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[The Only BLACK Kalmyks]

this is an honest question.

when did yall become hetero black male allies?

lsfdddsdsfdsds

i def remember the gorls saying black hetero men are trash and that kinda being the end of the discussion
no ifs, ands or buts , empathy or understanding about it
(although i didn't agree but eventually gave up)

i actually kinda go up and up for black hetero males and understand their plight as well

but i understand who needs the most protection right now. this thread was for them.

and i'll still stand up for the hetero black men when time comes.

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

Sor' but black men don't benefit from racial stereotypes either, gay straight dark or light
the issue isn't that stereotypes are only insulting and offensive, is that fact that they are also limiting.
and this isn't giving a a bit of "whataboutism!" either

!!!!
It's no different from black women being objectified for having a particular body type, or Latinas being objectified for being spicy, etc.
The only stereotype you can maybe sorta spin into a positive is that Choke's ppl are always smart, but like you said, that's limiting.

!!!
Yh black people like fried chicken...ok and we also like 52342534534 other things.
it's the general SWEEP and LIMITS that are placed upon us, we like X and ONLY like X or black men are X and they ALL like X.

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

it's not even about being an ally, it's just about common sense
most of here have fathers, uncles, grandparents, brothers, cousins who are straight black men, their treatment doesn't differ from ours in the wider context
You don't need to join a Hotep members club to see that tbh

[The Only BLACK Kalmyks]

ok so now that we've acknowledged that black men indeed have a struggle as well

back to dark skinned black women and how people shut them down and call them bitter black ugly darkie nappy heads simply for stating what's obvious.

they're not delusional.

[L0NZ.]

A lot of Black women, ESPECIALLY unambiguously Black women are still just as obsessed with "good hair" as anyone else  

[L0NZ.]

The people who love your curls and want to touch them, are they Black men or women? 

[The Only BLACK Kalmyks]

A lot of Black women, ESPECIALLY unambiguously Black women are still just as obsessed with "good hair" as anyone else

its not just an obsession in itself

but using those things as a form of oppression against others

yall talk about how hetero black men oppress other people in our community all the time. why the fuck am i getting pushback on this?

omg

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

A lot of Black women, ESPECIALLY unambiguously Black women are still just as obsessed with "good hair" as anyone else

its not just an obsession in itself

but using those things as a form of oppression against others

yall talk about how hetero black men oppress other people in our community all the time. why the fuck am i getting pushback on this?

omg

so they're black women right? 

[The Only BLACK Kalmyks]

A lot of Black women, ESPECIALLY unambiguously Black women are still just as obsessed with "good hair" as anyone else

its not just an obsession in itself

but using those things as a form of oppression against others

yall talk about how hetero black men oppress other people in our community all the time. why the fuck am i getting pushback on this?

omg

so they're black women right? 

huh?

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

Coz lonz has a point
because 6/10 whenever I see some mess about black women's hair and complexion, the perp is usually another black women of a lighter complexion
Lipstick Alley is rife with that.

[Dr Naomi Campbell]

The people who love your curls and want to touch them, are they Black men or women?

good point

[klappa.]

Lol it goes both ways... women just are more impacted by it because their hair is so much of their identity

[The Only BLACK Kalmyks]

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oh. i see .

the crime isn't someone admiring something

the crime is taking what they admire and USING it against others.

the crime is screaming from the mountaintops "HEAR YE HEAR YE BALD HEADED DARKIES! LISTEN UPP!!!!"

ANYONE who is doing that , regardless of gender , is dead wrong. but we know that men often create and reinforce standards of beauty within their communities.
which in turn, can affect how women see themselves, present themselves and expect other women to present themselves.

can we just have a real conversation?
does that NOT make sense?

[The Only BLACK Kalmyks]

and i didn't intend for this to be a "lets drag hetero black men yall lolz" thread
i don't want it to be taken that way.  like not my mission at all.

i approached the man i mentioned in the OP with LOVE. very gently and took my time to educate him
because i know he himself is a bit of a victim as well if he's using that language. he's not the devil automatically.

this is more of a "when u see a black woman explaining her plight....listen to her. shit is REAL out here." thread

not just for us as members here , but any guests reading. it needs to be known that black women are not delusional and are not pulling shit out of their ass for pity points

[CHOKE]

How yawl feel that 90% of unambiguous hetero black men and women don't use faggots yet yawl in here advocating for both?