I feel so bad. But should I?

Started by Herb., July 24, 2015, 09:39:31 PM

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Quote from: iman on July 24, 2015, 09:53:32 PM
Quote from: Nicholas_Styles on July 24, 2015, 09:46:12 PM
that was really nice of you.  I would say continue to help until you no longer can.  think about if it was you and what would you want someone to do if you needed help.  There could be a lot she hasnt told you on why she is in the position she is in now.  That is how i always try to think of things.  "what if it were me?"

I disagree. If we looked at everything that way then a lot of us would be dealing with so much issues ;ff :uhh: No ma'am. Afro was nice enough to get sis a hotel room for the night cause the average person would've just ignored her completely.

She should go to a homeless shelter. There are actually a lot of shelters for women in need, there are churches that usually let homeless people eat and sleep for free.

thats true .. i feel bad for ppl in fucked up situations though but yeah thats a good point he could take her to a homless shelter for woman in need i guess .. i would prolly let the girl stay on my couch

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So, where has she been staying all before? Like whats the address she gave the job?

:diddraispoot:

Barbie Dangerous

Not her hour stay lasting the rest of 2015
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Quote from: ANIMMAI on July 24, 2015, 10:17:26 PM
So, where has she been staying all before? Like whats the address she gave the job?

:diddraispoot:
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RekeRig

I'd feel bad for her but that's it. You can't feel bad for not basically taking care of her. That isn't your obligation and you haven't known her long enough for all that

If she's gotten to this point, it's sad to say, but she may have been irresponsible and squandered the money she's made in the past. Who's to say she won't do it again after you help her out or loan her money? People like that can't be enabled further or trusted, honestly. I'd feel horrible though. For sure. Only so much you can do, though.

Herb.

Quote from: RekeRig on July 25, 2015, 02:12:00 AM
I'd feel bad for her but that's it. You can't feel bad for not basically taking care of her. That isn't your obligation and you haven't known her long enough for all that

If she's gotten to this point, it's sad to say, but she may have been irresponsible and squandered the money she's made in the past. Who's to say she won't do it again after you help her out or loan her money? People like that can't be enabled further or trusted, honestly. I'd feel horrible though. For sure. Only so much you can do, though.
You summed up exactly how I feel King

It's still bothering me this morning.  :plzstop: I think it's because it's a female involved. And I have sisters. A grown nigger would have automatically got the "end call" button on my phone a long time ago.

But I have to stick to my guns. :stressed:

FRANCE

Quote from: Herb. on July 25, 2015, 10:49:40 AM
Quote from: RekeRig on July 25, 2015, 02:12:00 AM
I'd feel bad for her but that's it. You can't feel bad for not basically taking care of her. That isn't your obligation and you haven't known her long enough for all that

If she's gotten to this point, it's sad to say, but she may have been irresponsible and squandered the money she's made in the past. Who's to say she won't do it again after you help her out or loan her money? People like that can't be enabled further or trusted, honestly. I'd feel horrible though. For sure. Only so much you can do, though.
You summed up exactly how I feel King

It's still bothering me this morning.  :plzstop: I think it's because it's a female involved. And I have sisters. A grown nigger would have automatically got the "end call" button on my phone a long time ago.

But I have to stick to my guns. :stressed:

O shit. What else did u do for her?

Herb.

July 25, 2015, 11:01:43 AM #22 Last Edit: July 25, 2015, 11:04:54 AM by Herb.
Quote from: Francois Lite on July 25, 2015, 10:54:50 AM
Quote from: Herb. on July 25, 2015, 10:49:40 AM
Quote from: RekeRig on July 25, 2015, 02:12:00 AM
I'd feel bad for her but that's it. You can't feel bad for not basically taking care of her. That isn't your obligation and you haven't known her long enough for all that

If she's gotten to this point, it's sad to say, but she may have been irresponsible and squandered the money she's made in the past. Who's to say she won't do it again after you help her out or loan her money? People like that can't be enabled further or trusted, honestly. I'd feel horrible though. For sure. Only so much you can do, though.
You summed up exactly how I feel King

It's still bothering me this morning.  :plzstop: I think it's because it's a female involved. And I have sisters. A grown nigger would have automatically got the "end call" button on my phone a long time ago.

But I have to stick to my guns. :stressed:

O shit. What else did u do for her?
Didn't do anything else. I pretty much ignored her calls and texts last night. She literally sent a text asking if I could book a room for another night. Which I thought was a bit presumptuous. "oh! charge 1 more night. ok thnx lolz :supluv: "

I really hope she's OK. I can't help but to feel a need to help her because she's a young black woman. My little sister's age. But on the other hand, my sister would never jump to another city without having a concrete plan -- or at least an idea as to where she'd be staying, at the very least.


Purple Moon

death...i was reading this earlier and shortly after one of my old school friends hit me up on fb, telling me he's not getting his money until next month and has to send his moving boxes next week, otherwise he would end up homeless or something. asking me to transfer some money to ha acct and i'd get it back + $10.

people nowadays...
Must be a purple moon, feel like one of those nights...

FRANCE

Quote from: Herb. on July 25, 2015, 11:01:43 AM
Quote from: Francois Lite on July 25, 2015, 10:54:50 AM
Quote from: Herb. on July 25, 2015, 10:49:40 AM
Quote from: RekeRig on July 25, 2015, 02:12:00 AM
I'd feel bad for her but that's it. You can't feel bad for not basically taking care of her. That isn't your obligation and you haven't known her long enough for all that

If she's gotten to this point, it's sad to say, but she may have been irresponsible and squandered the money she's made in the past. Who's to say she won't do it again after you help her out or loan her money? People like that can't be enabled further or trusted, honestly. I'd feel horrible though. For sure. Only so much you can do, though.
You summed up exactly how I feel King

It's still bothering me this morning.  :plzstop: I think it's because it's a female involved. And I have sisters. A grown nigger would have automatically got the "end call" button on my phone a long time ago.

But I have to stick to my guns. :stressed:

O shit. What else did u do for her?
Didn't do anything else. I pretty much ignored her calls and texts last night. She literally sent a text asking if I could book a room for another night. Which I thought was a bit presumptuous. "oh! charge 1 more night. ok thnx lolz :supluv: "

I really hope she's OK. I can't help but to feel a need to help her because she's a young black woman. My little sister's age. But on the other hand, my sister would never jump to another city without having a concrete plan -- or at least an idea as to where she'd be staying, at the very least.

She'll be fine.

Purple Moon

Quote from: Herb. on July 25, 2015, 11:01:43 AM
Quote from: Francois Lite on July 25, 2015, 10:54:50 AM
Quote from: Herb. on July 25, 2015, 10:49:40 AM
Quote from: RekeRig on July 25, 2015, 02:12:00 AM
I'd feel bad for her but that's it. You can't feel bad for not basically taking care of her. That isn't your obligation and you haven't known her long enough for all that

If she's gotten to this point, it's sad to say, but she may have been irresponsible and squandered the money she's made in the past. Who's to say she won't do it again after you help her out or loan her money? People like that can't be enabled further or trusted, honestly. I'd feel horrible though. For sure. Only so much you can do, though.
You summed up exactly how I feel King

It's still bothering me this morning.  :plzstop: I think it's because it's a female involved. And I have sisters. A grown nigger would have automatically got the "end call" button on my phone a long time ago.

But I have to stick to my guns. :stressed:

O shit. What else did u do for her?
Didn't do anything else. I pretty much ignored her calls and texts last night. She literally sent a text asking if I could book a room for another night. Which I thought was a bit presumptuous. "oh! charge 1 more night. ok thnx lolz :supluv: "

I really hope she's OK. I can't help but to feel a need to help her because she's a young black woman. My little sister's age. But on the other hand, my sister would never jump to another state without having a concrete plan -- or at least an idea as to where she'd be staying, at the very least.

Tell the bitch to sit her ass down at some public library, sign up on couchsurfing.com or post a damn craigslist ad. or sell ha phone and book a damn hostel or motel room herself. doesnt she feel ashamed honestly?
Must be a purple moon, feel like one of those nights...

Herb.

July 25, 2015, 11:06:58 AM #26 Last Edit: July 25, 2015, 11:08:14 AM by Herb.
I'm about to call my grandmother now. I'll let her have the final word on this, whatever she tells me to do I'll do it. I'm just not a peace right now and want to make sure I am doing the right thing.

I feel so bad right now that I want to cry.

FRANCE

Quote from: BrandySavedMyLife on July 25, 2015, 11:03:06 AM
death...i was reading this earlier and shortly after one of my old school friends hit me up on fb, telling me he's not getting his money until next month and has to send his moving boxes next week, otherwise he would end up homeless or something. asking me to transfer some money to ha acct and i'd get it back + $10.

people nowadays...

sss I watch too much Judge Judy to have a heart...

Purple Moon

i've been lucky for the most part...whenever i lend money to a co-worker they gave it back to me in time.
Must be a purple moon, feel like one of those nights...

Herb.

I'm not really concerned about getting the money back though. I don't like "loaning" people things because then they have a debt hanging over their head, and ultimately your relationship with them as well. If I give something to someone I always do it as a gift. Money isn't everything to me. But I don't want to be taken advantage either.