I do, absolutely. I've been living and travelling mostly alone in Australia for the past 7.5 months and came to the conclusion that that's just the way I am. I used to feel kinda guilty for it growing up, cause people kept telling me, directly or indirectly, "open up more! smile more! make more friends!" and that's still embedded in my brain. I usually hate large groups of people, parties, or just loud places (except for concerts, cause there would be a purpose of me being there) and I feel more comfortable in places where there's barely any people.
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
oh most definitely
I?m not. But I just don?t want to invest in useless relationships or small talk.
Yea. As a youth, it was just that. Now that I'm older, I hate a lot of things about people in general, it really added to it.
Yup.
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
XXXCCCCCCC
Are you from the north
My friend from New York thinks Southerners are so fake cause we always divulge in small talk :plzstop:
"Who CARES?!"
Definitely.
People exhaust the shit out of me.
The time I spend just being with myself >>>
:oof:
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
!!!!!!!!!!!
But it depends
I wouldn't necessarily say i'm introverted because I love people. I go through periods where I don't wanna be bothered for days at a time though.
I?m not but I wish I was.
Everybody who regularly posts on here I think is to some extent
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
!!!
I think it's because most people are not as empathetic as they think they are and just have a basic understanding of social interaction and body language. They think: silent = stuck up, neutral face = mean face etc.
I've had people from work coming up to me asking "are you ok? everything alright?" and I'm like "Yes, everything fine", but thinking "Sorry I can't be an always happy and laughing loud mouth, if that's what being "normal" is... :uhh: :dead:
Only when I?m not drinking
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
!!!!! I?m the same way. People think I?m standoff-ish as fuck because I don?t deal with too many people. :plzstop:
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:41:57 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:38:41 PM
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
!!!
I think it's because most people are not as empathetic as they think they are and just have a basic understanding of social interaction and body language. They think: silent = stuck up, neutral face = mean face etc.
I've had people from work coming up to me asking "are you ok? everything alright?" and I'm like "Yes, everything fine", but thinking "Sorry I can't be an always happy and laughing loud mouth, if that's what being "normal" is... :uhh: :dead:
!!!!!!!
Omfff
It legit kinda STEAMS me out when ppl ask me that. :uhh: Like can a bitch just be SILENT. Like, I don?t KNOW you nor do I wanna get to know you. It?s like people get offended cause u didn?t acknowledge their presence or something. Oh well.
!!!!!! I?m always giving :uhh: when people ask me dumb shit like that. Like leave me the fuck alone.
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:40:32 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:05:05 PM
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
Well Michael was an introvert as well and he still did his thing.
Some people are able to "perform" for whatever their job/career requires, but when they are at home, etc. they could be quiet as a mouse and not wanting to go clubbing and mess.
We did a personality test at my job for fun and my managers were really shocked that I came back as an introvert personality, cuz they feel as if I'm the life of the office.
But my best friend knows how I am down to a science - when I don't know a group of people, I am extremely quiet. Based on what I've heard, that sometimes leads people to believe I am something I am not (stuck up, too good, etc. ) But once I am warmed up to them, I get very warm and friendly.
Yes, but if it's 50/50 like with Michael, then it's neither introverted nor extroverted, IMO. It seems like a balancing method to cope with their job that has to do with being around tons of people.
I mean, it's not a competition of who's more introverted :dead:, but someone like Oprah saying "I'm introverted" kind of takes things away from people who really spend weeks or months being alone and being fine with it PLUS hating being in crowded places etc., if you know what I mean.
I?m extremely introverted. I just hate social situations period.
In a sense I am, but I'm cool with most people. But even then, I don't wanna be bothered. Like if I'm strolling through Wal-mart with some jogging pants on, a wife beater and a pair of dark shades, ion feel like being bothered with talking to your ass shit.
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:53:12 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:48:15 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:40:32 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:05:05 PM
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
Well Michael was an introvert as well and he still did his thing.
Some people are able to "perform" for whatever their job/career requires, but when they are at home, etc. they could be quiet as a mouse and not wanting to go clubbing and mess.
We did a personality test at my job for fun and my managers were really shocked that I came back as an introvert personality, cuz they feel as if I'm the life of the office.
But my best friend knows how I am down to a science - when I don't know a group of people, I am extremely quiet. Based on what I've heard, that sometimes leads people to believe I am something I am not (stuck up, too good, etc. ) But once I am warmed up to them, I get very warm and friendly.
Yes, but if it's 50/50 like with Michael, then it's neither introverted nor extroverted, IMO. It seems like a balancing method to cope with their job that has to do with being around tons of people.
I mean, it's not a competition of who's more introverted :dead:, but someone like Oprah saying "I'm introverted" kind of takes things away from people who really spend weeks or months being alone and being fine with it PLUS hating being in crowded places etc., if you know what I mean.
Yeah, there could be different levels to it.
Being in crowded places creeps me the fuck out.
It's one reason I put music to the side - I'd never want to perform in some hot, overcrowded club. And that's something you kinda have to do if you're making club music. :dead: I had to really come to terms with the fact that even though I love music and the creative process, I am not a "performer" personality.
I'm a textbook INFJ.
https://www.16personalities.com/infj-personality
Being real with myself helped me to go into another direction with the app. People always come to me for advice and inspiration . I'm a giver down.
My best friend hated the fact that I disliked walking through big crowds. Like at the mall, I become tense when I'm around a lot of people at one time. If I hear people laughing as I walk by, I get defensive. But that's because of my childhood.
Yea... I'm very social and I've learned to enjoy it, but it doesn't "energize" me like with extroverts, unless it's in an environment of interest and comfort.
Sometimes, I feel like being social is like a chore.. like maintenance for a relationship. I often go and do things with a friend, not because I want to, but just because I care and want to maintain the relationship. And I think that's why it can be so draining for me at times and I need that time to recharge.
Twin kinda hit it right on the fucking NAIL. I hate casual conversations and conversing with people that I don't really care about. For an example with work...like bitches can I PLEASE just heat up my fucking food or grab a coffee in PEACE without having a forced ass conversation? :uhh:
No way
I could never comfortably claim that term because I?m too ?outgoing? i suppose. Of course i have my moments where i crave nothing BUT solitude and i absolutely love it when i can retreat to that at any given time, being an only child. I?m used to being able to do that.
I grew up loving my own company and being able to entertain myself BUT i also loved all of my friends and different groups that I?d hop in and entertain as well. Just being wild, imaginative and outspoken. the class clown too :dead: which always got my ass in trouble. Afro and i would?ve been a fucking MESS, torturing students and teachers from class to class :kii:
When i experienced depression in my teen years (not knowing what depression truly was at the time) that?s when i became this shy/timid fellow that was completely unrecognizable to everyone that knows/knew me at that time. I was a loner my first two years of highschool
Now I?m back to where i was as a child from like birth to age 12. Not a full extrovert really, but certainly not introverted by any stretch
Quote from: Kaeli. on April 08, 2018, 10:34:38 PM
But it depends
I wouldn't necessarily say i'm introverted because I love people. I go through periods where I don't wanna be bothered for days at a time though.
!!!! Woo! Don?t get me wrong
Those days revitalize the hell outta me :kii: but typically when I?m in a happy go lucky, and peaceful space i WANT to share it and be around other positive, genuine people and talk about everything imaginable
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:05:05 PM
I do, absolutely. I've been living and travelling mostly alone in Australia for the past 7.5 months and came to the conclusion that that's just the way I am. I used to feel kinda guilty for it growing up, cause people kept telling me, directly or indirectly, "open up more! smile more! make more friends!" and that's still embedded in my brain. I usually hate large groups of people, parties, or just loud places (except for concerts, cause there would be a purpose of me being there) and I feel more comfortable in places where there's barely any people.
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
Oprah and Rupaul would be considered ambivent. That's a combination of extrovert and introvert. Which is were I fall.
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:48:15 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:40:32 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:05:05 PM
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
Well Michael was an introvert as well and he still did his thing.
Some people are able to "perform" for whatever their job/career requires, but when they are at home, etc. they could be quiet as a mouse and not wanting to go clubbing and mess.
We did a personality test at my job for fun and my managers were really shocked that I came back as an introvert personality, cuz they feel as if I'm the life of the office.
But my best friend knows how I am down to a science - when I don't know a group of people, I am extremely quiet. Based on what I've heard, that sometimes leads people to believe I am something I am not (stuck up, too good, etc. ) But once I am warmed up to them, I get very warm and friendly.
Yes, but if it's 50/50 like with Michael, then it's neither introverted nor extroverted, IMO. It seems like a balancing method to cope with their job that has to do with being around tons of people.
I mean, it's not a competition of who's more introverted :dead:, but someone like Oprah saying "I'm introverted" kind of takes things away from people who really spend weeks or months being alone and being fine with it PLUS hating being in crowded places etc., if you know what I mean.
I see what you mean
That?s why I?m very careful with claiming that like i said in my first post. That, and things like anxiety that seems to be the new thing everyone wants to say they legit struggle with on a severe level :dead:
I?ll get on twitter and see it a LOT and I?m like ?i don?t think y?all
really know what that is or what it entails? :dead:
Ive experienced some of these things but not on a high level, and to my core I?m likely smack dab in the middle overall when discussing introverts/extroverts
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:41:57 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:38:41 PM
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
!!!
I think it's because most people are not as empathetic as they think they are and just have a basic understanding of social interaction and body language. They think: silent = stuck up, neutral face = mean face etc.
I've had people from work coming up to me asking "are you ok? everything alright?" and I'm like "Yes, everything fine", but thinking "Sorry I can't be an always happy and laughing loud mouth, if that's what being "normal" is... :uhh: :dead:
!!!!!!!
Omfff
It legit kinda STEAMS me out when ppl ask me that. :uhh: Like can a bitch just be SILENT. Like, I don?t KNOW you nor do I wanna get to know you. It?s like people get offended cause u didn?t acknowledge their presence or something. Oh well.
Quote from: Trey on April 08, 2018, 11:12:31 PM
Yea... I'm very social and I've learned to enjoy it, but it doesn't "energize" me like with extroverts, unless it's in an environment of interest and comfort.
Sometimes, I feel like being social is like a chore.. like maintenance for a relationship. I often go and do things with a friend, not because I want to, but just because I care and want to maintain the relationship. And I think that's why it can be so draining for me at times and I need that time to recharge.
Twin kinda hit it right on the fucking NAIL. I hate casual conversations and conversing with people that I don't really care about. For an example with work...like bitches can I PLEASE just heat up my fucking food or grab a coffee in PEACE without having a forced ass conversation? :uhh:
:plzstop:
I love you omg this board >>
I can?t tell you how many times I?ve experienced this. Certain people are always looking for my thoughts on something because they know my interests vary from sports to music and theatre/blah blah, or they?re just looking for a quick laugh but omg. It?s my fault tho because what i give from day to day, can be completely fucking different Sndndndndnfnnf ?hey GUYS what?s crackin??! Lmao!! Whoa!? and the next day giving
:sevynstreeter:
Sometimes i legit just want everyone to sit and meditate for 10 damn minutes
:calmdownsis:
Quote from: 1RIG on April 08, 2018, 11:32:17 PM
Quote from: Trey on April 08, 2018, 11:12:31 PM
Yea... I'm very social and I've learned to enjoy it, but it doesn't "energize" me like with extroverts, unless it's in an environment of interest and comfort.
Sometimes, I feel like being social is like a chore.. like maintenance for a relationship. I often go and do things with a friend, not because I want to, but just because I care and want to maintain the relationship. And I think that's why it can be so draining for me at times and I need that time to recharge.
Twin kinda hit it right on the fucking NAIL. I hate casual conversations and conversing with people that I don't really care about. For an example with work...like bitches can I PLEASE just heat up my fucking food or grab a coffee in PEACE without having a forced ass conversation? :uhh:
:plzstop:
I love you omg this board >>
I can?t tell you how many times I?ve experienced this. Certain people are always looking for my thoughts on something because they know my interests vary from sports to music and theatre/blah blah, or they?re just looking for a quick laugh but omg. It?s my fault tho because what i give from day to day, can be completely fucking different Sndndndndnfnnf ?hey GUYS what?s crackin??! Lmao!! Whoa!? and the next day giving
:sevynstreeter:
Sometimes i legit just want everyone to sit and meditate for 10 damn minutes
:calmdownsis:
OMFFFF!!!! That's me!! :plzstop:
My friends and family have ALWAYS said that I'm very moody and have "ways", but I never realized until pretty recently. :dead: Its just when I don't get my time to recharge and get away from everyone, I become very irritable and emotionally disconnected. I'm very friendly and outgoing and a good listener, but sometimes I just don't feel like being fucking bothered. :dead: :uhh: My roomie told she can sense when not to bother me.... I don't think she can though.
:sevynstreeter:
One time I was so drained and THROUGH that she asked "are you even listening?" and I flat the fuck out said "I'm really not..." like girl, can I just come home n collect my OWN thoughts first n get UNDRESSED in peace? :uhh: :uhh: :uhh:
Whew! But that's another conversation for another day. Lol
Quote from: 1RIG on April 08, 2018, 11:28:33 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:48:15 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:40:32 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:05:05 PM
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
Well Michael was an introvert as well and he still did his thing.
Some people are able to "perform" for whatever their job/career requires, but when they are at home, etc. they could be quiet as a mouse and not wanting to go clubbing and mess.
We did a personality test at my job for fun and my managers were really shocked that I came back as an introvert personality, cuz they feel as if I'm the life of the office.
But my best friend knows how I am down to a science - when I don't know a group of people, I am extremely quiet. Based on what I've heard, that sometimes leads people to believe I am something I am not (stuck up, too good, etc. ) But once I am warmed up to them, I get very warm and friendly.
Yes, but if it's 50/50 like with Michael, then it's neither introverted nor extroverted, IMO. It seems like a balancing method to cope with their job that has to do with being around tons of people.
I mean, it's not a competition of who's more introverted :dead:, but someone like Oprah saying "I'm introverted" kind of takes things away from people who really spend weeks or months being alone and being fine with it PLUS hating being in crowded places etc., if you know what I mean.
I see what you mean
That?s why I?m very careful with claiming that like i said in my first post. That, and things like anxiety that seems to be the new thing everyone wants to say they legit struggle with on a severe level :dead:
I?ll get on twitter and see it a LOT and I?m like ?i don?t think y?all really know what that is or what it entails? :dead:
Ive experienced some of these things but not on a high level, and to my core I?m likely smack dab in the middle overall when discussing introverts/extroverts
!!!
And I appreciate that you keep it real.
I don't know why people WANT to have a struggle or want to put themselves into a "different" category to be edgy. :dead:
Yup.
Quote from: Trey on April 09, 2018, 12:11:22 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 08, 2018, 11:32:17 PM
Quote from: Trey on April 08, 2018, 11:12:31 PM
Yea... I'm very social and I've learned to enjoy it, but it doesn't "energize" me like with extroverts, unless it's in an environment of interest and comfort.
Sometimes, I feel like being social is like a chore.. like maintenance for a relationship. I often go and do things with a friend, not because I want to, but just because I care and want to maintain the relationship. And I think that's why it can be so draining for me at times and I need that time to recharge.
Twin kinda hit it right on the fucking NAIL. I hate casual conversations and conversing with people that I don't really care about. For an example with work...like bitches can I PLEASE just heat up my fucking food or grab a coffee in PEACE without having a forced ass conversation? :uhh:
:plzstop:
I love you omg this board >>
I can?t tell you how many times I?ve experienced this. Certain people are always looking for my thoughts on something because they know my interests vary from sports to music and theatre/blah blah, or they?re just looking for a quick laugh but omg. It?s my fault tho because what i give from day to day, can be completely fucking different Sndndndndnfnnf ?hey GUYS what?s crackin??! Lmao!! Whoa!? and the next day giving
:sevynstreeter:
Sometimes i legit just want everyone to sit and meditate for 10 damn minutes
:calmdownsis:
OMFFFF!!!! That's me!! :plzstop:
My friends and family have ALWAYS said that I'm very moody and have "ways", but I never realized until pretty recently. :dead: Its just when I don't get my time to recharge and get away from everyone, I become very irritable and emotionally disconnected. I'm very friendly and outgoing and a good listener, but sometimes I just don't feel like being fucking bothered. :dead: :uhh: My roomie told she can sense when not to bother me.... I don't think she can though.
:sevynstreeter:
One time I was so drained and THROUGH that she asked "are you even listening?" and I flat the fuck out said "I'm really not..." like girl, can I just come home n collect my OWN thoughts first n get UNDRESSED in peace? :uhh: :uhh: :uhh:
Whew! But that's another conversation for another day. Lol
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Omfg!! :kii:
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 09, 2018, 12:12:55 AM
Twin wait
im screaming
I felt like i was reading a message from you sndndnfffgg TREYthan Wait
Honestly I'm not sure what I am anymore
I fake being extrovert and social and outgoing every fucking day of my life now
I'm so good at it, I'm not sure if it's natural or forced anymore
I know I wasn't this way 5 years ago though
So I dunno if it's been hidden within me or if I'm just faking it
Another example: https://twitter.com/disney/status/983089438287855616?s=21
Even DISNEY wants to be emo and depressing :uhh:
literally one of the first tweets i saw tonight
Quote from: LORD ALPHA GRAND SUPREME PRIME CELESTIAL MARSHALL on April 09, 2018, 12:25:27 AM
Honestly I'm not sure what I am anymore
I fake being extrovert and social and outgoing every fucking day of my life now
I'm so good at it, I'm not sure if it's natural or forced anymore
I know I wasn't this way 5 years ago though
So I dunno if it's been hidden within me or if I'm just faking it
sssddddddddddddd
I'm going through/went through that stage too. I think it's more so just growing up and learning yourself. I used to think I was "fake" extroverting when I first moved here, but I really do enjoy being social and "extroverted", as an adult... I think its due to being comfortable in your own skin and knowing who you are now. We still need our fucking breaks from the world though. :dead:
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 12:29:05 AM
Another example: https://twitter.com/disney/status/983089438287855616?s=21
Even DISNEY wants to be emo and depressing :uhh:
literally one of the first tweets i saw tonight
Ddvddvvdvd
'ney gorl :uhh:
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 12:55:54 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 12:29:05 AM
Another example: https://twitter.com/disney/status/983089438287855616?s=21
Even DISNEY wants to be emo and depressing :uhh:
literally one of the first tweets i saw tonight
nmbj
(https://i.imgur.com/v3PqFIQ.jpg?1)
:plzstop: :plzstop:
The world is going THROUGH, it seems
:diddraispoot:
wat can i say
i jus need my peace time
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 12:55:54 AM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 12:29:05 AM
Another example: https://twitter.com/disney/status/983089438287855616?s=21
Even DISNEY wants to be emo and depressing :uhh:
literally one of the first tweets i saw tonight
nmbj
(https://i.imgur.com/v3PqFIQ.jpg?1)
nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnfvc
Pons is this part of the big reveals u been hinting about
:jarvwhereru:
The world is crumbling huh
Yes, I am and I honestly don't like it. I always envied the people who can sashay through a crowd and mingle a bit. I personally just don't like people. I think as I got older tho I'm becoming less antisocial/introverted though. I'm learning to be more talkative but I still can't do crowds. I will literally clam up and get paranoid.
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 01:04:45 AM
Pons is this part of the big reveals u been hinting about
:jarvwhereru:
The world is crumbling huh
:heyddy:
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 01:11:43 AM
Yes, I am and I honestly don't like it. I always envied the people who can sashay through a crowd and mingle a bit. I personally just don't like people. I think as I got older tho I'm becoming less antisocial/introverted though. I'm learning to be more talkative but I still can't do crowds. I will literally clam up and get paranoid.
Do you think the way you were raised has to do with it? Cause as far as I remember my parents never took me to overcrowded places like big events when I was a child, plus I'm from the countryside. Might be something that has to be "learned" in early childhood.
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 01:30:57 AM
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 01:11:43 AM
Yes, I am and I honestly don't like it. I always envied the people who can sashay through a crowd and mingle a bit. I personally just don't like people. I think as I got older tho I'm becoming less antisocial/introverted though. I'm learning to be more talkative but I still can't do crowds. I will literally clam up and get paranoid.
Do you think the way you were raised has to do with it? Cause as far as I remember my parents never took me to overcrowded places like big events when I was a child, plus I'm from the countryside. Might be something that has to be "learned" in early childhood.
It probably does but at the same time I know my parents used to take me to Chuck E Cheese and to the mall. But my mom was super protective and would tell people "No" if they tried to get too close to me :plzstop: so I wonder if that rubbed off on me cause as I got older she told me that I used to be picky about who I would talk to and only smile and chat with certain kids. I'm the first born and my first two years were mostly spent with my mom or alone with my toys fjjjj I noticed that people who come from big families tend to be more extroverted and chatty tho.
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 01:52:10 AM
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 01:30:57 AM
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 01:11:43 AM
Yes, I am and I honestly don't like it. I always envied the people who can sashay through a crowd and mingle a bit. I personally just don't like people. I think as I got older tho I'm becoming less antisocial/introverted though. I'm learning to be more talkative but I still can't do crowds. I will literally clam up and get paranoid.
Do you think the way you were raised has to do with it? Cause as far as I remember my parents never took me to overcrowded places like big events when I was a child, plus I'm from the countryside. Might be something that has to be "learned" in early childhood.
It probably does but at the same time I know my parents used to take me to Chuck E Cheese and to the mall. But my mom was super protective and would tell people "No" if they tried to get too close to me :plzstop: so I wonder if that rubbed off on me cause as I got older she told me that I used to be picky about who I would talk to and only smile and chat with certain kids. I'm the first born and my first two years were mostly spent with my mom or alone with my toys fjjjj I noticed that people who come from big families tend to be more extroverted and chatty tho.
Sounds like that definitely rubbed off on you. My mom was also very protective of me and my older brothers.
A proud extrovert.
:blessed: :blessed:
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:41:57 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:38:41 PM
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 08, 2018, 10:26:04 PM
Ack and I hate small talk. ?Hey! How ya doin!? *talks my ear off*
BABY, I really don?t care.
Sometimes I think ppl think I?m mean as fuck cause sometimes I?ll just legit be silent. I don?t have the energy. And it really depends on the day if I feel like being bothered. :omf:
I?m really the nicest person ever though.
!!!
I think it's because most people are not as empathetic as they think they are and just have a basic understanding of social interaction and body language. They think: silent = stuck up, neutral face = mean face etc.
I've had people from work coming up to me asking "are you ok? everything alright?" and I'm like "Yes, everything fine", but thinking "Sorry I can't be an always happy and laughing loud mouth, if that's what being "normal" is... :uhh: :dead:
!!!!!!!
Omfff
It legit kinda STEAMS me out when ppl ask me that. :uhh: Like can a bitch just be SILENT. Like, I don?t KNOW you nor do I wanna get to know you. It?s like people get offended cause u didn?t acknowledge their presence or something. Oh well.
I?m sorry, im somebody that FUMES at silent laid back niggas. Like NIGGA, interact! It?s an opportunity to connect, why you being so weird and mute. It irks my spirit sometimes.
https://youtu.be/g7AQ7No84Uc
This is the theme song to my life tbh nnn
:kii: well cut straight into the bratw?rst then.
Malc seems like a sociopath anyway. Doesn't surprise me that he doesn't understand introversion.
I think some people confuse being annoying with being extroverted. A lot of people just love to hear themselves talk :dead:
Dddd getting spicy in here (feat. Fabolous)
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 02:43:30 AM
A proud extrovert.
:blessed: :blessed:
i can tell you?re one of those ppl that think they give
Life of the Partay!Social Butterfly! but come off extremely overbearing and irritating...
& then everyone takes turns lashing that ass as soon as you leave the room
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 03:10:40 AM
Malc seems like a sociopath anyway. Doesn't surprise me that he doesn't understand introversion.
Fuck you. You are the sociopath to be honest. If you are overwhelmed with a fucking crowd. I?m just a regular optimistic and life loving person. I hate negative folk. They are really draining.
Many introverts are so bitter. :uhh:
Like, I just get shit DONE. I don?t let anxiety get the best of me. An overachiever if you will! Coming from a working class background it?s essential to be loud.
It?s the silent ones that low key be very jealous sometimes and really deep down don?t want to be silent. I mean yeah I?m obnoxious and self-centered sometimes, but you learn to embrace it and count your blessings. I think we Nigerians we just like to overshadow a bit LOL
:feelinmyself:
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 03:10:40 AM
Malc seems like a sociopath anyway. Doesn't surprise me that he doesn't understand introversion.
I understand it, but I thought we were having and honest and grown exchange. I just shared my perspective so we can reflect on it. Not everyone is gonna come here with a ?Oof Ack! I can relate!?
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:37:58 AM
You're pretty insecure Malcolm.
But if this speech makes you feel better, by all means.
We all have insecurities. I don?t disagree. I mean ask Nicki Minaj.
Quote from: Kaeli. on April 09, 2018, 03:15:42 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 02:43:30 AM
A proud extrovert.
:blessed: :blessed:
i can tell you?re one of those ppl that think they give Life of the Partay!Social Butterfly! but come off extremely overbearing and irritating...
& then everyone takes turns lashing that ass as soon as you leave the room
Being extroverted doesn?t mean popular. It just means you are out there. Being introverted doesn?t mean everyone hates you.
You guys seem to be butt hurt a bit.
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 03:12:00 AM
I think some people confuse being annoying with being extroverted. A lot of people just love to hear themselves talk :dead:
You can be both. And ?annoying? is very subjective. :uhh:
And had I lied and said I was an introvert you guys would have made it a problem too lol
You're being very defensive in here. No one even said extroversion is a bad thing, with Rig giving a good example of someone that tends to be more of an extrovert.
And I didn't call you a sociopath to offend you, it's truly the way I feel about how you interact here and often rub people off the wrong way and come off very selfish. And you keep proving my point tbh with those last few posts of you.
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 09, 2018, 03:37:36 AM
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U wanna be THAT GIRL so bad
sdfnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnkdsfjjdfjdf
Yeah I?m sorry, but you are a hobby psychologist who gets overwhelmed with big crowds. I don?t know what would qualify you to call anyone a sociopath, when clearly you have severe issues going on with your self and your self esteem that you should reflect on. And that?s just being honest. It is very unhealthy to be so overtly bothered by actual human interaction. It seems like you might have an actual condition the way you discribed it, and I apologize for being ignorant cause I can?t relate. I need to learn to also understand people going through mental health problems.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:48:02 AM
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 03:12:00 AM
I think some people confuse being annoying with being extroverted. A lot of people just love to hear themselves talk :dead:
You can be both. And ?annoying? is very subjective. :uhh:
I disagree. I've met plenty of annoying people who just love to hear themselves talk or find it necessary to speak when ever there's just a bit of silence. Like they can't stand silence. Now THAT is annoying.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:55:29 AM
Yeah I?m sorry, but you are a hobby psychologist who gets overwhelmed with big crowds. I don?t know what would qualify you to call anyone a sociopath, when clearly you have severe issues going on with your self and your self esteem that you should reflect on. And that?s just being honest. It is very unhealthy to be so overtly bothered by actual human interaction. It seems like you might have an actual condition the way you discribed it, and I apologize for being ignorant cause I can?t relate. I need to learn to also understand people going through mental health problems.
You're so ignorant :uhh:
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 03:55:36 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:48:02 AM
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 03:12:00 AM
I think some people confuse being annoying with being extroverted. A lot of people just love to hear themselves talk :dead:
You can be both. And ?annoying? is very subjective. :uhh:
I disagree. I've met plenty of annoying people who just love to hear themselves talk or find it necessary to speak when ever there's just a bit of silence. Like they can't stand silence. Now THAT is annoying.
I know people like that. They could be universally considered annoying, though some might still not view it like that. But not every ?annoying? is like that and that clean-cut. And again, you can be annoying, obnoxious, etc and still be an extrovert. It?s not a badge of honor, just a behavior type.
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:57:42 AM
And mind you - I probably wouldn't even have joined in on this little convo about you if you hadn't randomly tried me a couple days ago. Let that simmer.
Consider the tea that you give. It's definitely not an "introverts can't stand extroverts" mess going on in here.
I?m not mad at you. Yank me by my permed roots lol. When we go back and forth, it?s a love-hate thing. I see where you come from totally. But the debate is not about who?s popular, but who?s outgoing.
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:50:35 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:49:24 AM
And had I lied and said I was an introvert you guys would have made it a problem too lol
If that's the case, it yet again speaks to an issue with your personality specifically as opposed to extroverts in general.
People act like being an extrovert and being unpopular can?t go together. People cannot stand Donald Trump or Kanye West or Azealia.
Us Gemini gorls are just polarizing, I acknowledge that. Doesn?t mean we can?t be extroverted.
I definitely am.. once I moved out my parents place n lived on my owns in early 20s though I did challenge myself to not be and live more out my shell cause a part of me didn't wanna Miss out on life or whatever it is...but now almost 30 I definitely Been noticing how I kinda gradually fell back in place back in that shell... I truly love to travel alone, go out alone, n rather be Chillin in my skin comfortably than out somewhere with a crowd.
I will say I have found dating/love life a bit difficult being as introverted as I am ... Because ppl initially will be cool with it but once few years pass or excess months pass they kinda start trying to change what comes so natural to me. But I think a big part of that is because as an introvert I often am attracted or pull to those opposite of me ...only because I like that they take me out my character a bit n I tend to be able to tame them a bit as well.. but at present I realize I am who I am. ?
Well faggot you said something racist and proceeded to allude unspeakable things about me as means to fight back. So ur not Virgin Mary, when it comes to attacking people?s character and integrity.
Quote from: Beau on April 09, 2018, 04:05:36 AM
I definitely am.. once I moved out my parents place n lived on my owns in early 20s though I did challenge myself to not be and live more out my shell cause a part of me didn't wanna Miss out on life or whatever it is...but now almost 30 I definitely Been noticing how I kinda gradually fell back in place back in that shell... I truly love to travel alone, go out alone, n rather be Chillin in my skin comfortably than out somewhere with a crowd.
It's interesting how you "changed back", but maybe you just had to find yourself. Sounds like you're content now. I also love doing things alone now, you gain so much confidence that way.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:55:29 AM
Yeah I?m sorry, but you are a hobby psychologist who gets overwhelmed with big crowds. I don?t know what would qualify you to call anyone a sociopath, when clearly you have severe issues going on with your self and your self esteem that you should reflect on. And that?s just being honest. It is very unhealthy to be so overtly bothered by actual human interaction. It seems like you might have an actual condition the way you discribed it, and I apologize for being ignorant cause I can?t relate. I need to learn to also understand people going through mental health problems.
wow :dead:
Never knew being an extrovert meant being loud, brash, blind, arrogant, ignorant and being proud of it all.
:dead:
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:40:32 PM
Quote from: BowDown on April 08, 2018, 10:34:56 PM
I?m not but I wish I was.
Why's that?
Beacuse not being one gets too tiring. I always have to have people around me so I feel dependent in that sense..
M
How did this conversation end in mess?
:udontlookok:
Anybody that posts online regularly is.
Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 03:12:00 AM
I think some people confuse being annoying with being extroverted. A lot of people just love to hear themselves talk :dead:
!!!!!!
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Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:56:28 PM
Quote from: Scott. on April 08, 2018, 10:54:40 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:53:12 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:48:15 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 08, 2018, 10:40:32 PM
Quote from: squid on April 08, 2018, 10:05:05 PM
Lately I've noticed people falsly using the word introvert to describe themselves. Like RuPaul and Oprah. :dead: I mean, I don't know them personally, but I think a real introvert wouldn't be able to do the things they do. :nowgorl:
Well Michael was an introvert as well and he still did his thing.
Some people are able to "perform" for whatever their job/career requires, but when they are at home, etc. they could be quiet as a mouse and not wanting to go clubbing and mess.
We did a personality test at my job for fun and my managers were really shocked that I came back as an introvert personality, cuz they feel as if I'm the life of the office.
But my best friend knows how I am down to a science - when I don't know a group of people, I am extremely quiet. Based on what I've heard, that sometimes leads people to believe I am something I am not (stuck up, too good, etc. ) But once I am warmed up to them, I get very warm and friendly.
Yes, but if it's 50/50 like with Michael, then it's neither introverted nor extroverted, IMO. It seems like a balancing method to cope with their job that has to do with being around tons of people.
I mean, it's not a competition of who's more introverted :dead:, but someone like Oprah saying "I'm introverted" kind of takes things away from people who really spend weeks or months being alone and being fine with it PLUS hating being in crowded places etc., if you know what I mean.
Yeah, there could be different levels to it.
Being in crowded places creeps me the fuck out.
It's one reason I put music to the side - I'd never want to perform in some hot, overcrowded club. And that's something you kinda have to do if you're making club music. :dead: I had to really come to terms with the fact that even though I love music and the creative process, I am not a "performer" personality.
I'm a textbook INFJ.
https://www.16personalities.com/infj-personality
Being real with myself helped me to go into another direction with the app. People always come to me for advice and inspiration . I'm a giver down.
My best friend hated the fact that I disliked walking through big crowds. Like at the mall, I become tense when I'm around a lot of people at one time. If I hear people laughing as I walk by, I get defensive. But that's because of my childhood.
:stressed: aww
It was worse in college. If i was walking to class and saw a huge crowd and I?ll wind up being late for class cause i took the opposite way JUST to avoid the crowd
Quote from: NATHAN. on April 09, 2018, 03:11:50 AM
A wanna fit in tea.
Thank god im nothing of the sort and can stand alone. Ackkk
Same here.
Honestly some girl was just like Malcolm when i was at my best friends wedding rehearsal. Upset cause l wasn?t engaging with her or the rest of them. Mind you i had never met any of them
Chick: what?s the problem
Me: what do you mean
Chick: why are you engaging with any of us. We?re all having fun and you?re just looking in your phone.
Me: cause l don?t know you and I?d rather look in my phone
Chick: :hmph:Later on i thought i was being rude, but i didn?t care
I am a strong introvert. Dealing with people just drains me.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:36:07 AM
It?s the silent ones that low key be very jealous sometimes and really deep down don?t want to be silent. I mean yeah I?m obnoxious and self-centered sometimes, but you learn to embrace it and count your blessings. I think we Nigerians we just like to overshadow a bit LOL
:feelinmyself:
That?s not true at all. I?m just not a warm and fuzzy person. But most people like me but if i don?t know you, I?m not quick to be giving small talk and be all in your face
Quote from: Scott. on April 09, 2018, 10:19:47 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:36:07 AM
It?s the silent ones that low key be very jealous sometimes and really deep down don?t want to be silent. I mean yeah I?m obnoxious and self-centered sometimes, but you learn to embrace it and count your blessings. I think we Nigerians we just like to overshadow a bit LOL
:feelinmyself:
That?s not true at all. I?m just not a warm and fuzzy person. But most people like me but if i don?t know you, I?m not quick to be giving small talk and be all in your face
He is way off. Just because you're an introvert doesn't mean you are insecure. Jealousy is for the weak. I can honestly say I've never felt jealous of anyone. There is always someone with more than you have.
Tbh all of society is becoming introverted, in a sense.
(http://cdn.thelisticles.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/facebook-real-party1.jpg)
:dead: I don?t really like FB or Twitter, I think that?s why I stayed posting on BSource.
Quote from: Nine on April 08, 2018, 10:27:55 PM
Definitely.
People exhaust the shit out of me.
The time I spend just being with myself >>>
:oof:
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 04:09:06 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 04:06:20 AM
Well faggot you said something racist and proceeded to allude unspeakable things about me as means to fight back. So ur not Virgin Mary, when it comes to attacking people?s character and integrity.
Unspeakable!
Use your brain faggot -
:omgwatshappening:
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on April 09, 2018, 10:40:52 AM
Tbh all of society is becoming introverted, in a sense.
(http://cdn.thelisticles.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/facebook-real-party1.jpg)
:dead: I don?t really like FB or Twitter, I think that?s why I stayed posting on BSource.
!!!!!
I was walking through the mall the other day and everyone was literally walking around like zombies glued to their phones or fidgeting with their headphones.
People don't know how socialize anymore.
:dead:
Dope topic.
Im definitely an introvert. I think it takes my battery a lot longer to deplete than it used to in the past, when it does though I have to go ghost for a couple of days or weeks (depends on the weather).
I have really been working on being a fake extrovert in professional & academic settings but sometimes my battery depletes mid sentence and Im forced to try to stay present or give the illusion that I am. It makes me uncomfortable af.
Im curious about how the other introverts in the room handle social interactions while at work or some there else they're "obligated" to be interpersonal & engaging?
Quote from: Andrais. on April 09, 2018, 11:01:41 AM
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on April 09, 2018, 10:40:52 AM
Tbh all of society is becoming introverted, in a sense.
(http://cdn.thelisticles.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/facebook-real-party1.jpg)
:dead: I don?t really like FB or Twitter, I think that?s why I stayed posting on BSource.
!!!!!
I was walking through the mall the other day and everyone was literally walking around like zombies glued to their phones or fidgeting with their headphones.
People don't know how socialize anymore.
:dead:
true
I feel like social media is a form of extroversion too, depending on how you use it.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:33:38 AM
Like, I just get shit DONE. I don?t let anxiety get the best of me. An overachiever if you will! Coming from a working class background it?s essential to be loud.
Hey,
what does any of this have to do with introversion and extroversion?
I used to think I was, but I think it has more to do with the personalities I'm surrounded by. Its much easier to be sociable with someone I have a genuine (platonic) chemistry with. And the minute I feel negativity or someone being stoic, I usually return the favor.
ffjjjff
Anxiety! Working class! Rambunctious!
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Quote from: Andrais. on April 09, 2018, 11:17:04 AM
ffjjjff
Anxiety! Working class! Rambunctious!
(https://ih1.redbubble.net/image.218547668.2032/flat,800x800,070,f.jpg)
:kii:
go-getter! life of the part'!
XXXXX
You girls hate that boy
he is just insufferable.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:33:38 AM
Like, I just get shit DONE. I don?t let anxiety get the best of me. An overachiever if you will! Coming from a working class background it?s essential to be loud.
tbh Mack, it sounds like you?re deflecting or over-stating to hide some type of deficient view you or possibly others in your past have had.
It reminds me of Nene a bit
?I worked for mine! Nobody getting me down! Rich bitch?Yet was in tears when Xscape pulled the plug on that opportunity.
Ppl have a negative view of reflective or introspective ppl (which you didn?t really answer lol), but there?s old sayings in America, say you have a room full of ppl
The loudest person in the room is silent inside.
The person laughing at/judging everyone else is crying inside.
The reflective person in the room is processing and learning.
The meek/humble person in the room is grateful to be in the room with all 3
Now neither of these 3 denotes how happy a person can be nor am I saying there aren?t exceptions
But I believe this reflects how the universal energies works.
kind, reflective ppl receive good karma in the end
Meek/humble people usually find themselves in some position of power
Loud obnoxious ppl receive the hard knocks in the end (that usually their mouth started), and receive the same treatment they put others too
exp. Nene, Tamar, Tupac, Suge, all high school bullies :dead:
And the ppl laughing or judging end up in the most trying times.
exp. Tamar, Khia, most comedians actually go insane
Wait ... Why?d you go off in here anyways? :dead:
Damn MOP
Oh and Tamar is listed twice
Getting fired from the Real was being loud and obnoxious karma
Her husband cheating and confusing her with a Klondike bar is karma for laughing at and judging her sisters.
Whoooo, Mack you gotta get it together bby. I know you?re sweet.
You can?t possibly claim what these girls say about you do you?!!!
Loud! Obnoxious!
Boy I just wanna take you over my knee, you are too bright for that mess :dead:
I can be at first until I get comfortable.
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on April 09, 2018, 11:48:29 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:33:38 AM
Like, I just get shit DONE. I don?t let anxiety get the best of me. An overachiever if you will! Coming from a working class background it?s essential to be loud.
tbh Mack, it sounds like you?re deflecting or over-stating to hide some type of deficient view you or possibly others in your past have had.
It reminds me of Nene a bit
?I worked for mine! Nobody getting me down! Rich bitch?
Yet was in tears when Xscape pulled the plug on that opportunity.
Ppl have a negative view of reflective or introspective ppl (which you didn?t really answer lol), but there?s old sayings in America, say you have a room full of ppl
The loudest person in the room is silent inside.
The person laughing at/judging everyone else is crying inside.
The reflective person in the room is processing and learning.
The meek/humble person in the room is grateful to be in the room with all 3
Now neither of these 3 denotes how happy a person can be nor am I saying there aren?t exceptions
But I believe this reflects how the universal energies works.
kind, reflective ppl receive good karma in the end
Meek/humble people usually find themselves in some position of power
Loud obnoxious ppl receive the hard knocks in the end (that usually their mouth started), and receive the same treatment they put others too
exp. Nene, Tamar, Tupac, Suge, all high school bullies :dead:
And the ppl laughing or judging end up in the most trying times.
exp. Tamar, Khia, most comedians actually go insane
Wait ... Why?d you go off in here anyways? :dead:
:wub:
bent
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Quote from: Kurama on April 09, 2018, 11:12:51 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:33:38 AM
Like, I just get shit DONE. I don?t let anxiety get the best of me. An overachiever if you will! Coming from a working class background it?s essential to be loud.
Hey,
what does any of this have to do with introversion and extroversion?
:dead:
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Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:36:07 AM
It?s the silent ones that low key be very jealous sometimes and really deep down don?t want to be silent. I mean yeah I?m obnoxious and self-centered sometimes, but you learn to embrace it and count your blessings. I think we Nigerians we just like to overshadow a bit LOL
:feelinmyself:
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Quote from: element on April 09, 2018, 03:12:00 AM
I think some people confuse being annoying with being extroverted. A lot of people just love to hear themselves talk :dead:
whoa
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:31:02 AM
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 03:10:40 AM
Malc seems like a sociopath anyway. Doesn't surprise me that he doesn't understand introversion.
Fuck you. You are the sociopath to be honest. If you are overwhelmed with a fucking crowd. I?m just a regular optimistic and life loving person. I hate negative folk. They are really draining.
I'm crying
ssssssssssscablchachabcahcaca :kii:
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:09:09 AM
ndfnfn
I see everyone's POV in here honestly.
All about what you're comfortable with - it's your time and your life. Your space as well.
I went to a lil rooftop party last weekend and honestly had fun. Found myself working the room a bit, hopping from one person to the next chatting it up (friendly convo nothing skank like), etc.
Saw it as a bit of practice - I really am going to have to get used to comfortably networking. It's kinda mandatory for what I'm planning. But I'd much rather work a nice room like that than to be up in a sweaty hot club. It was definitely more in my lane of comfort.
Once I had a margarita or two I was def good to go. :woohoo: Loosened me up just a tad. Just had to be careful not to drink too much. Kept it classy and professional.
But a lot of confidence comes from me taking better care of myself, I believe. My posture is much better (people think I've gotten taller :dead: ), I feel better. It's really important I take care of myself because when you're not doing that, you don't want to get out as much. It's mandatory that I get out a bit. No need to party hard and mess, but I need to be comfortable speaking in front of and presenting myself to people.
!!!!!!! Been there
Go King :blush:
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 03:13:31 AM
Dddd getting spicy in here (feat. Fabolous)
bcncnncncncncn oh God
Of course it is. mess :dead: the first 4 pages were so good
lemme read through
Malcolm didn't do himself any favors in here with the BS.
I honestly don't know anymore.
I think Im naturally extroverted, but living in the south made me introverted. So I'm both.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:55:29 AM
Yeah I?m sorry, but you are a hobby psychologist who gets overwhelmed with big crowds. I don?t know what would qualify you to call anyone a sociopath, when clearly you have severe issues going on with your self and your self esteem that you should reflect on. And that?s just being honest. It is very unhealthy to be so overtly bothered by actual human interaction. It seems like you might have an actual condition the way you discribed it, and I apologize for being ignorant cause I can?t relate. I need to learn to also understand people going through mental health problems.
Yeah, you are clearly a sociopath. You're unable to step into her shoes and she it from her perspective.
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Xbxbbxbxbxbbx
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these diagnoses flying around :dead:
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:31:02 AM
Quote from: squid on April 09, 2018, 03:10:40 AM
Malc seems like a sociopath anyway. Doesn't surprise me that he doesn't understand introversion.
Fuck you. You are the sociopath to be honest. If you are overwhelmed with a fucking crowd. I?m just a regular optimistic and life loving person. I hate negative folk. They are really draining.
sklmklfm
No shade, but this kinda shows that you lack empathy and 9 times out of 10 you can't tell when you're actually being the one who is negative and draining.
Like how can you just look at someone and go
"Oh don't understand you! Must mean your terrible cause you're not like me!"
:plzstop: :plzstop:
fuck u Sinny
That?s exactly what squid did by labeling me a sociopath because I?m not introverted.
that's definitely not why he called you a sociopath :dead:
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Yeah I didn't understand that but why are you equating introversion to being negative and not loving life?
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Quote from: Scott. on April 09, 2018, 03:54:33 PM
Quote from: MelMel on April 09, 2018, 03:53:12 PM
fuck u Sinny
But have you been reading bitch?
Jameesha gorl :omgwatshappening:
and I've read the first chapter. You know when I pick it up I'm going to run through it like always :loose2when: :loose2when:
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omg please don't attack me
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Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 04:03:27 AM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:50:35 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:49:24 AM
And had I lied and said I was an introvert you guys would have made it a problem too lol
If that's the case, it yet again speaks to an issue with your personality specifically as opposed to extroverts in general.
People act like being an extrovert and being unpopular can?t go together. People cannot stand Donald Trump or Kanye West or Azealia.
Us Gemini gorls are just polarizing, I acknowledge that. Doesn?t mean we can?t be extroverted.
babe i think you?re missing the point
There was never a debate on whether or not you?re an extrovert. they haven?t disputed that
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Quote from: Beau on April 09, 2018, 04:05:36 AM
I definitely am.. once I moved out my parents place n lived on my owns in early 20s though I did challenge myself to not be and live more out my shell cause a part of me didn't wanna Miss out on life or whatever it is...but now almost 30 I definitely Been noticing how I kinda gradually fell back in place back in that shell... I truly love to travel alone, go out alone, n rather be Chillin in my skin comfortably than out somewhere with a crowd.
I will say I have found dating/love life a bit difficult being as introverted as I am ... Because ppl initially will be cool with it but once few years pass or excess months pass they kinda start trying to change what comes so natural to me. But I think a big part of that is because as an introvert I often am attracted or pull to those opposite of me ...only because I like that they take me out my character a bit n I tend to be able to tame them a bit as well.. but at present I realize I am who I am. ?
that makes a lot of sense. I think balance is beautiful
Don?t get me wrong, i absolutely love that balance, and i love eating alone, going to the movies alone and all of that myself. I have and will continue to do so whenever i can.
I hope you don?t beat yourself up for that at all. Anyone that makes you feel like you?re crazy for enjoying those things, just isn?t for you. And that goes for anyone in ur space, not just someone you choose to date. Friends, too.
Dese paragraphs Chile.
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Quote from: Andrais. on April 09, 2018, 08:05:53 AM
Anybody that posts online regularly is.
definitely can?t agree with this at all
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 04:17:57 PM
Quote from: Beau on April 09, 2018, 04:05:36 AM
I definitely am.. once I moved out my parents place n lived on my owns in early 20s though I did challenge myself to not be and live more out my shell cause a part of me didn't wanna Miss out on life or whatever it is...but now almost 30 I definitely Been noticing how I kinda gradually fell back in place back in that shell... I truly love to travel alone, go out alone, n rather be Chillin in my skin comfortably than out somewhere with a crowd.
I will say I have found dating/love life a bit difficult being as introverted as I am ... Because ppl initially will be cool with it but once few years pass or excess months pass they kinda start trying to change what comes so natural to me. But I think a big part of that is because as an introvert I often am attracted or pull to those opposite of me ...only because I like that they take me out my character a bit n I tend to be able to tame them a bit as well.. but at present I realize I am who I am. ?
that makes a lot of sense. I think balance is beautiful
Don?t get me wrong, i absolutely love that balance, and i love eating alone, going to the movies alone and all of that myself. I have and will continue to do so whenever i can.
I hope you don?t beat yourself up for that at all. Anyone that makes you feel like you?re crazy for enjoying those things, just isn?t for you. And that goes for anyone in ur space, not just someone you choose to date. Friends, too.
Rigs :wub:
Quote from: Mary Jane on April 09, 2018, 04:18:54 PM
Dese paragraphs Chile.
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shush
Quote from: Kurama on April 09, 2018, 11:09:23 AM
Quote from: Andrais. on April 09, 2018, 11:01:41 AM
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on April 09, 2018, 10:40:52 AM
Tbh all of society is becoming introverted, in a sense.
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:dead: I don?t really like FB or Twitter, I think that?s why I stayed posting on BSource.
!!!!!
I was walking through the mall the other day and everyone was literally walking around like zombies glued to their phones or fidgeting with their headphones.
People don't know how socialize anymore.
:dead:
true
I feel like social media is a form of extroversion too, depending on how you use it.
!!!!
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 04:20:10 PM
Quote from: Andrais. on April 09, 2018, 08:05:53 AM
Anybody that posts online regularly is.
definitely can?t agree with this at all
yh drais is right :supluv:
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 09, 2018, 11:16:22 AM
I used to think I was, but I think it has more to do with the personalities I'm surrounded by. Its much easier to be sociable with someone I have a genuine (platonic) chemistry with. And the minute I feel negativity or someone being stoic, I usually return the favor.
ooooh yes
Giving someone the same energy they?re giving you will fuck them UP :kii: kinda wakes that ass up
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on April 09, 2018, 11:48:29 AM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 03:33:38 AM
Like, I just get shit DONE. I don?t let anxiety get the best of me. An overachiever if you will! Coming from a working class background it?s essential to be loud.
tbh Mack, it sounds like you?re deflecting or over-stating to hide some type of deficient view you or possibly others in your past have had.
It reminds me of Nene a bit
?I worked for mine! Nobody getting me down! Rich bitch?
Yet was in tears when Xscape pulled the plug on that opportunity.
Ppl have a negative view of reflective or introspective ppl (which you didn?t really answer lol), but there?s old sayings in America, say you have a room full of ppl
The loudest person in the room is silent inside.
The person laughing at/judging everyone else is crying inside.
The reflective person in the room is processing and learning.
The meek/humble person in the room is grateful to be in the room with all 3
Now neither of these 3 denotes how happy a person can be nor am I saying there aren?t exceptions
But I believe this reflects how the universal energies works.
kind, reflective ppl receive good karma in the end
Meek/humble people usually find themselves in some position of power
Loud obnoxious ppl receive the hard knocks in the end (that usually their mouth started), and receive the same treatment they put others too
exp. Nene, Tamar, Tupac, Suge, all high school bullies :dead:
And the ppl laughing or judging end up in the most trying times.
exp. Tamar, Khia, most comedians actually go insane
Wait ... Why?d you go off in here anyways? :dead:
i love when you get serious sometimes
Slay me. Brilliant self
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:19:58 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 03:18:57 PM
Quote from: shanghai. on April 09, 2018, 03:09:09 AM
ndfnfn
I see everyone's POV in here honestly.
All about what you're comfortable with - it's your time and your life. Your space as well.
I went to a lil rooftop party last weekend and honestly had fun. Found myself working the room a bit, hopping from one person to the next chatting it up (friendly convo nothing skank like), etc.
Saw it as a bit of practice - I really am going to have to get used to comfortably networking. It's kinda mandatory for what I'm planning. But I'd much rather work a nice room like that than to be up in a sweaty hot club. It was definitely more in my lane of comfort.
Once I had a margarita or two I was def good to go. :woohoo: Loosened me up just a tad. Just had to be careful not to drink too much. Kept it classy and professional.
But a lot of confidence comes from me taking better care of myself, I believe. My posture is much better (people think I've gotten taller :dead: ), I feel better. It's really important I take care of myself because when you're not doing that, you don't want to get out as much. It's mandatory that I get out a bit. No need to party hard and mess, but I need to be comfortable speaking in front of and presenting myself to people.
!!!!!!! Been there
Go King :blush:
fffffffffffffffff
people say to u "i didnt realize how tall u were ? " :guys:
sdsdsd
posture really makes a difference
brfggghhhh well no they know my ass is tall but i meant taking better care of yourself, and what that does for your level of confidence
Quote from: MARS. on April 09, 2018, 03:54:29 PM
that's definitely not why he called you a sociopath :dead:
yea. I don?t necessarily agree with that malc, but sociopaths lack any sort of empathy and don?t care to acquire it :dead: that?s how you?re coming off in here
I?m not judging you. Just saying that?s what ur posts in this thread are giving
Maybe you?re just trying to spark debate, idk.
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 09, 2018, 11:16:22 AM
I used to think I was, but I think it has more to do with the personalities I'm surrounded by. Its much easier to be sociable with someone I have a genuine (platonic) chemistry with. And the minute I feel negativity or someone being stoic, I usually return the favor.
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Actually this is more me.
When Im comfortable and the girls give a energetic let's have fun mess out I do too and we have some fun, but when they're being energy draining vampires and I do the same thing they can't take.
Like sis, am not here to entertain you. If you're boring me I zone tf out and then people start thinking something is wrong with me. Like no lolz I'm not about to begs you to talk to me wtf.
I can either be the life of the party or sit in the corner to myself and I'm perfectly fine with both, but I feel like it makes people angry sometimes that I can do that, but hey that's not my issue. :letsmessfag:
Quote from: Kurama on April 09, 2018, 04:20:57 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 04:17:57 PM
Quote from: Beau on April 09, 2018, 04:05:36 AM
I definitely am.. once I moved out my parents place n lived on my owns in early 20s though I did challenge myself to not be and live more out my shell cause a part of me didn't wanna Miss out on life or whatever it is...but now almost 30 I definitely Been noticing how I kinda gradually fell back in place back in that shell... I truly love to travel alone, go out alone, n rather be Chillin in my skin comfortably than out somewhere with a crowd.
I will say I have found dating/love life a bit difficult being as introverted as I am ... Because ppl initially will be cool with it but once few years pass or excess months pass they kinda start trying to change what comes so natural to me. But I think a big part of that is because as an introvert I often am attracted or pull to those opposite of me ...only because I like that they take me out my character a bit n I tend to be able to tame them a bit as well.. but at present I realize I am who I am. ?
that makes a lot of sense. I think balance is beautiful
Don?t get me wrong, i absolutely love that balance, and i love eating alone, going to the movies alone and all of that myself. I have and will continue to do so whenever i can.
I hope you don?t beat yourself up for that at all. Anyone that makes you feel like you?re crazy for enjoying those things, just isn?t for you. And that goes for anyone in ur space, not just someone you choose to date. Friends, too.
Rigs :wub:
Quote from: Mary Jane on April 09, 2018, 04:18:54 PM
Dese paragraphs Chile.
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shush
Bre :wub: i love when you pop up
Quote from: MARS. on April 09, 2018, 04:22:30 PM
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 04:20:10 PM
Quote from: Andrais. on April 09, 2018, 08:05:53 AM
Anybody that posts online regularly is.
definitely can?t agree with this at all
yh drais is right :supluv:
ncncnnfnfnffn
Eh. there are exceptions to everything
Generally, I?m sure that?s the case for many. nothing wrong with that
Quote from: MARS. on April 09, 2018, 03:54:29 PM
that's definitely not why he called you a sociopath :dead:
nn
I think what I've learned from being both an introvert and extrovert is that I prefer introverted people, because I actually think introverted people's personalities are the most fun when you get to know them because they spend more time being observant so their creativity levels are out of this world.
It's why I can easily believe Beyonce, Micheal Jackson etc., are introverts because they spend so much time in their heads that when you let them out they have so much vision to chose from.
serious question.
and nobody take this and run with it please.
Mack would you say your personality currently is similar to what it was on German Idol or .... how has it changed?
I'm trying to define, because you did seem like a ball of fun now that I think about it. Is that kinda what you meant, maybe this is all a misunderstanding.
Users were judging people who like to socialize and saying they can?t relate, I?m the opposite. It?s hilarious that it would cause so much backlash that I have a different perspective.
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 04:44:06 PM
Users were judging people who like to socialize and saying they can?t relate, I?m the opposite. It?s hilarious that it would cause so much backlash that I have a different perspective.
no you came in with ignorant labels
Quote from: Shangela on April 09, 2018, 04:39:57 PM
I think what I've learned from being both an introvert and extrovert is that I prefer introverted people, because I actually think introverted people's personalities are the most fun when you get to know them because they spend more time being observant so their creativity levels are out of this world.
It's why I can easily believe Beyonce, Micheal Jackson etc., are introverts because they spend so much time in their heads that when you let them out they have so much vision to chose from.
!!!!!! I don?t wanna speak for Corp? but he and i are super close and i love that about him
He?s comfortable with me so i be SCREAMING all the time at the shit that he says :kii: in person or over the phone. Super creative
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 04:44:06 PM
Users were judging people who like to socialize and saying they can?t relate, I?m the opposite. It?s hilarious that it would cause so much backlash that I have a different perspective.
Malc you?re smarter than that so i know that?s not what you gathered from those posts shdhndnff u just wanted MESS.
Some of the members here were expressing their level of frustration with people that don?t take the time to understand introverted people or people that simply need warming up to their environment before engaging about any and everything. That?s really it and that?s all :dead:
Quote from: MARS. on April 09, 2018, 03:54:29 PM
that's definitely not why he called you a sociopath :dead:
:guys:
Quote from: 1RIG on April 09, 2018, 05:00:04 PM
Quote from: Poseidon on April 09, 2018, 04:44:06 PM
Users were judging people who like to socialize and saying they can?t relate, I?m the opposite. It?s hilarious that it would cause so much backlash that I have a different perspective.
Malc you?re smarter than that
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https://www.instagram.com/p/BctOqUnhWgt/
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she's just a big ball of fun
I consider most of y'all DEMONS, tbqfhwyrn.
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Quote from: shanghai. on April 10, 2018, 12:26:34 AM
Question -
I know we're discussing introvert, extrovert etc
But have any of you actually taken a personality test to give you insight into what you may be?
Sometimes the results can surprise you (if you answer HONESTLY).
I'm an INFJ - which is an Introvert personality.
INFJ are creatives, who are very sensitive, with a very giving personality, and a need to help others. Needless to say (for any of you who even know a bit about me here) it was stunningly accurate.
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
I'd say if you haven't done so, it's worth doing. Less than 12 minutes to do.
s
Last time I took it I got a different personality type than the one I was originally constantly getting.
Your Results
?THE MEDIATOR? (INFP-T)
s
The second tiem in a row I've gotten this omg.
Quote from: china wine. on April 10, 2018, 01:04:56 AM
My mess actually changed the second time I took it - but the first time I took it was years ago.
I think the change of results reflected a change in my way of going about things.
And perhaps knowing a little bit more about myself - enough to really answer honestly.
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Yeah cause this is kinda reading me to a T and is saying stuff that I kinda thought to myself. :plzstop:
Quote from: Shangela on April 10, 2018, 12:58:52 AM
Your Results
?THE MEDIATOR? (INFP-T)
s
The second tiem in a row I've gotten this omg.
I've gotten that too. However, some of the questions were not relevant for my life at all. :dead: Internet tests shouldn't be taken too seriously.
Quote from: SAINT BENTLEY. on April 09, 2018, 10:40:52 AM
Tbh all of society is becoming introverted, in a sense.
(http://cdn.thelisticles.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/facebook-real-party1.jpg)
:dead: I don?t really like FB or Twitter, I think that?s why I stayed posting on BSource.
Hmm I don't think people being attached to their phones nowadays has to do with introversion. Social media sites are more of a distraction.
I mean, in this particular pic, Josh, Ben, Nate and Becky are still hanging out together. :dead:
Quote from: china wine. on April 10, 2018, 12:26:34 AM
Question -
I know we're discussing introvert, extrovert etc
But have any of you actually taken a personality test to give you insight into what you may be?
Sometimes the results can surprise you (if you answer HONESTLY).
I'm an INFJ - which is an Introvert personality.
INFJ are creatives, who are very sensitive, with a very giving personality, and a need to help others. Needless to say (for any of you who even know a bit about me here) it was stunningly accurate.
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
I'd say if you haven't done so, it's worth doing. Less than 12 minutes to do.
!!!!! I?ve done it twice in the last maybe two years, after Bre shared it with the board. I always get ?The Campaigner?
QuoteENFP. One of the Diplomats, the Extraverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving (ENFP) personality type views the world externally and evaluates information based primarily on intuition. A person with an ENFP personality is bright, enthusiastic, warm, and seems to have limitless potential
Quote?CAMPAIGNER?
ENFP (-A/-T)
Enthusiastic, creative and sociable free spirits, who can always find a reason to smile.
I?m gonna take it again tonight and see, but this is still the case in my heart of hearts. Especially in the space I?m in right now, that i pray to stay in and only grow within. Whew, God willing.
Quote from: Palladium on April 08, 2018, 10:35:09 PM
Everybody who regularly posts on here I think is to some extent
this has me howling
i think ppul confuse being an introvert with being shy or standoffish
it really just mean you find joy within yourself and you are self contained
vs ppul that thrive off of external pleasure or needing to be seen or heard (which also does not mean someone is an attention whore or obnoxious)
its just their wiring
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 10, 2018, 04:31:59 AM
Quote from: Palladium on April 08, 2018, 10:35:09 PM
Everybody who regularly posts on here I think is to some extent
this has me howling
i think ppul confuse being an introvert with being shy or standoffish
it really just mean you find joy within yourself and you are self contained
vs ppul that thrive off of external pleasure or needing to be seen or heard (which also does not mean someone is an attention whore or obnoxious)
its just their wiring
great post king
There are extreme cases on both sides, but there are many assumptions in here about both sides as if that?s all there is. It?s not that simple IMO
It?s super nuanced. Humans are complicated creatures lol
I did this thee time and I always get ?The Debater? lol lemme try again and see if I chandelier
Quote from: china wine. on April 10, 2018, 12:26:34 AM
Question -
I know we're discussing introvert, extrovert etc
But have any of you actually taken a personality test to give you insight into what you may be?
Sometimes the results can surprise you (if you answer HONESTLY).
I'm an INFJ - which is an Introvert personality.
INFJ are creatives, who are very sensitive, with a very giving personality, and a need to help others. Needless to say (for any of you who even know a bit about me here) it was stunningly accurate.
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
I'd say if you haven't done so, it's worth doing. Less than 12 minutes to do.
Boy we've already several threads with this mess. ShutAHP
Quote from: china wine. on April 10, 2018, 12:26:34 AM
Question -
I know we're discussing introvert, extrovert etc
But have any of you actually taken a personality test to give you insight into what you may be?
Sometimes the results can surprise you (if you answer HONESTLY).
I'm an INFJ - which is an Introvert personality.
INFJ are creatives, who are very sensitive, with a very giving personality, and a need to help others. Needless to say (for any of you who even know a bit about me here) it was stunningly accurate.
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
I'd say if you haven't done so, it's worth doing. Less than 12 minutes to do.
I'm an INFP