flaws that i just can't handle. But honestly, I'm pretty open to excepting people and their traits so i don't really lose true friends too often
awwwww
Fuck u still
Hoodlum
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on December 02, 2016, 08:40:49 PM
Quote from: Kurama on December 02, 2016, 05:47:27 PM
My best friends and I used to scrap a bit.
I used to be okay with semi-physical disputes until I smacked my ex a lil too hard one day and he had a fit.
Now I wouldn't dream of it
:overit:
MDFNFSDNNSFDM
fag wtf?
:guys:
u dont put your hands on nobody
sdssddd
I was a lot younger and my friends and I are really passionate about one another. Things used to get heated.
I'm great at being spiteful
I can drop someone like that and pretend you never existed
Quote from: Baeomi on December 02, 2016, 09:31:51 PM
I'm great at being spiteful
I can drop someone like that and pretend you never existed
Evil Fags
Quote from: Baeomi on December 02, 2016, 09:31:51 PM
I can drop someone like that and pretend you never existed
Same but that's kinda my thing, Im pretending. Especially if its someone I truly had a connection with.
I stopped talking to my former bff 2 yrs ago and I still get annoyed when ppl bring him up