Do you have a bestfriend? What are the dynamics between you two?

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LOONA.

What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

Real

Quote from: GRAND on July 25, 2016, 10:28:15 PM
I understand what Real is saying

If you and someone are truly friends, they'd understand time flies and we just all get busy

I could go weeks w/o talking to my bestie and as soon as we speak again, everything just picks up where it was left off

There are no Ill feelings. I know the dyke is busy with her mans and her job.

Yeah that's how it is and I love that.

I hit up a friend and I haven't talked to in a couple months this weekend and the reply was "oh wow. you remember me"....I didn't respond. I aint got time for that shit  :dead:

FINE.

Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:34:28 PM
What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :dead: :dead:

I thought it was just me

GRAND

Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:34:28 PM
What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

well for me

We've both gotten into our careers and have found significant others. The things I used to share with her, I share with someone else now.

And it's the same for her. Eventually you just have less things to talk about.

Still my girl though.  :traciandchelle:

Real

Quote from: GRAND on July 25, 2016, 10:36:40 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:34:28 PM
What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

well for me

We've both gotten into our careers and have found significant others. The things I used to share with her, I share with someone else now.

And it's the same for her. Eventually you just have less things to talk about.

Still my girl though.  :traciandchelle:

Yeah it's not that unfathomable lol

Vonc2002

Quote from: GRAND on July 25, 2016, 10:36:40 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:34:28 PM
What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

well for me

We've both gotten into our careers and have found significant others. The things I used to share with her, I share with someone else now.

And it's the same for her. Eventually you just have less things to talk about.

Still my girl though.  :traciandchelle:
Yea, its really not that hard for this stuff to happen.
This is my pass to say WHATEVER tf I wanna say about the mess she releases so I don't wanna hear SHIT! Baby mama is a mess of a song btw





b7

Quote from: Don Draper on July 25, 2016, 09:49:55 PM
Quote from: BigDawg on July 24, 2016, 02:16:24 PM
we can go a month without talking...even tho we dont...and pickup like it's nothing.

These are the best friendships to me. I honestly don't have the time or energy to talk to people every single day. And as a grown man, I'm just not gonna sit on the phone and talk frequently. So I appreciate a low maintenance friend like that. My two closest friends are alot different than I am. I actually disliked them both before we became friends  :dead: But because we're so different we've been able to expose each other to different shit and learn from each other.
wooooo!! This >>>>>

b7

Quote from: Don Draper on July 25, 2016, 10:12:01 PM
It's really easy when you both have alot going on. I don't necessarily go months without checking in. But a few weeks can happen easily
!!!! Easily. that ain't even that long

I can't have the friends that use constant contact as way to gauge how much you still care for them. That's too fucking much


Real

Quote from: RIGGY on July 25, 2016, 10:46:31 PM
Quote from: Don Draper on July 25, 2016, 10:12:01 PM
It's really easy when you both have alot going on. I don't necessarily go months without checking in. But a few weeks can happen easily
!!!! Easily. that ain't even that long

I can't have the friends that use constant contact as way to gauge how much you still care for them. That's too fucking much

Makes me cringe tbh. We ain't fuckin, we're friends  :mmyulost:

FINE.

I think it depends on the closeness and each individual's views on friendship in general n

I make time for those who really matter to me. We don't have to have our mouths LATCHED to each other's ballsacks 24/7 but I'm not gonna let weeks/months go by before I reach out to my "best friend"

LOONA.

Quote from: GRAND on July 25, 2016, 10:36:40 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:34:28 PM
What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

well for me

We've both gotten into our careers and have found significant others. The things I used to share with her, I share with someone else now.

And it's the same for her. Eventually you just have less things to talk about.

Still my girl though.  :traciandchelle:

Of course the dynamic of your relationship will change as you get older and life changes but isn't the main thing about having a bestie is being able to talk about stuff you can't with no on else?   

I don't really think I have a "bestie" but I have a certain friend that I share all my tea whether I'm in a relationship or not.

LOONA.

Quote from: FINE. on July 25, 2016, 10:52:27 PM
I think it depends on the closeness and each individual's views on friendship in general n

I make time for those who really matter to me. We don't have to have our mouths LATCHED to each other's ballsacks 24/7 but I'm not gonna let weeks/months go by before I reach out to my "best friend"

Yeah I just take friendships very seriously.

I'm already very closed off and keep most people at a distance so the small chance I do meet someone I can fuck with I'm definitely gonna hold onto you. I'm very loyal and caring and I'm not just gonna leave anybody hanging for a long period of time.

I've seen friendships crumble because people go through a crisis and their "bestie" is MIA thinking everything is fine. Nah, that's not me.   

GRAND

Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:52:45 PM
Quote from: GRAND on July 25, 2016, 10:36:40 PM
Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:34:28 PM
What do y'all consider a bestie cause ffff

IDK it's like the word aint matching up with some of these descriptions and scenarios in here. The only time I've gone months without speaking to someone is if we had some type of fallout. Yeah people get "busy" but honestly if you really wanna make time for someone you can.

If I'm really close to you and you're in my circle like that we're gonna be constantly communicating whether I deem you my bestie or not.

IDK maybe I take the term too literal. Y'all besties just sound like homeboys and homegirls y'all chill with every now and then.     

well for me

We've both gotten into our careers and have found significant others. The things I used to share with her, I share with someone else now.

And it's the same for her. Eventually you just have less things to talk about.

Still my girl though.  :traciandchelle:

Of course the dynamic of your relationship will change as you get older and life changes but isn't the main thing about having a bestie is being able to talk about stuff you can't with no on else?   

I don't really think I have a "bestie" but I have a certain friend that I share all my tea whether I'm in a relationship or not.

no we still share things that I don't tell him

Everyone just has a different view on relationships because I could not talk to this girl for a year and I'd still consider her family at this point.

There isn't a single person on this earth that i trust more.

Real

Now that's the other thing I think that makes for a "best friend" .....even if we haven't spoken in a few weeks, if you hit me up and need something, I'm making it a priority.

FINE.

Quote from: Drais. on July 25, 2016, 10:55:38 PM
Quote from: FINE. on July 25, 2016, 10:52:27 PM
I think it depends on the closeness and each individual's views on friendship in general n

I make time for those who really matter to me. We don't have to have our mouths LATCHED to each other's ballsacks 24/7 but I'm not gonna let weeks/months go by before I reach out to my "best friend"

Yeah I just take friendships very seriously.

I'm already very closed off and keep most people at a distance so the small chance I do meet someone I can fuck with I'm definitely gonna hold onto you. I'm very loyal and caring and I'm not just gonna leave anybody hanging for a long period of time.

I've seen friendships crumble because people go through a crisis and their "bestie" is MIA thinking everything is fine. Nah, that's not me.   

BITCH

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