Ray's thread triggered a thought I've had a few times when I meet folks who have been together for years & years. Open relationships or relationships with "fun" are becoming a lot more visible these days.
A lot of gay men I've come across who have been with someone 1yr + invite other folks into their bedroom or know that there partner slips out sometimes.
That coupled with the way society glorifies "side chicks" and "mains" or the times our granddad step out on grandma and she stayed; Im wondering if being monogamous is becoming outdated??
Is monogamy something you value in relationships?
If you or your partner slip up, is that the end?
Can you be happy with someone who is casually with other folks?
:ohwow: :ohwow: :ohwow: :ohwow: :ohwow:
Yes.
I'm too jealous, it has to be me and me alone.
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I can't do any relationship that isn't monogamous tbh
I feel like anytime you invite someone into your bedroom you open the door for so many issues in ur relationship
It's already hard maintaining a faithful one ... but agreeing to other mess is agreeing to be cheated on imo
Quote from: Whitney Glockston on April 04, 2017, 02:35:04 PM
I can't do any relationship that isn't monogamous tbh
I feel like anytime you invite someone into your bedroom you open the door for so many issues in ur relationship
It's already hard maintaining a faithful one ... but agreeing to other mess is agreeing to be cheated on imo
period.
Yes + I don't need you carrying home diseases from your tricking.
There's just no point to even call it a "relationship" with all the revolving door of people in and out of it. :ummwhat:
of course an open mess can on longer in most cases because well... You're doing the "cheating" in plain sight and its LOL! lmao! How good were they bae? :guys:
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 02:37:41 PM
lmao! How good were they bae? :guys:
dsaffffff
Why did I just yell at this?! :kii:
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 02:37:41 PM
There's just no point to even call it a "relationship" with all the revolving door of people in and out of it. :ummwhat:
of course an open mess can on longer in most cases because well... You're doing the "cheating" in plain sight and its LOL! lmao! How good were they bae? :guys:
dffff
shut up.
Quote from: Whitney Glockston on April 04, 2017, 02:35:04 PM
I feel like anytime you invite someone into your bedroom you open the door for so many issues in ur relationship
What if you both have rules. A stranger in a city you visited, only when each other is involved, always protection etc.?
The idea of an open relationship sounds like fun but I just couldn't.
I've done the juggling of multiple partners before. I'm nearing 30 and want something more inclusive. "Open relationships" seem lazy to me. Like, for people who aren't willing to put in the work and dedication it takes to maintain a long term one-on-one relationship/partnership.
"Free-for-all! LOLz!"
:letsmessfag:
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 02:46:07 PM
"Free-for-all! LOLz!"
:letsmessfag:
zxcvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv
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I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
No, I can't see myself tied down to one person for the rest of my life. I enjoy meeting different individuals with different energies and experience.
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
I've heard this before. My friends who just married had a 3some but they said neither could bottom. What's the significance?
Quote from: Marg. on April 04, 2017, 02:53:24 PM
No, I can't see myself tied down to one person for the rest of my life. I enjoy meeting different individuals with different energies and experience.
Hey Marg :blush:
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
Hmmmy
Threesomes bother me. Sexually I'm like a Lion, I'm very spoiled, alpha and territorial. I just couldn't share my partner with another bottom but at the same time I can do two tops and have sex outside of him.
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with the flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
Marg are you a thot?
Im far too emotional.
Also far too cut and dry for an open relationship.
Either I love you or I don't. If the relationship isn't fulfilling and I am not even willing to put in the work than what is the need of a relationship
Open relationships are weird. lol
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 03:00:38 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
I be thinking about this when it comes to other people tbh. When people who seem like they are perfect for each other or the guy seems like the sweetest and most honest person in the world. But they STILL cheat
(http://i.imgur.com/lEM2FDV.gif)
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 03:00:38 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
That's a question ive been asking myself lately. I think I'd be content tbh. I think it's because I know who I am, Im comfortable with that, and I've found people in life who were comfortable too. As long as you're not giving a perfect catch type of list then I think relationship building can be easier than it seems.
If you have someone who is loyal that is.
Quote from: KippDaddy on April 04, 2017, 03:01:59 PM
If the relationship isn't fulfilling and I am not even willing to put in the work than what is the need of a relationship
:ohwow: :ohwow: :ohwow:
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 02:44:11 PM
Quote from: Whitney Glockston on April 04, 2017, 02:35:04 PM
I feel like anytime you invite someone into your bedroom you open the door for so many issues in ur relationship
What if you both have rules. A stranger in a city you visited, only when each other is involved, always protection etc.?
im sorry there just aren't any rules to cheating :letsmessfag:
And from my personal experience.. someone always ends up catching feelings
I fucked with a few couples before and they always ended up breaking up and the one that was into me the most .. always tries to come my way.. then the jealous further ensues because they feel like they have lost their lover to me..
I Just think it's a terrible environment to create and a can of worms that isn't worth opening.. .. one that I couldn't practice with someone I cherish.
Everyone's appetite is different .. I guarantee someone will step out eventually with one of their new friends or a new friend
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 03:03:12 PM
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 03:00:38 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
I be thinking about this when it comes to other people tbh. When people who seem like they are perfect for each other or the guy seems like the sweetest and most honest person in the world. But they STILL cheat
(http://i.imgur.com/lEM2FDV.gif)
I think the fear of being alone makes the gerls accept and put up with certain mess.
Every relationship isn't meant to last forever.
Quote from: KippDaddy on April 04, 2017, 03:01:59 PM
If the relationship isn't fulfilling and I am not even willing to put in the work than what is the need of a relationship
:everythingok: you are speaking in here it seems
Quote from: Marg. on April 04, 2017, 03:00:14 PM
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
Hmmmy
Threesomes bother me. Sexually I'm like a Lion, I'm very spoiled, alpha and territorial. I just couldn't share my partner with another bottom but at the same time I can do two tops and have sex outside of him.
What's the big deal about who is positioned where, sexually?
sidenote:
Im too honest and transparent to cheat. Before I even get to that point im just going to say how I feel and that this is the end.
Flat OUT.
Monogamy is important to me.
If I'm with you, then I'm with you. Relationships take a lot of work, and being monogamous is part of that.
However, I will say that all gay the couples I know that have been together over 7 years are open. So who knows if my view on that will change one day, but right now the whole open mess isn't for me.
Duh
Boy
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 02:37:41 PM
There's just no point to even call it a "relationship" with all the revolving door of people in and out of it. :ummwhat:
of course an open mess can on longer in most cases because well... You're doing the "cheating" in plain sight and its LOL! lmao! How good were they bae? :guys:
Basically
An open relationship is basically an oxymoron.
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 03:08:53 PM
sidenote:
Im too honest and transparent to cheat. Before I even get to that point im just going to say how I feel and that this is the end.
It pains me to have something in common with you, but YEAH. I usually tell my partners if I find someone else attractive, if I dont feel connected, if Im not happy etc.
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:08:04 PM
Quote from: Marg. on April 04, 2017, 03:00:14 PM
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
Hmmmy
Threesomes bother me. Sexually I'm like a Lion, I'm very spoiled, alpha and territorial. I just couldn't share my partner with another bottom but at the same time I can do two tops and have sex outside of him.
What's the big deal about who is positioned where, sexually?
Well I'm not a top or verse. That's not what I'm into sexually. I might get my dick sucked but I prefer the guys I'm intimate with you be tops.
Quote from: Cartier on April 04, 2017, 02:34:08 PM
Yes.
I'm too jealous, it has to be me and me alone.
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Wade sells his body on connectpal.
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 03:03:12 PM
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 03:00:38 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
I be thinking about this when it comes to other people tbh. When people who seem like they are perfect for each other or the guy seems like the sweetest and most honest person in the world. But they STILL cheat
(http://i.imgur.com/lEM2FDV.gif)
It's crazy
And Snapchat, Instagram, etc. have done nothing but make it harder to maintain monogamy.
I don't have the time to give an Inspector Gadget mess and creeping on your social media to make sure you ain't messin on the side. At the same time I couldn't be Tammy (Waka's gal) or Tiny and let shit fly for so long that it becomes MY NORM.
Quote from: Marg. on April 04, 2017, 03:00:14 PM
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
Hmmmy
Threesomes bother me. Sexually I'm like a Lion, I'm very spoiled, alpha and territorial. I just couldn't share my partner with another bottom but at the same time I can do two tops and have sex outside of him.
c
well alright, Scar
The relationship has to be solid to feel "good" about it.
If your relationship isnt solid than its just side piecing
ppul say gender is a social construct
but i believe monogamy is
we are all meant to love and enjoy one another
if someone is your soulmate enjoying someone else (to spice things up) wont ruin ya
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 03:16:30 PM
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 03:03:12 PM
Quote from: Boomer on April 04, 2017, 03:00:38 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
I be thinking about this when it comes to other people tbh. When people who seem like they are perfect for each other or the guy seems like the sweetest and most honest person in the world. But they STILL cheat
(http://i.imgur.com/lEM2FDV.gif)
It's crazy
And Snapchat, Instagram, etc. have done nothing but make it harder to maintain monogamy.
I don't have the time to give an Inspector Gadget mess and creeping on your social media to make sure you ain't messin on the side. At the same time I couldn't be Tammy (Waka's gal) or Tiny and let shit fly for so long that it becomes MY NORM.
Agreed, what the fuck do ya do?
Extremely. No exceptions
Quote from: MΛΥDΛΥ on April 04, 2017, 03:09:09 PM
Monogamy is important to me.
If I'm with you, then I'm with you. Relationships take a lot of work, and being monogamous is part of that.
However, I will say that all gay the couples I know that have been together over 7 years are open. So who knows if my view on that will change one day, but right now the whole open mess isn't for me.
My ex and I were monogamous(physically) but we started discussing bringing someone else in around the end of the 6th year.
I think its bothersome for the open relationships to sorta be the norm for SGL men. Its completely possible to have longevity without it imo.
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
Agree. The signs are there early on.
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 02:54:15 PM
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
I've heard this before. My friends who just married had a 3some but they said neither could bottom. What's the significance?
I think it's something about letting someone else inside them...getting what should be mine... I'll admit, I haven't fully thought about it but it just always made sense to me
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
Eh, I think threesomes are just a sexual kink for most. Some people can have a sexual relationship with another person and leave any other emotions at the door.
Yeah. And I don't expect anything less from my SO.
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:38:57 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
Eh, I think threesomes are just a sexual kink for most. Some people can have a sexual relationship with another person and leave any other emotions at the door.
I believe the girls that are single can have a threesome, a train an orgy if they want to. Once you choose to be in a relationship it's out of the question.
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
At first I thought the same thing. Social media does give you access to a larger pool of folks, new interactions to monitor, and essentially a new platform that has its own way tempting someone. Your partner definitely is responsible but it's not reasonable to think that having all this access to new/different folks at the touch of a button doesn't affect things.
Quote from: Baphomet. on April 04, 2017, 03:08:53 PM
sidenote:
Im too honest and transparent to cheat. Before I even get to that point im just going to say how I feel and that this is the end.
Flat OUT.
right
like
:letsmessfag:
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
!!!
Tbh
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:41:02 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:38:57 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
Eh, I think threesomes are just a sexual kink for most. Some people can have a sexual relationship with another person and leave any other emotions at the door.
I believe the girls that are single can have a threesome, a train an orgy if they want to. Once you choose to be in a relationship it's out of the question.
yeah
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
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JK sorta
the world will never know
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:41:27 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
At first I thought the same thing. Social media does give you access to a larger pool of folks, new interactions to monitor, and essentially a new platform that has its own way tempting someone. Your partner definitely is responsible but it's not reasonable to think that having all this access to new/different folks at the touch of a button doesn't affect things.
I think it would be ridiculous to think your man won't find other ppl hot or even fantasize about them. But that's exactly where it needs to be and stay.
I don't do the whole going through the phone and social media monitoring...cuz if I even suspect some mess is going on...I'm out.
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:46:48 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
I wish a nigga would....
"Ayo i was wondering we could try an open relationship?"
:everythingok: Da fuq!
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:46:48 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Those old white gay couples are dying from aids/hiv tbh.
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:47:58 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:46:48 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Those old white gay couples are dying from aids/hiv tbh.
Dont start your shit
:ummwhat:
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
That screams insecurity to me :dead:
"WHY DID YOU LIKE HIS PIC? WTF DOES THIS HEART EYE EMOJI MEAN!? :fuming: "
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Not insta rules and DM terms and conditions :kii:
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:47:58 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:46:48 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Those old white gay couples are dying from aids/hiv tbh.
s
the ones that creep around at the bar and try to pick up men together are aids incarnate
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:45:50 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:41:27 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
At first I thought the same thing. Social media does give you access to a larger pool of folks, new interactions to monitor, and essentially a new platform that has its own way tempting someone. Your partner definitely is responsible but it's not reasonable to think that having all this access to new/different folks at the touch of a button doesn't affect things.
I think it would be ridiculous to think your man won't find other ppl hot or even fantasize about them. But that's exactly where it needs to be and stay.
I don't do the whole going through the phone and social media monitoring...cuz if I even suspect some mess is going on...I'm out.
Power to you babe
I think a lot of these relationships rules are rooted in control issues and emotional baggage from previous relationships tbqtfh.
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Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:48:35 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:47:58 PM
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Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Those old white gay couples are dying from aids/hiv tbh.
Dont start your shit
:ummwhat:
Don't you hate white ppl? You should agree
:guys:
Have any of y'all ever cheated?
is it really THAT hard to be faithful. I've never cheated in any of my relationships. :blink:
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:51:08 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:47:58 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:46:48 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Those old white gay couples are dying from aids/hiv tbh.
s
the ones that creep around at the bar and try to pick up men together are aids incarnate
djjkkllllllxxxxxxxxxxxxd
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:52:05 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:48:35 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:47:58 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:46:48 PM
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:44:00 PM
Do y'all know any couples that this has actually worked out for?
A lot of older white gay couples have open relationships.
It's kind of the norm for most.
Those old white gay couples are dying from aids/hiv tbh.
Dont start your shit
:ummwhat:
Don't you hate white ppl? You should agree
:guys:
Well on second thought...
:butwait!:
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:50:30 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Not insta rules and DM terms and conditions :kii:
s
why is that so far fetched tho? :dead:
because it's "online"
I mean continue your normal daily interaction
but look, don't cross the line and disrespect the relationship in person or online
:nowgorl:
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:51:54 PM
I think a lot of these relationships rules are rooted in control issues and emotional baggage from previous relationships tbqtfh.
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Kii. Is this a call out??
I never been cheated on (to my knowledge)
I just can't deal with any mess. I feel if I'm dedicating myself to you...I need the same in return.
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:49:13 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
That screams insecurity to me :dead:
"WHY DID YOU LIKE HIS PIC? WTF DOES THIS HEART EYE EMOJI MEAN!? :fuming: "
dddd
Too dramatic. But if yall dont think a continuous DM mess could flourish into other things later on good damn luck
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:54:30 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:50:30 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Not insta rules and DM terms and conditions :kii:
s
why is that so far fetched tho? :dead:
because it's "online"
I mean continue your normal daily interaction
but look, don't cross the line and disrespect the relationship in person or online
:nowgorl:
I'd rather he jack to his instathots and keep it to himself.
Hell I don't even follow him online...I don't need to see anything he likes.
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:54:30 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:50:30 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Not insta rules and DM terms and conditions :kii:
s
why is that so far fetched tho? :dead:
because it's "online"
Yeah IDK why the impact of cyberspace is still downplayed in 2017.
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:53:04 PM
Have any of y'all ever cheated?
I use to makeout with other folks. I was upfront about that when I started talking to someone. They were cool with it.
I emotionally cheated for a few months, of course I told him.
Never had a full on physical mess. Never will.
Alot of cheating stems from online activity through social media, especially with celebs.
:udontlookok:
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:56:04 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:49:13 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
That screams insecurity to me :dead:
"WHY DID YOU LIKE HIS PIC? WTF DOES THIS HEART EYE EMOJI MEAN!? :fuming: "
dddd
Too dramatic. But if yall dont think a continuous DM mess could flourish into other things later on good damn luck
If you think like that. So could the platonic flirting with a coworker. The sexy guy at the gym or the cute boy at Starbucks. What you gonna do? Hire a private detective to be on him 24/7?
I just feel that if your in a relationship you have an open discussion about what's acceptable to you and hope this person loves you enough to not disrespect you.
Celebs were thotting and bopping before social media...it's just easier for them to find their prey now. :raycharles2urmess:
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:02:43 PM
Celebs were thotting and bopping before social media...it's just easier for them to find their prey now. :raycharles2urmess:
That's the point and exactly why social media IS a threat to relationships.
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:00:49 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:56:04 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:49:13 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
That screams insecurity to me :dead:
"WHY DID YOU LIKE HIS PIC? WTF DOES THIS HEART EYE EMOJI MEAN!? :fuming: "
dddd
Too dramatic. But if yall dont think a continuous DM mess could flourish into other things later on good damn luck
I just feel that if your in a relationship you have an open discussion about what's acceptable to you and hope this person loves you enough to not disrespect you.
I agree. I practice this but I also know that you need to be proactive about your own best interests, regardless of how long you've dated someone or how much they love you.
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:56:59 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:54:30 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:50:30 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Not insta rules and DM terms and conditions :kii:
s
why is that so far fetched tho? :dead:
because it's "online"
I mean continue your normal daily interaction
but look, don't cross the line and disrespect the relationship in person or online
:nowgorl:
I'd rather he jack to his instathots and keep it to himself.
Hell I don't even follow him online...I don't need to see anything he likes.
s
you damns new age gorls and you new age thinking
there's always lines and levels, having relationship guidelines doesn't scream insecurity, it's natural
you even have a guideline, you want him to do it and not tell you :dead:
I mean ... jacking to someone he doesn't know is just like porn. that's not what we mean
but liking and jacking to everything on his new "friends" page is unacceptable
why would I be waiting around allowing him to keep it to himself ... until the day he doesn't keep it to himself? :dead:
Iono why I come in these threads, I always feel like an old bitty. my gen is old school
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Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 04:06:56 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:00:49 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:56:04 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:49:13 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
That screams insecurity to me :dead:
"WHY DID YOU LIKE HIS PIC? WTF DOES THIS HEART EYE EMOJI MEAN!? :fuming: "
dddd
Too dramatic. But if yall dont think a continuous DM mess could flourish into other things later on good damn luck
I just feel that if your in a relationship you have an open discussion about what's acceptable to you and hope this person loves you enough to not disrespect you.
I agree. I practice this but I also know that you need to be proactive about your own best interests, regardless of how long you've dated someone or how much they love you.
Proactive how?
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 03:59:38 PM
Alot of cheating stems from online activity through social media, especially with celebs.
:udontlookok:
and certain DMs always lead to some mess. Ch
A lot of that is flirting and I'd be pissed
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:02:43 PM
Celebs were thotting and bopping before social media...it's just easier for them to find their prey now. :raycharles2urmess:
n
Easier for them to be sloppy and get caught now too
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:08:11 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 04:06:56 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:00:49 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:56:04 PM
Quote from: ANIMMAI on April 04, 2017, 03:49:13 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
That screams insecurity to me :dead:
"WHY DID YOU LIKE HIS PIC? WTF DOES THIS HEART EYE EMOJI MEAN!? :fuming: "
dddd
Too dramatic. But if yall dont think a continuous DM mess could flourish into other things later on good damn luck
I just feel that if your in a relationship you have an open discussion about what's acceptable to you and hope this person loves you enough to not disrespect you.
I agree. I practice this but I also know that you need to be proactive about your own best interests, regardless of how long you've dated someone or how much they love you.
Proactive how?
An inspection, a check-in with your partner, a social media stalk. Whatever floats your boat tbh.
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
!!
I was still getting nudes pics and videos after I made it clear that I was in a relationship. These gays are ruthless 😂
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
Yeah I really can't stand this type of shit. I remember I had a group of friends who would sit around and brag about all the men they fucked that had girlfriends or boyfriends. Then they'd be smiling in the girlfriend/boyfriends face while fuckin their men and kiing about it.
now they're all on social media complaining about being lonely though.
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 04:07:50 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:56:59 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:54:30 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:50:30 PM
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 03:45:42 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
but I do believe temptation exists
and as two men, both of yawl looking at insta booties all day
and ppl don't respect each others relationships anymore
I think if a couple has rules about social media it just shows they really care and don't want future problems, and that could be part of them wanting a strong foundation imo
Not insta rules and DM terms and conditions :kii:
s
why is that so far fetched tho? :dead:
because it's "online"
I mean continue your normal daily interaction
but look, don't cross the line and disrespect the relationship in person or online
:nowgorl:
I'd rather he jack to his instathots and keep it to himself.
Hell I don't even follow him online...I don't need to see anything he likes.
s
you damns new age gorls and you new age thinking
there's always lines and levels, having relationship guidelines doesn't scream insecurity, it's natural
you even have a guideline, you want him to do it and not tell you :dead:
I mean ... jacking to someone he doesn't know is just like porn. that's not what we mean
but liking and jacking to everything on his new "friends" page is unacceptable
why would I be waiting around allowing him to keep it to himself ... until the day he doesn't keep it to himself? :dead:
Iono why I come in these threads, I always feel like an old bitty. my gen is old school
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Maybe what you see as rules is what I see as conversations before getting involved. I make sure he knows before hand what my understanding of dating / a relationship is and that if he ever felt that was no longer for him he could express it. We aren't (nor do I plan on ever get) married, don't have kids, don't share a mortgage. There's literally not one reason for him to ever feel stuck. Besides I think it's silly to blame things like Socia media, the gym, the bar he goes to. A cheater is a cheater period...the environment doesn't create the cheater...the cheater seeks the venue. I refuse to be over here stressing when I know what I'm bringing to the table. If I can resist and block attempts on a daily basis...he should be able to breeze through it just as easily.
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:09:44 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:02:43 PM
Celebs were thotting and bopping before social media...it's just easier for them to find their prey now. :raycharles2urmess:
n
Easier for them to be sloppy and get caught now too
Side pieces are now bolder than ever. Social media is kind of a gift.
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 04:13:56 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
!!
I was still getting nudes pics and videos after I made it clear that I was in a relationship. These gays are ruthless 😂
They're tacky as fck tbh. They think they're on some sort of conquest or some mess. Let's see how many relationships I can destory etc.
Filth
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 04:14:23 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
Yeah I really can't stand this type of shit. I remember I had a group of friends who would sit around and brag about all the men they fucked that had girlfriends or boyfriends. Then they'd be smiling in the girlfriend/boyfriends face while fuckin their men and kiing about it.
now they're all on social media complaining about being lonely though.
I hope you dropped these "friends" cause
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
An option for the unfulfilled
@Sleigh
a cheater is a cheater
I used to think that, but now I think it's a case by case basis
not saying there are valid reasons to cheat, but even honest ppl can get caught up in relationship woes and lash out imo
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 04:21:39 PM
@Sleigh
a cheater is a cheater
I used to think that, but now I think it's a case by case basis
not saying there are valid reasons to cheat, but even honest ppl can get caught up in relationship woes and lash out imo
Not you advocating for a break baby.
Quote from: Drais. on April 04, 2017, 04:17:46 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 04:14:23 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
Yeah I really can't stand this type of shit. I remember I had a group of friends who would sit around and brag about all the men they fucked that had girlfriends or boyfriends. Then they'd be smiling in the girlfriend/boyfriends face while fuckin their men and kiing about it.
now they're all on social media complaining about being lonely though.
I hope you dropped these "friends" cause
Of course I did.
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 04:14:23 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
Yeah I really can't stand this type of shit. I remember I had a group of friends who would sit around and brag about all the men they fucked that had girlfriends or boyfriends. Then they'd be smiling in the girlfriend/boyfriends face while fuckin their men and kiing about it.
now they're all on social media complaining about being lonely though.
yuck :sevynstreeter:
Quote from: ORORO MUNROE-UDAKU on April 04, 2017, 04:21:39 PM
@Sleigh
a cheater is a cheater
I used to think that, but now I think it's a case by case basis
not saying there are valid reasons to cheat, but even honest ppl can get caught up in relationship woes and lash out imo
I kinda get this, in a weird way
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 03:38:56 PM
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 02:54:15 PM
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 02:49:41 PM
I know a couple that lets a third person in their bedroom occasionally. The only caveats are that it has to be someone they don't know, someone they both like, and they both cannot bottom for the person.
Personally, I don't care but if my partner wants to, I wouldn't want him bottoming him for anyone else. I've been in a threesome before though. That was fun but I was more into one of them and the other dude was pissed lol
I've heard this before. My friends who just married had a 3some but they said neither could bottom. What's the significance?
I think it's something about letting someone else inside them...getting what should be mine... I'll admit, I haven't fully thought about it but it just always made sense to me
Whew, almost lashed you.
I hear this a lot. Its interesting.
Quote from: DVDDY. on April 04, 2017, 04:13:56 PM
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
!!
I was still getting nudes pics and videos after I made it clear that I was in a relationship. These gays are ruthless 😂
fdfffffff they thrive off that shit. Scary
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Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 02:55:24 PM
its important to me, but i dont judge anyone that does whatever else if their man agrees to it.
I wish it wasn't important to me tho. I feel like people would be a lot happier
!!!
OMF! Cause it's hard out here trying to find someone who is willing to commit to JUST u.
Sometimes I find myself thinking to myself, "Damn, am I too uptight? Should I just go with flow? :uhh:"
This goes back to that discussion before about being ok with being alone and still being alone at a certain age (40 something) because u haven't found what you're looking for.
I be thinking about this when it comes to other people tbh. When people who seem like they are perfect for each other or the guy seems like the sweetest and most honest person in the world. But they STILL cheat
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It's crazy
And Snapchat, Instagram, etc. have done nothing but make it harder to maintain monogamy.
I don't have the time to give an Inspector Gadget mess and creeping on your social media to make sure you ain't messin on the side. At the same time I couldn't be Tammy (Waka's gal) or Tiny and let shit fly for so long that it becomes MY NORM.
Agreed, what the fuck do ya do?
Occupation? An accounts payable clerk
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 04, 2017, 04:31:59 PM
VERY important. Cheating is a deal breaker. I don't care if it was just once! Because if you do it once you will PROBABLY do it again. And that trust has been broken. Ain't no threesomes and all of that bullshit either. You either want to just be with ME, or you don't.
:calmdownsis:
I like monogamy, I can not get into open relationships. What is the point...just be single.
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 04, 2017, 04:33:33 PM
I really feel like I'll never be in a relationship. Everyone just wants to fuck.
Quote from: Kurama on April 04, 2017, 03:41:27 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:36:54 PM
If social media is a "threat" to you relationship... it's built on a very weak foundation.
Anyone can get cheated on ...I'm not going to act exempt to the mess. But y'all know when you're dealing with a straight up dog.
At first I thought the same thing. Social media does give you access to a larger pool of folks, new interactions to monitor, and essentially a new platform that has its own way tempting someone. Your partner definitely is responsible but it's not reasonable to think that having all this access to new/different folks at the touch of a button doesn't affect things.
Flat the fck OWT!
"Secure in mines!"If u say so :kii:
Quote from: stillpretti. on April 04, 2017, 04:32:17 PM
men just aren't designed for monogamy.
for the ones that feel that way they don't need to enter into a relationship. Stay single and fuck around then.
Life is about choices.
Quote from: stillpretti. on April 04, 2017, 04:32:17 PM
men just aren't designed for monogamy. I think thats something women can do almost effortlessly unless they feel neglected. But I feel that men have to make an EFFORT to simply NOT stick their peen in anything with a hole.
Idk, do biosocial factors outweigh critical thinking though?
Quote from: stillpretti. on April 04, 2017, 04:32:17 PM
men just aren't designed for monogamy.
You're designed for this beatdown though.
Quote from: BigDawg on April 04, 2017, 04:36:02 PM
Quote from: Corporate Cannibal. on April 04, 2017, 04:33:33 PM
I really feel like I'll never be in a relationship. Everyone just wants to fuck.
Eh, I think its normal to feel this way given the state of things. Don't think its necessarily true though.
Quote from: stillpretti. on April 04, 2017, 04:32:17 PM
men just aren't designed for monogamy. I think thats something women can do almost effortlessly unless they feel neglected. But I feel that men have to make an EFFORT to simply NOT stick their peen in anything with a hole.
I don't agree with that. Either someone wants to be in a relationship or fuck everything that moves, but I think it is moreso based on the individual.
Yh
The thought of my other half being with someone else makes me want to vomit, I've had experiences where I thought I could tolerate, but nope.
Yep
fuck off
Quote from: Cartier on April 04, 2017, 02:34:08 PM
Yes.
I'm too jealous, it has to be me and me alone.
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Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:19:00 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
An option for the unfulfilled
same booch and cooch gets old
only mature and solid couples can admit this and mess to FUFILL both of them
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 05:59:26 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:19:00 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
An option for the unfulfilled
same booch and cooch gets old
only mature and solid couples can admit this and mess to FUFILL both of them
not everyone feels like that :kii:
:uhh:
Quote from: GRAND SUPREME MARSHALL on April 04, 2017, 06:00:27 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 05:59:26 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:19:00 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
An option for the unfulfilled
same booch and cooch gets old
only mature and solid couples can admit this and mess to FUFILL both of them
not everyone feels like that :kii:
of course there are deviations
but the only thing usually preventing a step out mess is the notion that only one person should do everything for you
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 05:59:26 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:19:00 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
An option for the unfulfilled
same booch and cooch gets old
only mature and solid couples can admit this and mess to FUFILL both of them
I mean...if your libido is the foundation of your relationship it was doomed to crumble anyway.
Quote from: RIGS on April 04, 2017, 04:00:40 PM
It's sad tho. Some of these men and women see folks in a relationship and just view it as another challenge or some mess :uhh: they'll literally pursue you even harder dffffggg I see it all the time
"Oh he's taken? We'll see about that lolz"
!!!!!! This is why I can't be in a relationship. I'll kill both parties.
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 05:59:26 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 04:19:00 PM
Quote from: TheNextLew on April 04, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
Quote from: Sleigh It Right on April 04, 2017, 03:33:10 PM
No solid relationship require a 3rd party.
Besides it's usually 1 partner that's bored and wants to "openly" cheat and the other that's scared of being alone and goes a long with it.
People lose themselves in relationships and accept all kind of mess. Don't know how they do it.
If you're in a relationship and you both feel like seeing other people, then you both need to be the fuck single.
not a requirement but an option thank you
An option for the unfulfilled
same booch and cooch gets old
only mature and solid couples can admit this and mess to FUFILL both of them
f
We discussed this at my sex club last week.
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Quote from: Blackpantha on April 04, 2017, 06:40:19 PM
We discussed this at my sex club last week.
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