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[GRAND]

Lemme ask this,

Would yall date yourselves???

A lot of times these convos devolve into bashing others and the usual niggas ain't shit   discourse. But we all receive similar conditioning and if we all had the values we sought, our community might not be so damn...fucked tbh.

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The self depreciating mess is disgusting

Blacks! Gays! Men!

Faggot maybe YOU'RE just a terrible person.

Love yourselves, girls

[FlowerBomb]

Lemme ask this,

Would yall date yourselves???

A lot of times these convos devolve into bashing others and the usual niggas ain't shit   discourse. But we all receive similar conditioning and if we all had the values we sought, our community might not be so damn...fucked tbh.

!

The self depreciating mess is disgusting

Blacks! Gays! Men!

Faggot maybe YOU'RE just a terrible person.

Love yourselves, girls

[GRAND]

Lemme ask this,

Would yall date yourselves???

A lot of times these convos devolve into bashing others and the usual niggas ain't shit   discourse. But we all receive similar conditioning and if we all had the values we sought, our community might not be so damn...fucked tbh.

People always make it seem boring if you date someone like yourself. Opposites Attract! I've kinda always looked for someone like myself. Same values on relationships. It doesn't mean you two have to like the same things and be twins. (Doesn't hurt either)... 

wait twins 

I believed that shit when I was younger

Woo! Need someone wilds and outgoing! Different from meh!

Yeah, it was a disaster 

Finding someone that has a similar personality as mine was the best thing to happen to me

[Lane Bryant Jumpsuit]

I have seen plenty of men that need validation from other men in the form of sexual activity or even just attention - I think it's dangerous. To me, you're more likely to engage in unsafe practices if your self esteem is based on what a man wants from you.

I never understood it, though. A nigga will always want a nut. If someone wants to fuck you, that's not exactly the highest compliment. If he wants to take you out and get to know you, that's something I'd take as a compliment. But still, you should go into anything -- whether it's a date, sex (we're all grown so have your safe fun), or whatever knowing your worth as an individual and keeping in mind that if it doesn't work out, he can hit the road and there will always be another guy there because you're just that wonderful.

But that's the thing, these niggas out here dicking downe every Tom, Dick and Dequan.

They don't even want relationships, they just want to fuck. They don't know how to be in a relationship.

The real issue here is that sex for most is the only way to express their need to be loved and held by the same sex because of the void in their life from love from a man.SO sex is the temporary fix for that euphoric feeling.

and i think that mentality just carries over into the relationship world u get so  used to the temporary that you forget what its like to really be with one person to feel and share all those feelings with

[GRAND]

Of course.
why wouldn't I?

hey king

[GRAND]

This is the worst thread I've read in months

There's nothing wrong with believing in a fairy tale

Even if you don't believe in love, TRY, and maybe someone who does will see a potential spark between you guys

Gay couples aren't prominent because of so many reasons

Acceptance
Availability
Family
AIDS (kidding)

Just think of all the straight married couples you know that SHOULDN'T be married.  Perfect couples aren't just running around everywhere.

Believe in love or at least liking another guy or else you be a single 40 year old Fag or for some of you, even worse, pretending to love a woman to avoid being labeled gay AND single

And at the same time, everyone isn't meant to be in some life long relationship. But walking around hating men and thinking it'll only last for 6 months won't get you anywhere.

[GRAND]

I just want my fags to be more optimistic

[Bulldagger]

For a small few, yeah. I feel like trying to be in a relationship with a black guy is like pulling teeth. Black men tend to be very standoffish, condescending and egotistical. It's definitely a front, but that's where a lot of you dig your graves and partially why a lot of you are single and why white men tend to be in relationships and one of the reasons why brothers date out. White men tend to be confident, approachable and friendly when they're interested in you. Black men want to be courted and they want to be the divas. Even on this forum a lot of you come off standoffish, cliquish, egotistical and it doesn't make you look good at all. But that seems to be the thing on many black gay websites and forums, like BGC, etc. Who the fuck wants to deal with that when Tanner is making you feel like the black king you always wanted to be? And he has good credit! lol

*I'd love to marry a black man, but I don't know if it's realistic. He'd probably have to be British or some type of foreign because American men are fucked up.

[GRAND]

and they want to be the divas. Even on this forum a lot of you come off standoffish, cliquish, egotistical and it doesn't make you look good at all.

*I'd love to marry a black man, but I don't know if it's realistic. He'd probably have to be British or some type of foreign because American men are fucked up.

so

what you're saying is.. you're single?

[L0NZ.]

I aspire to have a loving relationship like my parents.

My ex told me that wasn't possible because we're gay, but couldn't actually explain why we couldn't.

He grew up in a two-parent home, but not one in which the parents loved each other. He's never witnessed a loving relationship and he uses being gay as an excuse as to why he can't do it. It's not that he can't, he just doesn't know how.

I dont know, I dont feel like you need to be taught how to love. The feeling of love comes naturally to everyone regardless of how they were brought up. "Never seen 2 parents love each other" doesnt make sense to me. Things that make a relationship last like being considerate, communicating well, being faithful, and being affectionate are behaviors/life skills learned through general interactions with ANYONE throughout life. These are things you shoyld want to do and make a choice to do it as a fuckin adult in a relationship. If someone falls short in any of these areas thats simply a character flaw or immaturity. I feel like we are all capable regardless, you just have to want to. Same with the excuse that a man who beats on women does so because he didnt have a father to show him how to treat women. No, he's just an asshole. You dont need a certain figure in your life to show you how to take care of something you love....male, female or object. If youre beating on people, you simply werent taught to keep your hands to yourself or youre just violent. Maybe both.

So yeah, I dont buy the whole "doesnt know how to love because his parents didnt love each other" mess.

[GRAND]

my 2 cents:

http://vocaroo.com/i/s0PXLijJ7ua6

!!

[L0NZ.]

that's the most ive seen u type 'onz

diss queen and Ill show you typing 

[GRAND]

I'm just fckd in the head every time anyone assumes all folks of a demo. are the same

Especially if theyre apart of the group

[Bulldagger]

and they want to be the divas. Even on this forum a lot of you come off standoffish, cliquish, egotistical and it doesn't make you look good at all.

*I'd love to marry a black man, but I don't know if it's realistic. He'd probably have to be British or some type of foreign because American men are fucked up.

so

what you're saying is.. you're single?

Actually, I'm dating right now.  I have no issues getting a black guy if that's what you think. I just don't like black [american] guys' approach and their mindset. Look - I've had this discussions with other well-to-do black guys and they feel the same way unfortunately.

[GRAND]

and they want to be the divas. Even on this forum a lot of you come off standoffish, cliquish, egotistical and it doesn't make you look good at all.

*I'd love to marry a black man, but I don't know if it's realistic. He'd probably have to be British or some type of foreign because American men are fucked up.

so

what you're saying is.. you're single?

Actually, I'm dating right now.  I have no issues getting a black guy if that's what you think. I just don't like black [american] guys' approach and their mindset. Look - I've had this discussions with other well-to-do black guys and they feel the same way unfortunately.

Are you not black American?