Quote from: that golden boy on November 26, 2018, 10:30:59 PM
The struggle is real for Black women and their hair.
I honestly hear about it a lot.
The conversation usually starts with "Your hair is so nice " or "Your hair is so pretty" or "Your hair is so curly" or the cringe worthy "You got some good hair".
Then it comes out. The insecurities, the fears that they have when it comes to their hair.
Naturally, you want to rush and give a "yeah girl! Trust I have struggles too. We in this together!"
But slowly over time I've just learned to hush and listen.
I'm not constantly told how ugly my hair is - indirectly or directly. People using terms like nappy headed and mess.
I DON'T know how that feels.
That's why I say if I see someone offended about something hair-related
I will let them be offended.
It's also why my tolerance has become SO low when I see someone calling someone out for their "nappy" hair.
I know what these women go through. I cannot sit by and act like it's fucking OK when I see it going down.
Same for all the "darkie" mess.
If I see it going down I am very likely to speak my mind and just deal with whatever the response is.
I don't give a fuck 
yeah I have two sisters who are older than me so they grew up in the 80/90s as teens so they experienced that shit
But since their teen years my mom stopped that and now I have a niece and my sister don't play that shit
She doesn't even have an idea about the idea of being straight haired or being insecure about it
She puts her hair in lil braids and puffs or brushes it out and I'm always so proud of my sister